Comments on: When Introverted Personality Traits Cause Problems for Introverts

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 03:07:44 +0000

Hi Angel,

I’m glad the articles about introverts helped you, and I hope you can soon go to a counselor to help ease your problems!

Remember, not all counselors cost money. Some pastors, preachers, and rabbis counsel people for free. And, there are help lines for people to call and get information about social service organizations. Some women’s organizations offer free counseling as well.

If you have the time, I encourage you to find out about free counseling resouces in your community!

Thanks for commenting, and I hope to see you around Quips and Tips more

Blessings,
Laurie

By: Angel

Angel — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 07:48:46 +0000

Hi Laurie,
your posts made realize that I am having a problem on my introvert trates. I can say that it is already a severe problem because even talking to a person which I don’t know, whether on the phone or in person, I feel nervous. My friends always say that I don’t need to feel nervous but I can’t controll it. I know that I need to talk to counselor regarding with this problem but I can’t at the moment because I’m still unemployed. Thanks again for this good articles.

By: Ravenangel

Ravenangel — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 23:43:08 +0000

…ooops, sorry – I meant “a synonym for hell”

By: Ravenangel

Ravenangel — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 21:58:44 +0000

Hy there! Very intelligent thoughts! The mentioned problems are very familiar for me – being very introverted, I experienced all four of them.
Spending too little time in human company, in my opinion, has lots to do with intraverts gaining energy from inside. If I spend too much time alone, I literally feel “overcharged” and just don’t know what to do with my inner energies.
However, I agree with Georgie: processing the input DOES need time – but I think it would be the topic of another article.
Personal hygiene: oh well, I have to admit I love being clean, _but_ it’s quite exhausting for me that I feel the need to “behave myself” and look elegant when I go out and meet other folks. Nice clothes and makeup… while at home, I feel just awesome, wearing a pair of jeans and some ugly t-shirt. :}
This “unbalanced” feeling may come from the fact that we introverts usually listen “inside”, so we have the chance to notice all our feelings, even the negative ones. Extraverts are usually busy with the happenings of the outside world, so they have less energy for listening to their inside feelings.
Worried family members and friends – yes, methinks this is one of the greatest problems if you are an introvert! Hard to tell what is “normal” – what others consider as a “normal social life” may be a synonym for an extremely intraverted person.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 17:48:41 +0000

Thanks for your thoughts, Georgie. You’re right: people with introverted personality traits aren’t usually found on a stage with a microphone! And if they do get up there, they might need lots of time alone, to re-energize.

I’m definitely an introvert: I feel drained when I spend too much time with people. But, too much time alone can be damaging as well, which is why I wrote this article about introverted personality traits becoming a problem.

By: Georgie

Georgie — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 15:16:55 +0000

In The Introvert Advantage, Dr Marti Olsen Laney says “Introverts are energized by their inner worlds while extroverts are energized by outer worlds. That is, introverts get their energy from themselves – their ideas, emotions and impressions.”

I disagreed with much in Dr. Laney’s book, particularly the above assumption. The energy doesn’t come from our own ideas. Rather, we need to be alone to process the input from the rest of the world.

And we’d rather obtain that input in quiet ways. The ability to analyze a problem in one’s head doesn’t mean that person is preoccupied with his/her own thoughts. The introverts I know are very concerned and caring for other people, solving problems, righting wrongs…..we just don’t usually approach these things from a stage with a microphone.