Comments on: 9 Tips for Coping With Stalkers

By: yssebelle

yssebelle — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 13:15:05 +0000

girls below the age of 18 shouldn’t date a guy over 20, unless he doesn’t show narcisisitic behaviour, such as drug abuse in young men, druggies tend to become abusive and specialy those who’ve been abused themselves. I was 17 wen i discovered my bf at the time was stalking me, al the signs of sudden break ins were there. I saw him jumping over my wall. Stalking Is not a joke, the dark fear that comes with it is destructive, never mind the stalker. Never try and fight back, this only makes you look stupid especialy when he makes you a fool in front of everyone but denies his own sick fantasy that you had to endure. In the end he gets away, but you leave broken and destroyed. Get the law involved. Stalkers have no feeling for his victims, he just can’t handle the fact that his ‘feel good supply’ wants him out of her life.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 02:22:28 +0000

This is great advice for coping with stalkers — thank you!

And remember that documenting a stalker’s attempts to contact or disrupt your life can include text messages, emails, phone messages, and human witnesses. Even keeping a journal or diary can be an effective tip for coping with stalkers, because it provides a running account of contact.

If you’re coping with a stalker, please contact the police, a lawyer, or legal aid. Don’t ignore the attempts to harrass you — the sooner you take action, the better!

By: Light

Light — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 21:55:58 +0000

In order to convince anyone of anything, legal or otherwise, is a simple situation of documentation. Documentation is the save all in a stalking situation. Documentation can very quickly turn the tables on someone who is stalking you. Documentation always holds up in court. Documentation is factual by nature. If you are a victim of stalking, get a video camera and/or a microphone. Documentation is the most aggressive form of self-defense. Documentation can procure reparations in the form of monetary reimbursement in the court of law due to the illegal, criminal, felonious actions perpetrated by a stalking criminal.

By: Laurie PK

Laurie PK — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 23:24:29 +0000

Thanks for your comment, Jerry. Coping with stalkers is scary stuff, and I’m glad this list offers accurate info!

By: Jerry Pera

Jerry Pera — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 17:11:08 +0000

As a private investigator, I must say that this list is right on the money.

If you know of anyone in the State of Idaho, USA, who is dealing with a stalker (or a third party), my investigations firm can help gather the evidence needed to obtain a restraining order, harrassment charge, and any other relevent legal proceedings.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 14:20:56 +0000

Cattie,

It sounds like you’re in a very scary situation – especially being in a foreign country! The most effective way to convince his employer that he’s as abusive and threatening as he is, is to show them evidence. That is, if they heard or saw his threats, they’d be convinced pretty fast that he’s a potential stalker and abusive, too. But, that may be hard to do.

If I were you, I’d take the return tickets home! As hard as it would be, I’d find a new way to earn money at home….because personal safety is far more important than living in fear.

Can your employer or some other supportive network (even your country’ Embassy) help you out? You need to talk to someone where you are, to get protection and a plan of action.

Good luck, Cattie. And don’t let it get too late, like it did for Jaye above.

Best wishes, and feel free to write again,
Laurie

By: Cattie

Cattie — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 19:59:35 +0000

Give me tips on how to expose my ex- cruel actions before I go insane. My self esteem is sometimes very low with hopelessness every time he stirs my peace. Hardly 10days go by before an absurd thing is centre staged between us ( manufactured orchestrated by him ; Im always on the reeiving end}.

By: Cattie

Cattie — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 19:53:47 +0000

Im separated and both of us living in same foreign country.My spouse has been very distractive manipulative and self absorbed.His threats to me of destroying me leave me scared of returning home of which is a less secure country.He brags to my relatives how he knows powerful agents and is influencing in status. Some believed his side of story but after continued drama,they think he is sick and dangerous .His employer loks the other way/hands off even when it is obvious he is stalking or abusing me emotionally. He tried all means to defame me , denied all abuse and planned to send me back to my country by convincing and processing my return tickets thru his employer.I refused to thru my attorney and the host State immigration retained me here due to my security and I got no other livelihood back home.
Question is, can he really hire somebody to murder me with a 100$ as he used to scream at me ? I miss home but I dare not risk.
Other Qst: His employer dos not think of him otherwise and they have been very unsupportive or trying to save face for the company. How do I convince them that my ex is sicker than he portrays himself in public?