Comments on: How to Survive Sadness and Depression After Breaking Up http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/ Where inspirational quotations meet practical life tips, and live happily ever after. Fri, 19 Mar 2010 14:06:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Amber http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-9213 Amber Sun, 14 Mar 2010 12:39:57 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-9213 its hard for me to live my life again..i feel as if im not alive..i cant think of anything except him...we broke up in 28 december and now im in the third month but still thinking of him and love him ..im wondering how much time i need to heal?? i was with him for 9 months its hard for me to live my life again..i feel as if im not alive..i cant think of anything except him…we broke up in 28 december and now im in the third month but still thinking of him and love him ..im wondering how much time i need to heal?? i was with him for 9 months

]]> By: augustina http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-9014 augustina Sun, 28 Feb 2010 00:57:47 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-9014 Hi Kristen, it's only been 6 weeks since your breakup! please be patient with yourself. You were with your bf for 5 years and that is a long time. I know it hurts right now. Though everyone is different, I think i'm still coming out of the shock and denial phase of grief. I had a little glimpse of "acceptance" but even that goes up and down. Be extra kind and gentle with yourself as you go through this healing process. Talk to a trusted friend or family member. It's really tough for me too and like you, sometimes i have trouble seeing the light at the end of the tunnel too. I know it's there though for you and for me. Big hugs to you! Augustina Hi Kristen,
it’s only been 6 weeks since your breakup! please be patient with yourself. You were with your bf for 5 years and that is a long time. I know it hurts right now. Though everyone is different, I think i’m still coming out of the shock and denial phase of grief. I had a little glimpse of “acceptance” but even that goes up and down. Be extra kind and gentle with yourself as you go through this healing process. Talk to a trusted friend or family member. It’s really tough for me too and like you, sometimes i have trouble seeing the light at the end of the tunnel too. I know it’s there though for you and for me. Big hugs to you!
Augustina

]]> By: Kristen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-9011 Kristen Sat, 27 Feb 2010 17:28:52 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-9011 Augustina, Your story reminds me of mine. About 6 weeks ago today my boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me. He also just "gave up" and didn't want to work on our issues. After 6 weeks I still feel depressed and wonder when I will start to feel better. I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel yet. Augustina,
Your story reminds me of mine. About 6 weeks ago today my boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me. He also just “gave up” and didn’t want to work on our issues. After 6 weeks I still feel depressed and wonder when I will start to feel better. I just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel yet.

]]> By: Augustina http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-8989 Augustina Thu, 25 Feb 2010 18:36:38 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-8989 Thank-you for this article. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 6 weeks ago. It was a shock as I thought we were for the most part, "happy". He just ran out of steam and did not want to work on our issues anymore. I'm coming to terms with the fact that I had no control over his actions and decision in the matter. I thought he was "the one", but evidently, I wasn't "the one" for him. This is an extremely sad time for me. I'm fortunate in that I have a therapist who i can speak with regularly and as someone who has battled depression in the past, I had to restart my antidepressant medication under the guidance of my doctor. Though I know i will get through this and be okay again, it sure FEELS like this will be an uphill battle. To everyone who has posted about their breakup, my heart goes out to you. Don't give up. We will get better. Thank-you for this article. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 6 weeks ago. It was a shock as I thought we were for the most part, “happy”. He just ran out of steam and did not want to work on our issues anymore. I’m coming to terms with the fact that I had no control over his actions and decision in the matter. I thought he was “the one”, but evidently, I wasn’t “the one” for him. This is an extremely sad time for me. I’m fortunate in that I have a therapist who i can speak with regularly and as someone who has battled depression in the past, I had to restart my antidepressant medication under the guidance of my doctor. Though I know i will get through this and be okay again, it sure FEELS like this will be an uphill battle.

To everyone who has posted about their breakup, my heart goes out to you. Don’t give up. We will get better.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-8974 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Thu, 25 Feb 2010 02:30:11 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-8974 Hi Ashley, I'm so sorry to hear about your break up, and your boyfriend not being ready to get back together. The best, healthiest thing you can do is give him time and space. This definitely isn't the easiest thing to do, but it really is the most important! He needs to figure out what he wants, and it won't help if you're "in his face" or contacting him. I encourage you to focus on creating a happy, healthy life apart from him -- I know it seems like you can't survive the sadness and depression you feel, but you CAN. And, you will. Create a happy life by pursuing the activities that make you feel alive and fulfilled (and you love lots of things in life, not just your ex!). Force yourself to get out there and participate in your own life -- and you will start to feel better. If you can't find the motivation create a happy life, try telling yourself that a happy, fulfilled, healthy woman is someone your partner will want very much, and be very attracted to. He won't want to be with a sad, depressed woman who can't survive a break up. The sooner you can get on with your life, the happier you'll be...and the more attractive you'll be. And you'll soon find that even if you don't get back together with your ex, you will be enjoying your life! Now go out there and make your life fun, meaningful, and healthy. Blessings, Laurie Hi Ashley,

I’m so sorry to hear about your break up, and your boyfriend not being ready to get back together.

The best, healthiest thing you can do is give him time and space. This definitely isn’t the easiest thing to do, but it really is the most important! He needs to figure out what he wants, and it won’t help if you’re “in his face” or contacting him.

I encourage you to focus on creating a happy, healthy life apart from him — I know it seems like you can’t survive the sadness and depression you feel, but you CAN. And, you will. Create a happy life by pursuing the activities that make you feel alive and fulfilled (and you love lots of things in life, not just your ex!). Force yourself to get out there and participate in your own life — and you will start to feel better.

If you can’t find the motivation create a happy life, try telling yourself that a happy, fulfilled, healthy woman is someone your partner will want very much, and be very attracted to. He won’t want to be with a sad, depressed woman who can’t survive a break up. The sooner you can get on with your life, the happier you’ll be…and the more attractive you’ll be. And you’ll soon find that even if you don’t get back together with your ex, you will be enjoying your life!

Now go out there and make your life fun, meaningful, and healthy.

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: ashley http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-8891 ashley Fri, 19 Feb 2010 13:47:12 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-8891 hi, i just went through a breakup and i still love my partner very much. i cant sleep or eat and all i want to do its call him. he lives across the world and we were going to live together in 2 months in the same place. i thought he felt the same way i do but when i saw him he said he was not ready, it was a huge shock what should i do? hi,
i just went through a breakup and i still love my partner very much. i cant sleep or eat and all i want to do its call him. he lives across the world and we were going to live together in 2 months in the same place. i thought he felt the same way i do but when i saw him he said he was not ready, it was a huge shock
what should i do?

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-8811 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sun, 14 Feb 2010 03:30:42 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-8811 Dear Leann, I'm so sorry about your separation, and encourage you to talk to a counselor or therapist. Sometimes the sadness and depression after breaking up is unbearable, and we need external support and guidance. If you like, I'll post links to articles about getting over a relationship breakup. You may not be ready to date anyone else -- and that's not necessarily part of surviving a breakup! But, you may need ideas for healing and preparing to move on...and I can give you some help here. I wish you all the best as you heal from this heartbreak. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Blessings, Laurie Dear Leann,

I’m so sorry about your separation, and encourage you to talk to a counselor or therapist. Sometimes the sadness and depression after breaking up is unbearable, and we need external support and guidance.

If you like, I’ll post links to articles about getting over a relationship breakup. You may not be ready to date anyone else — and that’s not necessarily part of surviving a breakup! But, you may need ideas for healing and preparing to move on…and I can give you some help here.

I wish you all the best as you heal from this heartbreak. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: Leann http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-8760 Leann Fri, 12 Feb 2010 02:34:39 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-8760 recently separated and like Dina, have been married almost 28 years. together for 33..........doesn't know what he wants anymore, but does know not me. I am totally devastated and feel like i can't get through this........The pain is just unbearable, and can't even think about anyone else ever...........never thought this would ever ever happen. recently separated and like Dina, have been married almost 28 years. together for 33……….doesn’t know what he wants anymore, but does know not me. I am totally devastated and feel like i can’t get through this……..The pain is just unbearable, and can’t even think about anyone else ever………..never thought this would ever ever happen.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-8737 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Wed, 10 Feb 2010 03:51:38 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-8737 Dear Dina, I'm so sorry to hear that your relationship of 26 years has come to the point of emotional separation...that's very difficult to deal with. You've been with him for half your life, and just adjusting to a new life without him won't be easy. If you need links to articles about surviving divorce and separation, please let me know. I can post them here...and if you'd like to share your feelings or emotions, please feel free! Sometimes just writing how you feel and what you think, either online or in a private journal, can help you survive feelings of sadness and depression after breaking up. I hope you're doing okay...please come back anytime. I'd love to hear from you. Blessing, Laurie Dear Dina,

I’m so sorry to hear that your relationship of 26 years has come to the point of emotional separation…that’s very difficult to deal with. You’ve been with him for half your life, and just adjusting to a new life without him won’t be easy.

If you need links to articles about surviving divorce and separation, please let me know. I can post them here…and if you’d like to share your feelings or emotions, please feel free! Sometimes just writing how you feel and what you think, either online or in a private journal, can help you survive feelings of sadness and depression after breaking up.

I hope you’re doing okay…please come back anytime. I’d love to hear from you.

Blessing,
Laurie

]]> By: dina http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/quipstipsachievinggoals/love-relationships/how-to-survive-sadness-depression-after-breaking-up/comment-page-1/#comment-8709 dina Mon, 08 Feb 2010 01:57:40 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=3051#comment-8709 I'm going through emotional separation. It's so hard. He has been very clear about his feelings...i have to learn to get on with my life without him. I'm 52, with him 26 years. it's hard. I’m going through emotional separation. It’s so hard. He has been very clear about his feelings…i have to learn to get on with my life without him. I’m 52, with him 26 years. it’s hard.

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