How to Lose Weight as a Couple – 6 Ways to Burn Fat Together!

These six weight loss tips for couples will help you slim down, tone up, and get to know your partner in a whole new way! My husband and I do Pilates, core fusion, and various exercise DVDs together. Not only are we learning more about each other’s bodies and personalities, we’re increasing our motivation to get and stay fit.
We’ve also found certain exercise DVDs to be a great way to lose weight as a couple. I’ve listed several of them here, in these tips for losing weight as a couple….
Before the tips, a quip:
“Gluttony is an emotional escape, a sign something is eating us.” ~ Peter De Vries.
Are you eating for emotional reasons? The first and possibly most important weight loss tip is to figure out why you eat when you’re not hungry. This involves improving your mind-body connection, which some types of exercise do. For instance, one of my favorite exercise DVDs incorporates yoga, dance, Pilates, cardio and strength training – all of which can strengthen your mind-body connection and help with weight loss. Click Fit in 5: Ultimate Body Blitz for more info, and read on for six fat burning tips for couples…
6 Ways to Lose Weight as a Couple
1. Don’t clean your plate just ‘cause your hubby does. “Studies have shown that when we’re with other people, we eat more even though we’re not actually hungry,” says Vancouver-based medical doctor and flamenco dancer Susan Biali. “To stay thin, I don’t eat as much as my husband does. If I let him serve my plate, he heaps on way more than I would normally eat, and if I don’t watch for the moment when I reach ‘full’ (which easily happens if we’re watching TV and eating), I’ll eat way more than I need.” The second most important weight loss tip — after dealing with emotional eating — is to eat normal portions of food, and stop stuffing yourself.
2. Pack lunches for each other. I love this weight loss tip, which I learned from Dr Mehmet Oz, co-author of YOU: On A Diet Revised Edition: The Owner’s Manual for Waist Management. On his health show, he said that an effective way to lose weight as a couple is to put notes and encouragements in each other’s lunches. And, pack your partner’s lunch full of healthy, delicious, satisfying foods. It’s less tempting and easier to manage someone else’s meals and snacks than to plan your own!
3. Do different types of exercise together. I love the 10 Minute Solutions Exercise DVDs; my husband and I do Pilates, yoga, strength training, and kick boxing together with these exercise videos. To burn fat with your spouse, vary your exercise routine. Don’t just jog, hike, or cycle together…the more variety you put into your fitness life, the more excited you’ll be to exercise, and the more weight you’ll lose.
4. Average your body weights and body mass indexes. “Treat your health as a combined system, not two separate individuals,” says Manhattan-based psychologist Joe Cilona, Psy.D. “For instance, add up and average both of your cholesterol levels, blood pressure readings, and body fat percentages. Then, work as a team to lower your combined scores.” This fosters connection, mutual support, and an awareness of how much spouses influence each other. Plus, Cilona says, there are fringe benefits: “One couple I work with rewards themselves with $100 for every cholesterol reading that is lower than usual or at an optimal level. At the end of the year, they splurge on a night or two at a local upscale hotel.”
5. Don’t go on a diet if you want to burn more fat as a couple. Research shows that diets don’t work because they deprive people of delicious food and increase the chances of a binge later. Plus, most diets aren’t sustainable (you can’t be on a diet for the rest of your life!). Instead of focusing on low-fat foods, follow the Mediterranean eating plan eat healthy olive oils, real mayonnaise and real butter (they have more flavor, which will help you feel satisfied and not deprived). When you’re shopping, don’t buy processed food or white food products (eg, white bread, white crackers, white sugar, etc).

6. Learn about the best ways to lose weight together. I’m lucky because my husband is naturally thin – he wants to bulk up and build muscle, but he doesn’t need to burn fat. I’ve learned some really good eating habits from him. In fact, part of the reason I’ve lost 20 pounds since we’ve been married is because I watch what and how he eats. I share everything I learned in my article, The Best Ways to Lose Weight.
One of the exercise DVDs we do regularly is the 10 Minute Solution: 5 Day Get Fit Mix. It combines yoga, kick boxing, strength training, and fat burning intervals. Click the image for more info.
If you need more weight loss tips, you might find Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle helpful.
And if you have any thoughts or questions on losing weight as a couple, please comment below…
Dear Readers, thank you for your comments and questions -- I read every one! I do my best to respond, but may not be able to reply to everyone. ~ Warmest Wishes, Laurie
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Comment by Susan Liddy on 9 February 2010:
What a great valentine’s gift to one another!
I love these ideas.
Not only great for getting in shape yet also good for relationship health too.
Comment by Sylvia Ramd on 9 February 2010:
Hi,
My husband and I tried to work out together because we both needed to lose weight, but we kept fighting about how to do the exercises, how fast to jog, and even what clothes to wear while exercising! It wasn’t good…so we work out separately, but at the same time of day. It works for us — we’ve both lost more than 10 pounds each
Sylvia
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 11 February 2010:
Susan, I hadn’t thought about this…but you’re right, exercising together and losing weight as a couple is a great Valentine’s Day gift to each other! Cool spin on this blog post.
Sylvia, congratulations on you and your husband’s weight loss…that’s great. It must feel great to find what works for you, exercise, and your marriage
Best wishes,
Laurie
Comment by Brittney on 19 April 2010:
I went into my local town and it struck me how many people must be affected by obesity. It really got me thinking about the link between fast food and obesity, particularly because I saw so many overweight people munching as they ambled about. I wanted to say “stop eating and get moving” but I know it’s not always that simple!
Comment by Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen on 20 April 2010:
Thanks for taking the time to comment, Brittney! Yes, there’s definitely a link between fast food and obesity…and losing weight as a couple is about keeping each other accountable.
I’ve also found that if you stop eating fat and sugar, after a while you lose the “taste” for it. Then, it gets easier to say no or just have a bite!