How to Break Up With Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
Ending a relationship isn’t easy, even if you’re unhappy in love. These tips for breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend will help you say it’s over with less pain and awkwardness (but breaking up really is hard to do, no matter how many quips and tips you’re armed with!).
Before the tips, a quip:
“Giving up doesn’t always mean you’re weak; sometimes it means you’re strong enough to let go.” – Unknown
Breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend could be one of the healthiest things you ever do – and your newfound freedom may help you set and achieve new goals in your life! For more info on ending relationships, click on Dump ‘Em: How to Break Up with Anyone from Your Best Friend to Your Hairdresser
How to Break Up With Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
If you’re not sure if you should break up with you boyfriend or girlfriend, you might find 7 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship helpful.
1. Break up in person. I know it’s “ugh”, but your boyfriend or girlfriend deserves a face-to-face good-bye, and maybe even a discussion regarding why your relationship is ending. Don’t use email or voicemail messages (or Twitter or Facebook, God forbid) when you’re breaking up, even if you’ve only been together a few weeks or months.
2. Choose the “least worst” time and place. Some of the worst times to end relationships: right after family funerals, on New Year’s Eve, at ballgames, and just before birthdays. When you’re figuring out how to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you’ll never find the best time and place – but you can choose the least worst ones. Choose a place that’s private, and allows the other person to react without embarrassment.
3. Practice. Before you meet, rehearse the most important things you want to say when you break up - but don’t give a “canned” performance. Say something like, “I’m sorry to say this, but I just don’t see us going forward together. You deserve to be in a wonderful relationship, but I don’t think I’m the one.”
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Please click 8 Tips for Ending a Relationship to continue reading.
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If a past breakup was a mistake and you want to get back together with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, you might find The Magic of Making Up helpful.
And if you have any tips for how to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend – or questions about ending a relationship, please share below…
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Comment by Davika on 4 March 2010:
it is very hard for me to dump my boyfriend i am confused please help me do it without him to notice.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 7 March 2010:
Hi Davika,
I’m not sure you can break up with your boyfriend without him noticing…and I’m not sure I understand what you mean by that! I think that if you want to break up with him, you need to face up to it and be honest with him. And, the sooner you have “the talk”, the better…because anticipation is often worse than the event itself.
Read the full article on how to break up with your boyfriend, and rehearse what you’ll say and do in your head…and let me know how it goes!
Blessings,
Laurie