Signs of Emotionally Unhealthy Women – Plus Solutions!
If you’ve ever wondered if you’re normal or not, check out these signs of emotionally unhealthy women! They’ll help you figure out if you should start dealing with life a little differently (or avoid a woman you’ve been wondering about!).
First, some wise words about our emotions:
“Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.” ~ Jonatan Mårtensson
You may have every reason to feel despondent, anxious, vindictive, angry, frustrated, or betrayed – but you don’t necessarily have to act on those feelings! Remember: what you focus on becomes bigger. For more in-depth help on emotional health, click on 10 Steps to Take Charge of Your Emotional Life: Overcoming Anxiety, Distress, and Depression Through Whole-Person Healing by Eve A. Wood. And, read on for these signs of emotionally unhealthy women – plus solutions!
Signs of Emotionally Unhealthy Women
- You have trouble with “normal” activities, such as riding in cars or elevators, stepping on cracks, or getting on airplanes.
- You’re causing harm to other people.
- You have no or few friends – and you’re unhappy about it.
- You’re often fighting with friends, siblings, family, your partner, your kids.
- You can’t establish a real connection with your partner or kids – or you have a fear of intimacy.
- You feel unhappy, sad, or distressed more often than you feel happy or content.
- You know at some level that you need to deal with something, grieve, or face a fear but you keep putting it off.
- You feel anxious, guilty, or angry - and you don’t know why.
If you suffer from panic attacks or anxiety, try the Linden Center’s Anxiety Disorder Cure.
Extreme Signs of Emotionally Unhealthy Women:
- You can’t get out of your bed, home, or city.
- You cry all the time.
- You are currently or have been imprisoned for criminal activity.
- You want to harm or kill people or animals.
- You become easily enraged.
- People advise you to get professional help or seek therapy.
- You refuse to eat, limit what you eat, or can’t stop eating.
- Your partner or children refuse to have contact with you.
- You use drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, shopping, etc. to distract you. You’re addicted, heavily in debt, or suffering because of your lifestyle.
- You consider or have attempted suicide.
3 Steps to Solving Emotional Health Problems
Remember – not everything needs to be fixed! For instance, if you have few friends but are happy, then don’t force yourself to change. Before you take steps to solve your emotional problems…make sure you actually have a problem to solve.
1. Brainstorm ways to change or stop the issue. Getting emotionally healthy doesn’t necessarily mean counseling; it could involve reading books, talking to friends and family, or even just joining a club or fitness program.
2. Get support. If you can’t make the changes alone, get help from a professional counselor, family members, or friends. Books, trustworthy forums, support groups, book clubs, knitting circles can also be effective (depending on your needs and situation).
3. Consciously incorporate the changes you think are necessary for at least a month. If nothing in your life improves, then repeat steps 1-3 until something does!
There are also natural techniques for coping with panic attacks and general anxiety, such as Immediate Anxiety Relief.
Have I missed any signs of emotionally unhealthy women – or solutions? Fire away below – and feel free to ask questions…and, to learn about the connection between food and mood, visit The Best Foods to Improve Your Mood.
Comment by Michelle Harris on 21 December 2009:
I think the most important thing you pointed out is to seek help. When you feel alone, sometimes the only thing you need to do is get if off your chest. Once you get past the fear of talking about your problems a great weight will be lifted off your shoulders.
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 23 December 2009:
Thanks for this tip, Michelle.
Talking about your problems not only lifts burdens, it also gives other women the chance to say that they’ve been there…they know exactly how you feel. You’d be surprised to learn how many women are struggling with your exact same issues and problems!