Comments on: 11 Tips for Fighting Fair in Marriage – Relationship Help

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 21:38:45 +0000

I agree. There needs to be healthy disputes for growth in my mind.

Glad you enjoyed the article. I have stumbled upon their blog like I did yours and have really enjoyed their insights.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:23:16 +0000

Thanks for your comment, Mike.

It’s interesting that some couples believe that NOT fighting in marriage is a sign of a healthy relationship. But, that’s not true…a healthy marriage is one that involves “good” arguments.

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:58:41 +0000

Great post. I find the difficulties and choices made by couples in how they resolve disputes to be fascinating. Learning “how” to fight is an important skill for any couple. I’d love to read more on this topic.

Click my name to read a recent article I particularly enjoyed on couples’ fighting fair.

I’d love to see more like it. Thanks!

By: Laurie PK

Laurie PK — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 14:38:09 +0000

Here’s another reason we need to learn to fight fair in marriage: a good relationship or strong marriage can act as a buffer for those exposed to work-related stress.

“A good marriage reduces the negative effects of work stress on our health. But poor relationships will amplify the negative effects,” say Ann-Christine Andersson Arntén in a new doctoral dissertation from the University of Gothenburg, Sweden.

In her survey, people who felt they had a good relationship experienced better health than those who had a more problematic relationship. Women with a poorly-functioning or unhealthy relationship experienced more anxiety, mental stress and sleeping difficulties than women in good relationships or marriages.

Men who had a mediocre relationship had a higher incidence of depression, anxiety, psychological and somatic stress reactions than men with worse or better relationships.

One explanation can be that people living with a mediocre relationship take more responsibility to improve the relationship, while those with poor relationships just admit it, and don’t feel they can do anything about it.

Source: ScienceDaily, “Partner Relationship as a Buffer Against Stress.” (June 29, 2009)