Should I Put My Dog to Sleep?
These guidelines will help you know if it’s tme to put your dog (or cat) to sleep. These tips are from Dr Marie Haynes, a veterinarian and Just Answer Vet Expert who had to put her own dog to sleep. Here, she helps pet owners decide if it’s time to say good-bye to their dog or cat, and shares her story of putting her dog to sleep.
“If you can save your dog or cat even one day of discomfort, you must,” says Dr Haynes.
That’s the number one criteria for deciding if you should put your dog or cat to sleep: if suggering is involved. For help dealing with pet loss, click on When Your Pet Dies: A Guide to Mourning, Remembering, and Healing. And, read on for some guidelines that will help you decide if it’s time to say good-bey to your dog or cat to sleep…
Knowing When It’s Time to Put Your Dog to Sleep
It’s often difficult to tell whether a dog is in pain or suffering, says Dr Haynes, but there are some general guidelines:
- Is your dog’s appetite suffering? If so, this is often a sign of pain.
- Does it seem like your dog is enjoying life?
- Does your dog still do the things that bring her joy?
- Are you enjoying having your dog around — or is there more pain than happiness?
- Does your dog seem happy more often than not?
- Or, do you find that your dog looks distressed or uncomfortable most of the time?
Pet owners often want to be told what to do about putting their dog or cat to sleep, but it has to be the pet owner’s decision. The vet only sees a snapshot of the pet’s life while the pet owner has the big perspective. “I see a scared, sick animal in the hospital,” says Dr Haynes. “I don’t see a pet owner’s beloved dog or cat.”
There are two schools of thought on when it is time to put a dog or cat to sleep. The first: there will come a day when it is absolutely clear to you that your dog or cat is not enjoying life. The second: that day is one day too late. If you can save your pet even one day of discomfort, you must.
“You have taken care of your dog or cat all its life,” says Dr Haynes. “This is your final chance to take care of your pet. If you can spare your dog or cat pain and suffering, then putting it to sleep is the ultimate gift, no matter how hard it is for you.”
You have a choice whether to stay with your dog if you decide to put her to sleep. When deciding if you should put your dog or cat to sleep, remember that the procedure is generally painless. Putting a pet to sleep goes smoothly the vast majority of the time.
To help with feelings of guilt, read 4 Ways to Deal With Guilty Feelings After Pet Loss.
You might also find Coping With the Loss of Your Dog or Cat helpful as you mourn the loss of your pet.
How Dr Hayne Decided to Put Her Dog to Sleep
“My shepherd/cattle dog cross, Eddie, had a multitude of problems and I couldn’t decide if it was time for euthanasia. Then, one day he tore his cruciate ligament. He had already previously torn the ligament on the other knee and although it was healed he had severe arthritis in that knee. With both knees injured, Eddie was unable to walk. My decision to put my dog to sleep was finally made for me.
I went to my office and collected the supplies I needed for euthanasia. Eddie was such a good boy as I shaved his front leg and placed the needle in his vein. I will never forget the look of love and trust he gave me as I made the injection. Then, the life just went out of him and he was gone. Once he had passed away, his buddy Joey (my other dog) came in the room but he did not seem to care about or comprehend what was happening. Then, my two cats came in and I swear they suddenly had a look of glee in their eyes as Eddie was very much a cat tormentor!”
If you have any questions or thoughts on if you should put your dog or cat to sleep, please comment below. You might also find Tips for Coping When Your Dog Dies, or Tips for Coping When Your Cat Dies helpful.
Dr Marie Haynes is a JustAnswer Veterinarian Expert.
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Comment by Jen on 9 August 2009:
I have a 5 year old bull dog who no longer gets up when I come into the house. He can’t navigate my new landscaping ( he has glocoma and has had 2 eye surgeries) and so, he’s peeing on my couches and going # 2 all over my kitchen. I have two small children and he has stepped on the baby several times because he hasn’t seen her. He also runs into walls and has taken some bad falls outside because he can’t seen where he is going. I’m so torn. Do you think it’s time to put him to sleep?
On the flip side, he does eat and drink and sometimes will still play outside ( as long as I’m there to give him commands) Please give me some thoughts! I don’t know what to do!
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 10 August 2009:
Hi Jen,
I’m sorry about your dog — what a tough decision to make!
Honestly, I’d put the health and wellness of my kids above the dog. I feel bad because I LOVE animals and still mourn my dog’s death from over 20 years ago, but…if your dog is peeing and defecating in the house, then I think he might be better off elsewhere — especially since you have small kids! I don’t know if they can get diseases from the stuff that comes out of dogs, but it can’t be good. And you can’t always be there to clean it up before the kids stumble onto it.
It’d be awfully hard to find him a new home; not many people would take a pet who comes with potty problems! I’d call the vet and the nearest animal shelter, and ask if they have any suggestions for a new home…or if they recommend putting your dog to sleep.
I know how guilty you must feel. This is a hard, heart-breaking decision. But, sometimes you have to put other priorities or needs above your pet’s….and it seems like this is one of those times.
I wish you all the best. Also — I’ve sent a message to Dr Haynes (the vet who shared her experience of putting her dog to sleep above). She might have some other words of wisdom for you, since she’s a vet with personal experience with pet euthanasia.
Take care,
Laurie
Comment by Dr. Loretta Potts on 10 August 2009:
I understand how difficult this can be for you and your family. This guy has been your best friend for many years. He has stumbled onto hard times and I know this breaks your heart.
I want you to consider a couple things. One is that your old friend needs and deserves a good quality of life. It appears to me that he does not have this. He may eat and drink but he has lost that luster in his face that you know so well. The other thing to consider is the safety of your family. It sounds as if he is putting your little ones in danger through no fault of his own. It would be terrible for you if one of your children were inadvertently hurt.
I cannot make this horrible decision for you but you have to take your family’s interest first and their safety. Also, you have to think of your old friends well being first. Because of his blindness, he may hurt himself. He is now just existing and, unless you can still feel that happy glimmer in his face, his quality of life has diminished to a point that the best thing for all concerned is to alleviate his suffering.
Again, this is your decision and I know, after careful consideration, you will do the best thing for your old friend.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, and your old friend!!
Dr Loretta Potts
JustAnswer Pet Care Veterinarian
Comment by Georgette Ohala on 17 August 2009:
I need help. I have had my dog austin(full blooded syberian husky) for severall years now, he is almost 9years old. He use to be full of life and have a healthy appetite. Well he gets bad ear infections and we have treated him for them at least 3 times now. Well he has another ear infection and it is really bad. No matter how many times we take him to the vet and give him meds they keep comming back and he is in a lot of pain. Now he will not eat it takes him 2 weeks to finish one bowl of dog food, and he does not like to go outside anymore and also he can not hold his bowels anymore. I am considering putting him to sleep just dont know if it is the right decision. I am afraid it will hurt him. I dont want him to suffer more then he already is.
Comment by Dr. Loretta Potts on 17 August 2009:
Georgette,
I am so sorry for the what has happened to your precious Austin. I know how difficult this can be and I would like to help you through this very tough situation.
The thing I want you to think about is the quality of life that Austin has now. He is in pain and obviously not happy. It is not fair to him if there is nothing else that can be done for him, to have him suffer. He is your best friend and I know how much you love him. If he has lost that luster in his eyes and his zest for life that you have seen for many years, his quality of life is not good.
Be kind to your old friend and do the right thing for him. The euthanasia process is very humane. We give a tranquilizer and then an injection that literally puts him to sleep. There is no pain and this is the kindest thing you can do for Austin.
I just want you to think about these things I have said. This is your decision and I cannot make this decision for you. Only you can decide when the time is right. I know you love Austin very much and I know you will do the best for your old friend!!
If you have any other questions, I can be reached through justanswer.com and ask for Dr. Loretta.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and your precious Austin!!!
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 17 August 2009:
I’m sorry about your dog, Georgette. It’s so sad — deciding to put your dog to sleep is such a hard decision.
But, he might be in more pain alive than if he could pass over into his next life…he’ll just fall asleep and stay sleeping.
I wish you all the best,
Laurie
Comment by Vicki Drillick on 17 August 2009:
I have a 16 year old yorkie, Roxy.
The problems that she had over the years are exasperated due to her old age. She has a collapsed trachia, degenerative disk disease, chronic kidney problems, 100% incontinent and she is losing her vision and hearing. Last night, she had a hard time catching her breath and she tried to get up but fell on her back and could not turn over. She was distressed. My husband picked her up and she fell down. He carried her to the living room to get water and she sneezed about 40 times and was shaking her head. My husband stayed up and watched her until she fell asleep. She slept most of the day but seems okay now. She is walking better but there are times she walks so slow and almost looks likes she is limping with her head bobbling up and down (that’s new). She often walks around the house like she is confused. When I put her in the grass, she will sometimes go, but she often looks up at the sky dazed. I wonder if she has doggie dementia? The question is that I do not know if she is suffering and if she is not, and is just old, I don’t want to assasinate her and have to live with that. She eats more on some days than others, today, not so much. My vet of 12 years is no longer practicing and I have used the same animal hospital, but different doctors so I have not bonded with a new vet since my old vet left. I don’t know who to talk to about this and I certainly don’t want Roxy to suffer and I know her problems will only get worse but I don’t want to put her down before her time is up. What do you suggest?
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 18 August 2009:
Hi Vicki,
I’m sorry to hear about Roxy — that’s very sad. I encourage you to read Dr Potts’ responses to the other dog lovers who are faced with the same decision…sometimes it’s just time to let go. It’s the hardest thing ever, but it may be the right thing.
And, I encourage you not to think of it as “assassination”! Putting your dog to sleep isn’t cruel or violent. In fact, letting her go may be the last and most loving act you do for Roxy. She’s old, tired, and not living the same happy life she’s had for 16 years.
Sometimes we hold on to our pets for longer than we should, for our own reasons….not what’s best for our pets.
I also suggest taking her to a new vet, regardless of your bond with him or her, and asking about doggy dementia (yes, their brains can definitely be affected by old age and disease!).
And remember that a good, long age span of a Yorkie is 10-15 years. She’s outlived most of her peers!
I wish you all the best as you make this decision.
Laurie
Comment by Mary Kay Moser on 25 August 2009:
I have two male cats, 14 & 15 years old. They both are slightly incontinent and very rarely use the litter box even though I clean it out every day. Sam is blind in one eye and was rescued from a drug house and still has flashbacks from drugs he was given. They are getting grouchy and sometimes will bite or try to scratch anyone within reach. I have three small grandchildren who visit quite frequently and I am afraid one of them will be bitten/scratched. I love the cats but I feel its time. Any comments??
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 26 August 2009:
Hi Mary Kay,
I’m sorry to hear about your cats….it’s such a hard decision to make.
Though I can’t tell you if it’s best to put them down, I do see that their quality of life isn’t as good as it once was. It doesn’t seem like they’re happy more often than not, or that they’re enjoying their lives.
And of course, you have to put your grandchildren’s safety and well-being at the top of the list! It’s important that they don’t suffer harm from animals when they’re young, because that could make them afraid of dogs and cats.
As you said, it may be time to let them go. This will be the last act of love, kindness, and compassion you give them, to just let them drift off to their next world. And, you may even be there as they fall asleep, to send them off…
I wish you all the best with your cats. May it be a peaceful, calm ending — whether it’s now, or in a few months’ time.
If you’d like to let me know how it goes or what you decide, I’m here for you! As well, it might help other readers to see what you decided and how you feel.
Best wishes,
Laurie
Comment by Cheryll on 14 September 2009:
I hope this helps anyone that is wondering if they should put their pet to sleep or not.
Rocky was my faithful friend for almost 12 years. My husband & I live out in the country and he was a dump dog. A little black puppy left out in the cold on a February day by our mailbox. He stayed and played and was very well welcomed.
This January he was diagnosed with diabetes. Yes, I gladly gave him the shots he needed twice a day, but the diabetes eventually took his eyesight away and he went blind. He became afraid of roaming and stayed under the bushes in the yard till I came home. He wouldn’t even go look for the water dish because he was afraid he would get lost. Me too. I tried putting the water bowl by the bushes but he wouldn’t use.
Not being used to blindness he would whole heartedly run into my car, the trees and everything else, causing a small bare spot on his nose and a “yelp” from him. He ended up just standing in the yard waiting for my voice to tell him it was OK to come to me. I knew he wouldn’t make it through the winter so I thought for his best he should go to sleep before he got ran over, possibly paralyzed and in a lot of pain or worse.
I made the appointment, cried, paid the day ahead of time, cried. Two hours before I was to take Rocky to the vet we drove around together. I talked to him, he didn’t speak much but seemed to love it. He hung his head out the window and took in all the smells he could. I cried.
He was the very last appointment of the day. Rocky was nervous. He always was when we went to the vet. We put him on the table. The vet was very helpful, she told me what was going to happen. Rocky was going to get a shot, and it would be like having an overdose of anestesia and he would go into a deep sleep,
then everything would slowly shut down and he would pass away. She gave him a little tranquilizer to calm him. We talked to him, told him he was a good boy, massaged him, tried to make him feel not so nervous. He did calm down.
I asked the vet’s helper if she ever had to do this. She said, ” both of my dogs”. We cried together. They shaved one of his legs. The vet gave him the shot, he immediately went into a deep sleep. The vet monitered his heart with a stethoscope. I petted him, cried and told him how much I loved him. His fur was so soft and warm.
After a few minutes, I think it was five but seemed like forever, the vet softly told me “he’s gone”. The vet carried him out to my car. Her helper & I cried. I thanked them for their kindness. My husband dug Rocky’s grave that evening. He cried.
The guilt I feel for doing this to my friend & companion still haunts me and I see his grave everyday, in our yard.
I hope the guilt goes away. I received a very nice card from the vet clinic yesterday. Everyone signed it. I cried.
The crying goes on and I miss Rocky very much but I do not regret putting Rocky to sleep. His future would have been very scary. For him and for me. I highly recommend being there with your loved one when they go to sleep. You know they would be there for you.
I want to thank everyone at the Vet Clinic. The kindness and thoughtfullness they showed me was overwhelming.
If you are confused or wondering if you need to put your pet to sleep keep searching and reading. Someone will have the right answer for you.
God Bless
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 15 September 2009:
Hi Cheryll,
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with Rocky. What a beautiful, heartbreaking story — I’m so sorry you had to put him to sleep. Your vet clinic sounds very caring and compassionate.
I know your story will help other people who are struggling with the decision to put their dog or cat to sleep. It’s sad. As pet owners, we very often struggle with guilt over our decision — but we have to remember that letting go and saying good-bye for good is often the best decision we can make for our beloved dog or cat.
When I think of pet loss, I’m always reminded of the phrase “with deep love comes deep pain.”
Take care, and my heart goes out to you,
Laurie
Comment by brandymac on 19 September 2009:
I have a 12 year old cogi named Little girl has been fir a couple years of looking like she has artheritis but just thursday it’s saturday she starting waliking funny and falling and yelping when she moves she is eating and drinking but the pain is terrible i can c her pain in her beauitful face.I wanna take her to vet and run every test she needs but my husband is laid off and if i pay more than a little i cant pay my morgage I have 3 boys who adore her…..how do i put her to sleep without trying harder?????? i dont want her to be this misrible….any advice—–I wish a vet could tell me there advice without wanting to do 300 hundred buck worth of tests i need reasurance.
Comment by brandymac on 19 September 2009:
oh i did say reasurance not insurance… i am so upset!!!!!!!!
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 20 September 2009:
Hi Brandymac,
I’m so sorry about your situation — and about Little Girl. Seeing your beloved dog in pain is so difficult, especially when you can’t afford to pay for treatment. And, treatments may help your dog in the short-term, but perhaps not for long.
In the article above, the vet says that one of the ways to decide if you should put your dog to sleep is if she’s in pain…and it sounds like Little Girl is.
Perhaps if you take her to the vet, he or she won’t want to run expensive tests. It is possible that the vet can help you decide what to do without expensive diagnostics….but I know that even a vet visit can cost a fair amount of money.
I’m sorry — I wish I could help. I suggest you take Little Girl to the vet, explain your financial problems, and see what he or she says. Maybe there’s a payment plan or something, which won’t require you to pay alot of money right now — but still get health care for your dog.
Best wishes, let me know how it goes,
Laurie
Comment by brandymac on 20 September 2009:
thank you… i kinda knew thaT I HAD 2 TAKE HER 2 VET AND I KNEW I CUOLD NOT JUST PUT HER TO SLEEP WITHOUT CHECKIN BUT THE EXTRA EXPENSE IS REALLY HARD RIGHT NOW I AM UPSET THAT THE LAST THING MY HUSBAND HAS OF HIS MOM IS NOW PAWNED. WHO DOES THAT?? BUT WE LOVE HER DEARLY! my husband had to pawn his mom’s ring his mom died whan he was 7 YRS, OLD to pay to take her to vet first thing monday i will let u know how it goes.
Comment by brandymac on 20 September 2009:
I DIDNT EVEN HAVE THE OFFICE VISIT LET ALONE ANY OTHER THING THEY WANTED TO DO. I SCRAPED UP THE MONEY FOR FRONT LINE A COUPLE OF WEEKS AGO. I AM NOT SURE ANY ONE KNOWS HOW IT FEELS TO GO FROM 22 AN HOUR TO 300 A WEEK WITH 3 KIDS. MY HUSBAND IS DEPRESSED HE DOES CONSRTUCTION AND WE LIVE IN TENNESEE NOT MUCH GOING ON FOR NEW CONSTRUCTION IN COMMERIAL HOPE IT PICKS UP VERY SOON CAUSE WE FEEL HELPLESS FOR OUR BELOVED DOG. I HOPE THE MONEY FROM THE RING IS ENOUGH.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 21 September 2009:
I’m sorry you’re going through this, Brandymac. I don’t know what to say, other than my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Such a difficult decision, especially when you don’t have the means to pay for vet health care. My heart goes out to you.
Comment by brandymac on 29 September 2009:
well i didnt give up and she lookks better i still havent took my beautiful girl to vet but she’s much much better i think it was her back as soon as possible i will take her. i love her so much. but this did make me c she want be here forever…. i feel terrible i couldnt take her to vet cuz i wouldnt let my children hurt but the er has to see them not girl. thank u all for your thoughts and prayers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!OXOXOXO
Comment by Nancy on 20 October 2009:
I had to put or 15 yr. old lab to sleep yesterday. The Vet was wonderful and thoroughly explained everything to me about the process. The first step being the injection of a sedative and then the 2nd one being the actual euthenasia shot to stop the heart.
However, it ended up that our dog quickly went after the first sedative shot was given. The vet said he had never seen this happen in his 18 yrs. of practice. Is this because his heart was so sick that is all it took to stop it or that the sedative was to strong? He went peacefully but I was surprised at how it happened.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 22 October 2009:
Nancy,
I’m sorry that you had to put your dog to sleep…it’s hard, isn’t it? Especially after 15 years.
I’m glad your vet was so good about it. I don’t know why your dog went so quickly, but I’d take it as a sign that you did the right thing. I don’t think the sedative would be too strong; after 18 years, your vet probably knows how much to administer.
Maybe your dog — and his heart — was simply ready to go. It was time. I’m glad he went peacefully.
I hope you’re doing well, and aren’t finding it too lonely at home now. Homes sure do change after pet loss.
Best wishes,
Laurie
Comment by Lily on 26 October 2009:
I think I may have to have my dog put to sleep. She is 9 and has been suffering from arthritus for a few years now, she has been on constant medication since I adopted her two years ago and is much healther than she was when I collected her from the kennels, however she has started to leave no.2’s in the house regularly due to the arthritus along her spine apparently. I am now expecting my first child and do not feel I can cope with the presents she leaves around the house any longer. I feel terrible at the thought of having to consider this option but due to the fact she is in pain from the arthritus, has numerous lumps over her body (vet has checked these but they do not look pretty) and that she has developed some form of incontinence I do not think that she should go back to a animal rescue center, she has suffered enough. My vet is reluctant to consider the option of putting her down, but financially I cannot afford to keep trying different medications and ideas that the vet suggests, I feel that there is a time when you really have to start to think about how all these things are affecting the animal on the inside and consider the option that in the long run is going to cause the least pain. I need to find the courage and belief that I am doing the right thing.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 28 October 2009:
Dear Lily,
I’m sorry to hear about your dog. My friend was in the exact same position with the “presents” all over the house and a baby who was crawling around. Her dog was was half blind and but not suffering too much…it was a very difficult decision, but my friend did decide to put her down.
I think you need to follow your gut, which is telling you it’s time to let your dog go. It’s not healthy or safe to have dog presents around, and you’ll soon be consumed with a brand new baby! I understand your veterinarian’s reluctance — my local vet is VERY pro-life and people have to practically beg him to put their animals to sleep — but you need to put your own needs first.
Remember the vet’s advice in the above article: veterinarians only see a snapshot of the pet’s life, so they can’t make the same informed decision you can. You know your dog’s life, you know your own lifestyle, and you’ll know in your heart when it’s time to put your dog to sleep.
This doesn’t mean it won’t hurt awful bad…it’ll still be heartbreaking to say good-bye. Even when you know it’s the right thing to do, it’s still a sad, difficult decision.
I hope this helps a little, and that you find the courage you need to do what you think is right for your family and your dog.
Take care — and let me know how it goes.
Laurie
Comment by brandymac on 28 October 2009:
my dog is getting bad a gain they gave her prednizone and aint working she looks a little better…. i dont wanna be selfish i think i will know when its time. don’t yall????I knda wanna wait and c she fooled me b4. hope i can tell and want let her suffer. Brandy
Comment by Kim on 30 October 2009:
I have two 12 year old pugs with diabetes who I’ve been treating with insulin shots for almost two years. Their health has been deteroraiting. One is blind, the other almost blind. Their skin has become full of sores, some infected, and no matter what we treat them with they cannot seem to heal fast enough. I had my first baby 3 months ago, and I feel the dogs, are creating unsanitary conditions in our house. Especially because one of the dogs eats its own poop – I cannot even imagine him licking my baby. On occassion they drink excessive amounts of water and urinate all over themselves in their bed. They’re constantly itching their sores, making them seem miserable. They’re from the same litter with equally diminshed quality of life. They just don’t get the attention they once did because the demands of caring for a newborn. It’s breaking my heart to have to make the call to have to put them down. I’ve never had to do that before with a dog, as mine all died naturally. I’ve been through so much with these two dogs, Jake and Elwood – the Blues Brothers, I feel I’m mourning an era of my life.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 2 November 2009:
Hi Brandy,
I think you’ll know when it’s time to put her down…you’ll see that she’s not eating, or is sleeping too much, or seems depressed or listless. It’s good that you’re thinking about whether you’re being selfish by keeping her with you! That shows that you’re a loving pet owner, and that you want what’s best for her.
How is she now?
And, Kim, welcome to Quips & Tips! I’m sorry that your pugs’ health is deteriorating. You ARE mourning an era of your life by saying good-bye to Jake and Elwood. They’ve been with you a long time, and have been very happy with you. Let me know how it goes with them…it’s such a hard decision, to put your dogs to sleep and say good-bye.
Best wishes to both of you…you’re not alone!
Laurie
Comment by Luvmylab on 5 November 2009:
Hi there
I have a black lag named Angus…she is about 12 years old…was recently diagones with acute leukemia…this waas about 2 months ago…
She now refuses to eat or drink…..ANYTHING. She wont go outside (she really cant anyways…too weak)
I made chicken and rice, beef and noddles, hot dogs, and even tried cheese and turkey…she wont eat or drink anything now… its been 3 days…she is very weak, restless, and sometimes when I am with her fixing her a new bed, she will do her best to get to her feet and she will come and stand beside me…
I dont know what she is trying to tell me….
I keep her in her area of about 8 x 10 and have a gate so she cant wander and hurt herself by falling down the basement, or hide under the bed…
I go home from work, make sure she is okay, get a clean bed for her, clean her up (she pees a tad), and try to get her on the bed the best I can with minimal movement. then I lay down on the floor next to her and hug her and stoke her head and chest….I take quietly to her,she takes her paw and wraps them around my arm that is hugging her….
I try to stay with her until she is sleeping comfortable again…however there are times when I get up,, she will struggle to her feet and stand beside me….she just stands there…
sometimes she will nip at me when I try to move her, not sure if she is in pain…
She seems very restless at times, seems like she is stuggeling to get comfortable.
I dont know if she is in pain….has anyone had there dying dog do this to them…just stand beside them….????
At times i think I should have her put down..them at times it seems like she doesnt want to leave me…..My heart is very heavy…..HELP!
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 6 November 2009:
Hi Luvmylab,
I’m sorry that Angus is doing so poorly right now. There’s no doubt that she doesn’t want to leave you — she loves you very much, and she’s loyal ’til the end.
Whether she wants to leave you or not is secondary to the quality of life she’s having now. I can’t tell you if you should put your dog to sleep, but I think you might want to take her to the vet, or at least talk to the vet.
If Angus is suffering, not eating, unable to move well by herself….then it might be time to let go. If she’s not enjoying her life, it’s difficult to justify prolonging her life. Letting her go might be the final, most loving thing you could do for her.
I’m so sorry for you and her. It’s one of the most difficult things in the world, to say good-bye to our beloved animal.
Please talk to the vet, and let me know how it goes. Maybe there’s something Angus can take to make her feel better? It might be worth checking into.
Laurie
Comment by Luvmylab on 6 November 2009:
Hi Laurie,,thanks so much for the sound advice.
At this point I cant lift her without hurting her.. I am trying to find someone that will come to the house.
Comment by Jennifer on 16 November 2009:
I have a 14 year old lab/beagle/terrier mix. She still can get up the stairs into the house. She still eats, still let me know when she needs to go out, she still plays. The problem is that her legs are getting shakey and weak. When she needs to the bathroom she does let us know she has to go outside about 75% of the time. The other 25% of the time is our 2 year old English Lab who tells us when the 14 year old needs to go out. It’s amazing. Anyway, when she goes out to have a bowel movement, she starts pooping as she walking down the stairs or in the walkway. I don’t think she realizes she’s doing this and she doesn’t seem to be able to control it. My fiance keeps telling me to put her down. I don’t want her to suffer. But I’m not sure I should just because she’s old. The way I look at it is, I wouldn’t put my mother in a nursing home just because she has arthritis or can’t control her bladder. I’d greatly appreciate any thoughts. I hate to see her suffer, but would hate to put her down if she’s still functional.
Comment by amanda bonner on 18 November 2009:
my beutiful girl inka out german shepherd dog, a loyal sensitive and the most gradhious and caring dog you could ever meet, was put to sleep yesterday, she had been going down hill for a few months as she was just comming up to her 13th birthday, but the last 3 days were so uncomftable for her, he leggs were tripping themselves over as she was a very large german shepherd she would fall harder than was fair to her, she jutst would look at me with her eyes as if to say mum it hurts but i was selfish and hoped the next few hours she would improove but yesterday she was moaning with a loud but deep grumble each time she mooved, the guilt and phisicle and mental pain that im suffering over this less than 24 hours after her passing is tairing me appart, she trusted me unjugmentaly and i feel i have let her down and she should still be here at my side as she had been since 7 weeks old, your post is inspiring, but the pain for myself and girls (teenagers) who all grew up with inka as a sister, mum, freind, matriach, and loyal loyal soulmate, is so raw and painfull i can not compriehend life without her right now, but one thing may help somwhat is she will come back end of the week as were having her cremated and her ashes will come home,(witch are going with me when i leave this world one day) but above and beyond everything she has marked our herts with love and humanity if that makes sence, she will live onn within our herts and souls, R.I.P M y darling girl.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 18 November 2009:
Hi Jennifer,
That IS amazing that your English Lab tells you when your older Lab mix has to go out! Animals are just incredible, I love them so much. If I wasn’t a writer, I’d be a vet
Have you asked — and answered — the vet’s questions above? That is, if she’s not suffering and if she’s still enjoying her life, then it might be too early to put her down.
That said, I think I’m with you on this one: if her only problem is that she can’t hold her poop and her legs are old and tired, then I’d hesitate to put her down. She sounds healthy, just elderly…
I suggest calling your vet and perhaps even taking your Lab mix in for a physical. And, ask what you can do about the bathroom breaks — it might help to take her out to go number two even when she doesn’t have to.
I hope this helps, and I hope you and your dogs (and fiance!) have several more happy, healthy years together.
Laurie
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 18 November 2009:
Amanda,
Thank you for writing in about Inka…I’m very sorry for your loss. Saying good-bye to a beloved pet is one of the most difficult things we’ll ever do, I think.
My condolences,
Laurie
Comment by Robert on 10 December 2009:
I put my cocker spaniel to sleep this week. This was a very hard decision I had to make. For the last 3 weeks I had to feed my dog Maggie soft food. She had dificulty swallowing, she was diagnosed with cancer in the salivary gland and possibly in the lungs. She did not seem to be in pain; she just could not eat or drink.I was feeding her very small chunks of soft meat by hand. On that dreadful day that I put her to sleep, she was breathing heavily. My vet advised me that it was time to let her go. I do not know if I acted too hastily. Can you help me with the pain I have in my heart?
Comment by Laurie PK on 11 December 2009:
Dear Robert,
I’m so sorry you had to put your dog to sleep…that’s such a difficult thing to live through.
You may feel like you acted too hastily because you miss her and love her so much! But, if the vet — your dog’s DOCTOR — advised putting her down, then I think you can rest assured you did the right thing.
And, since she wasn’t eating or drinking, her quality of life would not be good. Prologing her life would just prolong her suffering. You don’t want her to suffer…but you do wish she was here with you.
I think your grief that you lost Maggie is complicated by guilt that you may have let her go too early. I’ve written two articles on dealing with guilt after you put your pet to sleep; here’s the link to one of them:
4 Ways to Deal With Guilty Feelings After Your Pet Dies
The pain in your heart WILL go away…but it takes time to heal. It may never go away completely; I know I still mourn the loss of my past, passed pets! But, hearts heal and fond memories remain…and we learn to live with the love we had and lost.
Let yourself grieve and mourn your pet loss. You could do that by writing down all your memories of Maggie, pulling together a small photo album, or setting up a small “place of memory” in your yard or home (where she slept, perhaps). It’s important to grieve your pain for a little while.
Then, eventually, you’ll feel better! Your heart will feel lighter, and you may even start thinking about getting a new companion.
I hope this helps a little, and encourage you to read the articles about dealing with guilt.
In sympathy,
Laurie
Comment by Alizabeth on 27 December 2009:
I’m trying to decide if its time to say good bye to my little girl, a 12 year old Standar Schnauzer Mix, Scruffy. She still has a bottomless tummy,
but she dosent realy play anymore. She mainly sleeps, I expected this, she is getting older. However she just dosent seem to have even a glimmer of the spark she once had.
She messes in the house offten. Half the time she cant seem to make it to the door, and the rest of the time see seems to be just as surprised at her mess as I am. Almost like she dosent realize she is doing it untill its to late. Tonight she went to lay on the couch, but then pottyed.
She shivers alot, even when its warm in the house. She has trouble going up and down the stairs to the yard. If she goes out at night we have to go outside with her or she gets lost.
She dosent seem to hear very well, she dosent respond to my husband or myself much; and her eye sight seems to be going, if she dose hear soemthing she dosent seem to know where its comming from.
The messes my husband and I can handle, she is our baby after all. We have already decided to tear out the carpet and put in flooring so all we have to do is mop if she has an accedent. But are we doing this for us or for her? Is she trying to tell me its time to let her go? I just cant decide, I dont want to decide. But I know I have too.
Writing this, part of me feels I know the answer, but the other part screams that maybe I’m wrong. I wont beable to take it back. Her and I have been through alot of hard years together, but she was always there for me. To site in my lap and just love me….
Another thing I worrie about is Deisle, our 7year old Sheperd Mix, how will tis effect him, if we say good bye to our little girl? She is his only friend.
Comment by Anna on 28 December 2009:
I have to put my 16 year old cat Alex down possibly later today if I can get an appointment with my vet. He was diagnosed with a mouth tumor about a year and a half ago which is very big right now. The doctors cannot remove it as it is a part of his tongue. I love Al so much and this is going to be so hard for me but I know I have to do this – he has no quality of life left all he does is sleep, drink, eat and stare at the ground. He’s started to bleed from his mouth and although he uses the litter box sometimes, its almost a full time job cleaning up after him, he pees on my couch, he goes number 2 I just can’t have him living like this – I want him to die with a little dignity – I feel like I owe him that – Ohhhh, I really don’t want to do this!!!
Comment by Anna on 28 December 2009:
I forgot to mention his kidneys are shutting down, all he is is skin and bones with a water belly.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 28 December 2009:
Anna,
I understand how heartbreaking it is to put your cat to sleep…but as hard as it is for you, you have to remember that his life isn’t good anymore. He needs to let go of this world, to move on. He’s ready to leave — his poor kitty cat body has had enough.
You’re giving him one last final act of love, by putting him to sleep. It hurts so much, you’ll feel like your heart is breaking, and you’ll cry for a long time…but eventually you’ll remember him with love and happy memories. You’ll feel alot less heartache, and alot more love and happiness.
I hope everything goes well when you say your final good-byes…and I welcome you to come back and let me know how it went.
And — remember Al will be so much happier where he’s going! He’ll be watching you and his last earthly home with love and fondness.
Blessings,
Laurie
Comment by Anna on 28 December 2009:
Thank you for your kind words about Al. He’s being put down tomorrow…because I could not get an earlier appointment. I have one more day with him….I believe he’s ready to go – he keeps staring at me like he knows whats about to happen – its really strange – its almost like he’s trying to tell me its okay – he’s ready to go now – I’m so sad about this but there’s no other option -
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 29 December 2009:
Dear Alizabeth,
I’m sorry about Scruffy…and I think the part of you that thinks maybe it’s not time to put her down is the part that wants her to be with you forever! That’s totally normal — it’s part of being a loving pet owner. It’s the hardest part of loving our animals.
It’s a difficult decision to make because you have to use your heart and your head. You have to put your own emotions and love aside to objectively look at your dog and decide if it’s time to say good-bye for good…and trust that you’re making the best decision for her as you can.
I encourage you to talk to your vet. He or she may help you make the right decision with as few doubts as possible. Also, if you think Scruffy’s quality of life is low, then you may need to put your own feelings of loss and sorrow aside and seriously consider putting her to sleep….it may be the best thing for her and, ultimately, for you.
Wishing you all the best — and sympathizing with you deeply,
Laurie
Comment by John on 31 December 2009:
Hello,
I have a 10 year old beagle who suffers from horrible seizures. He has had them almost all of his life and has been medicated for it. Now that his liver is going bad from the medication, the doctor has decided it’s time to stop medicating. With the medication he could have seizures several times a week. I can not imagine how bad its going to get when he runs out. Knowing, this I suggested putting him down, but the vet refused and said I need to take him to a neurologist. There is no way I can afford that. What am I supposed to do when my dog has hour long seizures, can no longer take the medication, and his vet will not put him down?
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 1 January 2010:
John, I’m so sorry to hear about your beagle. It sounds like his quality of life is definitely declining, and he won’t enjoy life if he’s having seizures all the time!
I know a vet exactly like yours: he is so pro-life, he guilts pet owners into spending tons of money and stretching out their pets’ lives for as long as possible. Is it worth it to spend thousands of dollars and put everyone through extra pain and suffering for a few extra weeks or months of life for a dog or cat? Not to me…but each PET OWNER must make his or her own decision.
If I were you, I’d take my dog to another vet. Explain the situation, and ask for a second opinion. Tell him or her how difficult the “Should I put my dog to sleep?” decision is for you — I have no doubt he or she will understand. Most vets listen to the pet owners very carefully, and try to do what’s best for the dog.
I hope this helps — let me know how it goes!
Blessings,
Laurie
Comment by John on 2 January 2010:
Laurie,
Thank you so much for your input. The seizures are so horrible for him, and heartbreaking to watch. There is nothing you can do about it. thanks again
Comment by Bruce on 2 January 2010:
John,
Sorry you are faced with difficult decisions here. I had a beagle from the time I was five until I was twenty. He was a great dog! Everyone in the community who hunted rabbits always wanted to hunt with him, and he never disappointed them! If we ever wanted to call him, all that was needed was to fire a shotgun and he’d come running and baying all the way. he had a great life except at the end, he developed tumors that plagued him. He slept a lot and had “nightmares” would kick, and whimper. We reluctantly decided that he wasn’t having fun anymore, so we ended his life. That was tough to do, but it was the right thing for me, my brothers, my Dad, my grandfather, and all the hunters who also loved this fine animal. I think it was also right for him.
That was 26 years ago, and as you can see, I still have very fond memories of my first pet.
I don’t know if there might be an alternative treatment for the seizures your pet endures, but if the answer is no, I’d ask yourself if you honestly believe your pet is enjoying life. When you know what you believe on this point, your path forward will likely clear up.
No matter what, you’re in my thoughts and prayers.
Comment by Sheri on 3 January 2010:
My 16 year old Border collie started to poop in the house. I thought it might of been an isolated event. Then noticed he also urinated and pooped several days in a row. I know he is old, and can’t hear very well. Yet at times he seems just like a puppy happy to see us.
I am struggling is it really time to put him down? He sparks to life and seems young but the loss of his bowels and urination tells another story.
I don’t think he would do well in diapers. And its too cold to leave him outdoors. If it was during better season I would just leave him outside longer. My husband doesn’t believe in extraordinary measures for a pet.
As of today, we are looking into it. I feel horrible…this is our pet…and he has been wonderful to us.
I wish The good Lord would take him in his sleep…
I will call our vet tomorrow, to discus our options. Its not healthy to allow a dog to use your home as a bathroom either….especially when you have children.
Comment by Krista on 4 January 2010:
Our very active lab/pit mix has torn the ACL in her knee. The sugery she needs is over $3000 (which we can’t afford). This will fix her IF she is able to rest for 8-12 weeks (which is impossible). We have a 7 yr old daughter, a young and active yorkie mix, and two cats. This is not to mention all the deer, bunnies, birds, and wildlife that she chases non stop. I know in my heart that she will not be able to recover from the surgery because this is not a quiet house to rest in. She is throwing up the pain medicine and getting worse with pain. When is it time to consider putting her down….or should I try other medicine? Is it fair for her to live on pain medicine? I need some advice please : (.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 5 January 2010:
Dear Krista,
I’m very sorry to hear about your lab/pit mix, and that you have this incredibly difficult decision to make. It sounds like most factors point to letting her go (the surgery is so expensive, the pain medications aren’t staying down, the recovery time might not be effective to help her heal).
I know you love her so much and want her with you as long as possible. Your love for her definitely makes the decision more difficult!
Ten years ago, I was in a similar boat with my cat: a bike or something crushed her hind leg, and it would cost over $1,000 to remove it. I decided to put her down instead of going through with the surgery, for all sorts of reasons. I don’t regret it, but still feel sad that she’s gone after all these years.
I can’t tell you if you should put her down. Some people spend everything they have to extend their pet’s life as long as possible, while others (more practical ones, like me!) don’t go that route. Some people think living on pain medication is fine, while others try more natural options. I don’t think one person can make a “one size fits all” decision about stuff like this.
The way I see it, you have several options to think about. You could ask a different vet for a second opinion on the ACL tear. You could take her to a more holistic vet, who focuses on natural paths to healing. Your dog’s pain may not allow for this; it’s just something to consider.
My best advice is to sit down with your husband and go through the pros and cons of surgery versus putting her to sleep. Your feelings of love, pain, and heartache will make the decision more difficult…but I encourage you to make and stick with the decision that seems most right to you, that you feel in your gut is the best way to go.
And, remember your dog’s quality of life at all stages of the surgery. If it doesn’t heal properly, she may be worse off than she is now…and getting an active dog to heal isn’t easy! If you go this route, you might consider asking a friend with a quiet house to look after her, or put her in a kennel for the recovery period.
I’m sorry I don’t have any easy answers for you, and wish you all the best in this. Let me know how it goes.
Blessings,
Laurie
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 5 January 2010:
Sheri,
How did the visit with the vet go? Are you struggling to decide if you should put your dog to sleep, or is it a clear cut decision?
Sometimes the decision is “easy” — still very painful and sad to lose your pet, but clear because his quality of life is suffering. And, as you said, families can’t live in houses that have doggy messes in them!
I hope all is well.
Laurie
Comment by Liz on 9 January 2010:
I have a 15 1/2 year old Bichon. He has been a wonderful faithful family pet to my three now grown daughters. He had a great holiday season with them all home since they mostly sat around and he could sleep beside them.
He spends most days sleeping or pacing. He is almost completely blind and deaf. Having lost those senses makes him afraid of everything around him. I have to be careful just reaching down to pet him because jumps back in fear of what is coming at him. He has for well over a year had bowel movements in the house, about 5 times a week and I don’t think he even knows, they just kind of slip out. He recently has started peeing, again not all the time but maybe twice a week that I know of (we have dark carpet so it does not show you have to step in it barefoot)
His body is covered with sores from warts that he has had for years but he chews them and makes them larger and bleeding. I used to be able to treat them and use an Elizabethan collar to give them time to heal but at this point I just have to let him be because he just freaks out if you even try to groom him. So he smells a bit like decaying flesh.
He suffers from separation anxiety terribly!! He follows me from room to room. If I am busy in that room he will fall asleep, when he wakes he runs around the house until he finds me. When I leave the house I have a younger dog I have to crate him with. I tried crating him alone once and he made his paws bloody trying to dig out.
He is the oldest of 3 dogs. He used to be the pack leader. Now both dogs have gone after him. I especially have a hard time with my min pin but I pay careful attention so my older dog is not hurt. Honestly at this point he is becoming a chore.
My biggest problem is I am going away for two weeks. I have very good boarding but it is not home. I know my Bichon will have a very hard time and the kennel will not be able to be attentive to his needs and he will be very scared.
I know he does not have much more time. I know it’s getting close to time to put him to sleep. The messing in the house, his sores, his blindness and deafness, his own inner constant anxiety those are all reasons. If I were not going away I would wait a bit longer and hope one day he would simple not wake up. But I am going away and I feel like boarding him will be the worse thing for him.
So, my question…am I being selfish considering putting him to sleep because I am going away? This guilt is terrible. He has been such a loyal faithful family friend it just hurts to think about this everyday.
Comment by JulieB on 20 January 2010:
Hi. I am 23 years old and I have a 15 and half year old dalmation whippet named Jodi. I’ve had her the whole time so since I was about 7 years old. I’m going through the hardest thing I could ever go through right now because I need to make a decision on what to do with her life. About two months ago one of her “growths/bumps” grew rapidly and she licked it and that was what started it to bleed constantly. I took her to the vet and without even getting blood tests done they knew that she had cancer problems. Basically a viscious cycle happens where it bleeds out and the toxins make her extremely sick the vet says so she doesn’t eat and throws up a lot of bile. Eventually it began to rott
My uncle David was nice enough after a couple times of her getting sick to give me money to get rid of that tumor. Now she had a second one right above it under her armpit. This one has started to bleed and this has happened all within two months so it seems like no matter what they will just keep coming and doing the same thing. I’m so scared I dont know what to do 
I dont feel like she wants to be put to sleep because she is always happy to see me and hang out with me and at the moment she is eating and drinking and pottying just fine outside. But in the passed two days this second tumor has become super itchy. And like I said before it is bleeding a lot now like the last one was. It hasnt started rotting but I know from the last one that it should start soon since it is already bleeding like this. How do I know when it is her time? Would another surgery help her or will this just keep happening like it is. I feel like I’m giving up on her by putting her down if shes not ready to leave me. She’s been there for me through everything, childhood, teenager problems, ex boyfriends, moved out with me away from my family and now we actually just moved back in ( were even in the house that we first ever got her at). I just wish I had enough strength to do the right thing for her. I just can’t figure out if I’m in over my head getting multiple sugeries done. Or maybe I really need to have her put to sleep. I just wish she would pass on her own. Last tumor when she was sick I made a fort in the kitchen with the table and chairs like we did when we were younger and put blankets all over to cover us up like its a tent. I read her so many poems and stories about dogs and their owners. I thought I was ready then the surgery happened and she pulled through and now I just want to keep on getting surgery done but I dont know if I truely should or if its just cruel to keep pushing her to live week by week at her age. She’s my everything <3 I feel like I'm going to need counceling after she passes away is how close she's been with me throughout well most of my life 
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 21 January 2010:
Dear Julie,
Deciding if you should put your dog to sleep is SUCH a difficult decision…my friend was recently in the exact same position, but her dog died before she had to decide between surgery and putting him down. That was a blessing, but it was still very sad.
I encourage you to talk it through with your vet, if you can. Sometimes multiple surgeries aren’t in the best interests of our animals or us as pet owners…sometimes it’s better to say good-bye and not put our dogs or cats through the pain of surgery, healing, and possibly getting sick again.
Losing a beloved pet is one of the most traumatic things a human being can face; I encourage you to go for counseling to help process your grief. You’ll feel better if you have someone to talk to about it, especially if it’s a counselor who has lost his or her own pet (many people have survived this heartache, so you might not have a hard time finding a counselor who can relate to your pain).
I’m sorry you have to make this decision. I hope you come back and let me know how it goes.
Blessings,
Laurie
Comment by Morgan on 22 January 2010:
I have a 13 year old beagle. He has always had seizures and anxiety, but they seem to be getting worse. I recently moved out and the dog remained in the house with my father. He has started peeing on carpets, and sometimes when he is outside he will bark to come in, but then run away, and wont let you get near him. My father decided to crate him, but he gets very upset about it. I dont know what to do, my dad wants to put him down, and in some ways I agree..i mean how much quality can he have if he is always walking around the hopuse crying, even when we are there, are getting upset when we leave? But, he still enjoys walks……Im just torn and it is making me an emotional, stressed out wreck!
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 24 January 2010:
Dear Morgan,
I’m sorry to hear about your dog. Have you talked to a vet about putting him to sleep? If not, I encourage you to call right away. Most vets are very helpful when it comes to saying good-bye to our pets…and they might be better able to recognize if it’s indeed the right time to put your dog to sleep.
Remember, your dog’s quality of life needs to come first. If he’s not happy, if he’s suffering with seizures and anxiety, then it may be best to put his happiness first. As one vet said, sometimes putting our pets to sleep is the final act of love we can do for them.
I’m not saying you should put him to sleep — I can’t make that call! But, I encourage you to talk to a vet in person.
My sympathies, thoughts, and prayers are with you…I know how hard this is.
Blessings,
Laurie
Comment by Anna on 1 February 2010:
I had to put my beloved best friend Al to sleep on December 29th. He went peacefully, I stayed in the room the entire time. Even the staff at the vets office were crying. Al was a really special guy. I just wanted to thank you again for your kind words….I think of Al every day most of the time I’m remembering the good times but from time to time I get very sad – we had him cremated and I keep the urn with a picture of Al right by my bed. I think this site is great
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 2 February 2010:
Hi Anna,
Thanks for letting me know how it went…and I’m sorry you had to put Al down. I think you’ll probably always get sad sometimes. I know I still miss my beloved cat Zoey, and I lost her ten years ago. It makes me sad sometimes, but I try to focus on how much I loved her, and how happy she made me.
Anyway, thanks for coming back! It’s great to hear from you again.
Take care,
Laurie
Comment by Elssa on 1 March 2010:
I adopted Bo in june of 1990. He was the last of a litter of kittens whom a man was drowning after killing their mother. He somehow escaped as his siblings had perished in a 5 gallon bucket, and hid behind a leg of a heavy immovable desk where this man could not reach him with the broom handle he was trying to ram him with. I rescued him that day… And that man for those interested in knowing, I heard later died a wretched death of advanced cancer.
Bo and I lived all over the country from MA, RI, VA, FL, MD, CA, TX and HI. He grew with me from a single woman and helped me find my husband and become a wife, he watched me go through 3 pregnancies and watched and helped me become a mom, he saw me through a horrible bout of breast cancer staying by may side as I rested. I lived with him longer than my parents.He hated people and distrusted other cats but found dogs and goldfish to be amusing and acceptable. He was my best friend. With that said, He was strictly a house cat with outings with me ,gardening in my various yards.
He last visit to the vet was at 15 and almost had a stroke being brought in for an examination. I was moving back to the mainland form HI. His feralness had never been tamed even after all those years and yes he was socialized. My vets advice was that he not be brought in for exams any more because of the anxiety he had and his advanced age and being a housecat. He had never experienced abuse since I adopted him bit he literally tore up the vets, vet techs every time he had a visit. scaling walls and acting like a wild cat. I couldn’t have agreed more.
Bo started having petit mal seizures last summer at 19 yrs old and I contemplated euthanasia. I searched my soul for the right answer and decided to wait. He lived until Feb 22. just 3 months shy of his 20th birthday. He grew weak and his appetite grew less. I decided against euthanasia thinking that I would rather die in my home in the arms of my loved ones smelling smells that are familiar. I believe Bo passed away just as he wanted to, faintly purring on my chest covered in his favorite fluffy warm blanket being gently stroked as he looked in my face.
I know euthanasia is a decision to avoid pain and is a difficult one to make also. I guess my ramblings are for those who choose not to euthanise and how I came to make my decision. I have his ashes beside me as I work and that brings me a sense of comfort.
If there are such things as soul mates.. I think he was mine. I was lucky to have been a part of his life.
~Elissa
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 3 March 2010:
Dear Elissa,
Thank you for sharing about Bo…it sounds like he had a happy life, and his passing was as loving and sweet as it could be. Euthanasia IS a very difficult decision, but I know that your thoughts on how your beloved dog passed will help other pet lovers make — and be comfortable with — the right decision for them.
Blessings,
Laurie
Comment by Debbie Parker on 5 March 2010:
I have a 12 year old mini dachshund who suffers from severe chronic seperation anxiety. I had been taking her to work but am no longer allowed to as we have moved premises.I now have to leave her at home by herself and she is very depressed and runs and runs all day on my outside paving and her paws are raw and bleeding – she can enter the house through a cat flap but has developed this behaviour pattern which I cannot break. I cannot shut her in the house as she will make a mess. I have tried everything DAP infuser, rescue remedy, zylkene – nothing helps. She is not interested in other dogs all she wants is 24/7 human company. I cannot afford a dog sitter.
I have thought of rehoming her but am so worried that she will be passed from home to home with this problem. It is not easy to deal with. I love her dearly but wonder if the kinder option would be to have her put to sleep?
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 7 March 2010:
Dear Debbie,
I’m so sorry to hear about your dachshund…it sounds like she’s so sad and in pain. That’s just heartbreaking — and round-the-clock care is alot to give to a dog, not matter how much you love her!
Have you talked to your vet about putting her to sleep? Even if you don’t have a regular veterinarian, I think it’s important to get an expert’s opinion on your dog’s separation anxiety…and whether putting her to sleep is the best option. Her quality of life is the most important indicator of whether it’s time to say good-bye to her…and if she’s suffering, then it might be right to let her go. But of course, only you can decide that.
Another option is to try to find a volunteer dog sitter. This would require a lot of luck, but there might be someone in your neighborhood who is lonely or bored all day, and who wouldn’t mind a companion! I know this is a long shot…but boy wouldn’t it be great? You could try posting notices at the library or grocery store, or even calling a neighborhood senior care home or residential facility and asking them.
I wish I could think of more options, but that’s all that comes to mind….also, you could call more than one vet. Different vets have different contacts with animal lovers and pet organizations, which could be very helpful.
Let me know how it goes —
Blessings,
Laurie
Comment by Renee Wilson on 15 March 2010:
Hi I have a 12 year old rotti named Dixie that we adopted from the pound in 2001. She has been the love of our lives ever since. We brought her back literally from the brink of death she was in such bad health and she has paid us back ten fold. We adopted 2 children in 2004 and she would let them ride her lay on her she has always been here for us but she has always had the normal hip problems also so when it gets cold weather she gets pretty sore but this past year she has been going down hill. She is really having trouble walking and I don’t think she can see or hear that well anymore and we have a pretty big yard and she can’t even make it across the whole yard without laying down to rest. My husband has had to pick her up several times and bring her up the 4 steps unto the house because she cant do it. She has started loosing weight and she don’t want to be left alone if someone goes downstairs she will follow but then she can’t get back up and now this morning I couldnt even get her to go outside she peed on the back porch. She keeps making the sound like shes choking also but she is eating and she will wag her little nub at you if you talk to her when she is awake but I don’t know what to do. I feel its time but I can’t get my husband to grasp the idea. What do think? How long do rottis usually live?
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 17 March 2010:
Dear Renee,
I think your best bet is to take Dixie to the vet, and get a medical opinion about her physical health now and in the future. It’s important to get advice about her from a qualified doctor — because even if rottis live for 12 or more years, she might be different because of her genetics or experiences before you.
Plus, a vet might be able to give your husband a more solid idea of what you should do with Dixie…and your hubby might be more willing to accept a vet’s opinion over yours (or a stranger’s on the internet!).
Call your vet, and discuss whether or not you should take Dixie in for a physical exam. The vet might be able to give you some guidance on the phone — it just depends on the vet.
Wishing you all the best,
Laurir