How to be a Good Husband – Make Your Wife Happy
Husbands, it’s easier than you think to make your wife happy and be a good husband! Marriage therapist and author Richard Webb offers four ways to be a good husband; so, men, listen up. The more your wife feels loved and cherished, the more love you’ll receive in return — and the happier your marriage will be.
“One of the things I love most about being The Relationship Specialist is that I get to empower marriages,” says Webb. “I particularly love to teach men how to be their best so that their women totally adore them. Most husbands fall into the good or poor categories. They aren’t very happy with themselves and their wives don’t like them very much either. Great husbands are few and far between.”
For info on becoming a “better than good” husband, click on How to be an Even Greater Husband by Tobias Jungreis. And, read on for Webb’s tips on how to be a good husband….
How to be a Good Husband — Make Your Wife Happy
Good husbands have happier marriages, and enjoy a richer, deeper life. Here are five tips for a happy marriage from Webb…
1. Listen to your wife’s feelings. You might not understand or agree with her, and that’s okay. Just listen. Most husbands argue or get frustrated when their wives share feelings, and this does not make marriages happy. A good husband conveys unconditional support to his wife and makes her feel safe to share all parts of herself. A wife who can freely express herself will feel special and loved — and you will make your marriage happy! If you need a refresher on communicating in marriage, read 10 Tips for Talking to Your Spouse.
2. Spend time with your wife. To be a good husband, ensure your actions clearly show that your wife is your greatest priority. She needs to know she is special. You can still enjoy your sports, television, hunting or fishing — but if your wife doesn’t know she comes first in your life, then she may resent your other pursuits. Another way to be a good husband is to learn meaningful ways to say “I love you.”
3. Be your wife’s champion. Your wife needs to feel your strength and security. “I’m here for you” is what you want her to know. To make your marriage happy, don’t let her be in charge all of the time. And, don’t let your message of powerful, unconditional love be weakened based on her moods or behavior. Good husbands stand by their wives no matter what – but they also stand up for themselves. To learn how to resolve conflict in marriage, read 11 Tips for Fighting Fair in Marriage.
4. Tell your wife that she’s beautiful. Good husbands let their wives know that they only have eyes for her. You dilute the strength of your marriage when you look at other women. How will your wife feel safe — and like she’s in a happy marriage — if she feels threatened? To be a good husband, devote yourself to her.
Being a good husband takes effort, but the rewards are enormous! When you’re uncertain or frustrated in your marriage, ask, ”What would a Good Husband do?” This question will help you keep your direction and commitment.
Do you have questions or thoughts on being a good husband and making your marriage happy? Please comment below.
Mark Webb is a Licensed Marriage Therapist and author of How To Be A Great Partner
Comment by Anthony D. Lee on 13 June 2009:
Thank you for all your advice. I’ll make sure that what I have read today will not be ignored -and neither will my wife.
Comment by Reen on 14 June 2009:
Totally…
Comment by Laurie PK on 14 June 2009:
How about asking your wife how to be a great husband? The answer may be different for every woman. For instance, I’m not big on going out for expensive meals or getting flowers or chocolates….but a man who does this might be a great husband in another woman’s eye!
So, husbands, ask your wives what she thinks a great husband would say and do. You might be surprised — it might be as simple as cleaning up after yourself at home (she is NOT your maid) or calling her during the day to see how she’s doing.
Comment by brit h on 24 January 2010:
all this is well and good but what if after you dont all this being a good husband your still treated like your the pet dog is that the time to find an more apropreate woman?
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 27 January 2010:
Hi Brit,
I’m sorry to hear that your wife treats you badly, even when you’re trying to be a good husband! I can’t tell you if it’s time to stop trying to make your marriage happy, and try to find another woman…but I think that if you’ve been in an unhappy relationship for a long time, and you’re sincerely doing everything you can to make it better, then maybe you do need to consider leaving the relationship.
Have you tried talking to a couples counselor or marriage therapist? He or she may be able to give you valuable insights into why your wife isn’t happy, and how you can connect with her.
And, have you asked your wife why she treats you so badly? Her reasons for being unhappy may help you decide if you can build a healthy marriage, or if you should let her go…
Blessings,
Laurie