9 Natural Ways to ReVIVE a Woman’s Sex DRIVE!

Written by on July 4, 2008 in Love & Relationships with 17 Comments
increasing female libido

How do you get a woman interested in sex? (image by basibanget, via flickr)

Some doctors say we should have sex four times a week because of the health benefits. I bet this means you need to increase your female libido, because women are more likely to stop enjoying sex when the going gets tough.

Stronger bones and muscles, less stress and depression, better memory and a stronger immune system are some of the health benefits of increasing your libido. But, four times a week may be a lot to ask for even the most loving couple – unless you know how to spice up your love life!

If you don’t enjoy sex, here are several tips for increasing female libido (because most men don’t need tips for improving their sex drive!).

The side benefits of increasing female libido are increased body confidence, self-esteem, and overall health and immunity.



One of the best ways to enjoy sex more is to make sure you’re open for business (or pleasure, I should say!). Cleopatra’s Cocojojo Pure Organic Sensual Kama Sutra Massage Oil is for sexy massages and intimate lubrication, and it’s 100% organic and natural.


And here are a few tips for reviving your sex drive…

9 Natural Ways to Revive a Woman’s Sex Drive

“Not having a full (physically intimate) relationship with a man is a waste of yourself,” said Helen Gurley Brown. “Like leaving a Ferrari out in the garage.”

Your Ferrari is getting rusty and dry, isn’t it?

Look at your prescription medication

If you have absolutely no appetite for intimacy, look at the medications you’re taking. Some, such as birth control pills or antidepressants, can inhibit your desire to be physically intimate. Talk to your doctor about how your prescriptions are affecting your hormones, brain chemicals, and physical desires. You may not be able to stop taking your prescription, but your doctor may have other tips for increasing female libido.

Accept your female sensuality

Millions of people – both men and women – aren’t comfortable with their intimate selves, says Dr Marian Dunn of the Center for Human Sexuality. Get comfortable with your sensual side by pampering your body, getting lots of exercise, and learning how you like to be touched. Be honest and real with your partner in bed.

For more natural tips on increasing sex drive for women, read How Your Period Affects Your Libido and Mood.

Unwind before you hit the sheets

There’s nothing less intimate than worrying about bills, work, investments, or politics when you’re trying to spice up your love life! To de-stress before you go to bed, have a bubble bath, snuggle with your partner, give him a massage, or go for a long walk. Remember that the health benefits of intimacy start long before you jump into the sack. A natural way to increase your sex drive is to relax and let go of the petty details.

Get exercise you enjoy, that makes you feel sexy

The more oxygen, fresh air, and movement you get during the day, the more sexy you’ll feel overall – and the more your libido will improve. The health benefits of physical intimacy are connected to how active you are during the day. Find new ways to work out with your partner.

Improve your body confidence – a natural way to increase your sex drive!

The more self-confident you are when you’re undressed, the more you’ll relax and enjoy physical intimacy. If you feel awkward and embarrassed in the bedroom, you won’t want to be intimate – much less enjoy the health benefits of love. You don’t have to look perfect or be perfect to enjoy intimacy. To spice up your libido, remember that your partner isn’t focusing on your flaws. Your partner just wants to get laid!

For tips on improving your body confidence, read How to Feel Beautiful No Matter What You Look Like.

Avoid white sugar, processed foods, and fat

Here’s one of the most natural ways to increase your sex drive: stay away from the fast food, soda pop, and processed sugar! Healthy fruits, veggies, grains, beans, and the occasional hunk of lean protein will make you feel better and more energetic. Plus, the right foods can improve your mood. Remember that healthy foods aren’t just a natural way to increase your sex drive, they also help with weight loss (it’s an upward spiral!).

How healthy are you? Your physical health can increase your female libido. Read 12 Small Ways to Get Healthy That Make a Big Difference.

Meet your partner halfway across the bed

If you crave physical intimacy every night and your partner wants it once a month, find a way to meet in the middle. Enjoying the health benefits of intimacy involves openly discussing how to make your love life better. Remember that making compromises and meeting halfway will strengthen your marriage, which can increase your physical intimacy.

Experiment with fun ways to increase your libido

To increase your sex drive, stay away from the same old routine! New toys, lingerie, places, or even foods can increase your emotional connection and improve your love life – which will improve your libido.

See the funny side of bedroom mishaps

Sue Johanson of the Sunday Night Sex Show told George Stroumboulopoulos (the host of The Hour) to laugh about your intimate escapades with your partner. Laughing with your partner increases feelings of connection, which will leads to more physical intimacy and health benefits.

Do you have any tips for women to improve their sex drive or libido naturally? I welcome your comments below — but nothing too racy, please!

Tags: , ,

17 Reader Comments

Trackback URL Comments RSS Feed

  1. Laurie says:

    Changing how you see yourself can definitely increase your sex drive. I think reading books about increasing female libido will also help, because you’ll learn about your own body.

    Your husband thinks you’re sexy and beautiful just as you are — and the more you open up and cut loose in the bedroom, the more he’ll be attracted to you. My husband and I have a good sex life, but I am a bit hesitant and shy about really cutting loose. A fantastic sex life is about being vulnerable, and not caring what your partner thinks.

    My friend’s sex drive plummeted after menopause, which is why it’s so important to figure out why you’re not interested in sex before you start trying to increase your sex drive. If you know you don’t feel sexy because of a lack of self-confidence or self-esteem, then that’s what you need to focus on: feeling better about yourself.

    And, how you increase your self-perceived worth really depends on who you are and what you think about yourself. What are your strengths and best qualities? What do you love about yourself?

  2. laura says:

    Thank you so much for all the useful info.. I’m a 32 yr old woman who has never had much of a sex drive. I’ve been with the same man for 14 yrs and he is obviously very unhappy by now. I’ve never been happy with my body, and how I see myself. Unfortunately I have epilepsy, am on several megs for that and have only state insurance, so no Dr to talk to… I know I need to talk to my neurologist about my meds, but do you have any other suggestions as far as my views of myself, happiness, etc? Need help!

  3. Laurie says:

    Have you tried going to a naturopathic physician or a sex therapist? Sometimes the cause of low female libido is psychological, not physical.

    One way to increase your sex drive is to think about sex more.

  4. ap says:

    Actually, the happier I am with my life, the less I think about sex.

    Exercising and eating healthy have steadily decreased my libido. I’m stumped. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried therapy and “meeting halfway”, but when my boyfriend and I talk about it I just get angry and frustrated, and he gets depressed.

    I’m only 24 and I think there is no hope for me.

  5. Thanks for your comment. I’m glad these tips for increasing a woman’s sex drive naturally were helpful…or will be helpful for you in the future!

    I think prescription medications and a too-busy lifestyle are two big reasons women don’t feel sexy.

  6. Janice says:

    That’s all. I am not currently married but I will keep this in mind in the future. Thanks for such a very informative post. I know that a lot of couples were being helped by this.

  7. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Thanks, fitness girl! I really think that having a better sex life isn’t just about improving female libido, but about being a happier and healthier woman in general. This means watching what we eat, exercising, doing things that make us happy, achieving our goals, and living our best lives.

  8. fitness girl says:

    hi,
    Thanks for such an amazing post. This really helps a lot to women in increasing libido……
    I really really appreciated this information…

  9. Lara Eardley says:

    It never ceases to amaze me why the majority of today’s women assume men to be naturally superior to them in relation to sex and the intimacies explored within the sacred bedchamber. In actual fact, no man can ever compete with a woman sexually. Unless of course he is a well practiced disciple of ancient Chinese Taoist or Tantric Buddhist sexual practices, and therefore a master of withholding his life force ejaculate. Such disciplined men are quite rare these days!

    It is true, generally speaking, that a man’s libido is more active than a woman’s. This is especially true for women who never flex or rarely contract the muscles of their pelvic floor and make them strong. However a woman who actively practices pelvic floor exercises, flexing and squeezing her luscious love muscles throughout her daily life will easily match and often surpass the libido of a hot fiery male.

    There is so much healing within pages of the ancient Chinese sexual manuals teaching that man by his very nature is yang, hot like a burning fire, always moving, always active, always ready. Man is symbolized by the fiery hot sun and his libido incorporates all these essential yang male qualities.

    Completely opposite of the male is the female. She is Yin, dark, cold, freezing like ice. She is completely still, like a dark black night, receptive like a vessel, her symbol is the feminine moon and her libido is like ice. Naturally, it takes a lot longer to bring ice to the boil than it does to heat a fire that is already burning hot. Even so, a woman who regularly exercises her pelvic floor muscles is able to melt away her naturally icy cold libido and heat herself up internally, to easily challenge the libido of her heated male counterpart.

    No man can ever compete with a woman sexually! Just think, should it be her nature and desire to do so, any healthy woman whose morals permitted, could intimately entertain an entire football team easily if she so wished. Then while they were sleeping and resting from having been graced with her goddess like body and pelvic floor talents, she might make dinner for them all, vacuum the floor and then even paint her nails, while wondering when they will awake and hopefully begin to entertain her some more and relieve her boredom.

    I’m not suggesting that women should conduct themselves in such a highly immoral fashion; I’m simply gifting your intelligence with an understanding of the exceptional prowess of the female enchantress and her sexual superiority in comparison with a male. In ancient times these things were well understood and this is one of the reasons why so many wise men chose to practice withholding their ejaculate, so that they could actually satisfy their women, knowing that they take much longer to be satisfied than men, and so that they actually could compete with them sexually.

    Enjoy!

  10. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Edna,

    I’m sorry to hear those medications ruined your life, and affected your libido like that. I hope you can talk to your doctor, and perhaps get your life back…and if the first doctor you talk to doesn’t help, get a second opinion!

  11. Edna says:

    I am a 34 year old female and ws recently diagnosed with high cholesterol as well as High Blood Pressure. These illnesses seem to be passed on from my parents. I am chronic medications for both and it has ruined my life. Tried life changes but the problem seems to be too severe and therefore medication is the only alterantive. I use to be so active sexually, 4 times a day was too little. I have gone from being the voluptious sexual blond to maybe once a month and I cannot stand it. I am also now depressed because of it. I want my life back so badly I will do anything. I have all of these weird thoughts on what I could do but I have children and none of them are an option.

  12. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Thanks for your tips for improving female libido — I appreciate the information!

  13. CR James says:

    Hi Laurie

    Great tips!

    Especially the first one: Examine your prescription medication. Recently, I’ve been running into a lot of people who are on some sort of prescription. It’s shocking!

    My wife told me that like most of the people she works with on “something”.

    As far as your post…if I may add, I think much of improving a woman’s libido has to do with identifying the actual problem (or problems).

    It seems like (as a society) we’re moving towards this QUICK FIX lazy way of solving problems in general.

    Instead we need to relax and take some time to evaluate the actual cause.

    For example, if there negative tension or a lack of respect in the relationship, THAT should be addressed.

    If the low libido is a result to poor health and diet, then a plan needs to be created to solve that.

    Another huge factor that affects a woman’s libido is the guy’s desirability (based on his attitude and behavior). For example, a lot of guys will get angry at their wives when she isn’t in the mood on a particular night, which doesn’t solve the problem.

    Even worse, it makes him come off as a guy who can’t handle when things don’t go his way. (Not a attractive.)

    He aslo indirectly communicates that he is only concerned about his own physical needs.

    And depending on the emotional sensitivity of his partner, he’ll end up conditioning to be repulsed by the idea of having sex with him, because he’s not projecting a Desirable/Attractive attitude as well as being someone who is able to connect with her on a deep non-sexual level.

    Again, great post.

    Take care.
    -CR

  14. Libido says:

    I am the Founder of the Sense of Smell Lab, a world leader in pioneering products that use our sense of smell for health and wellness by enhancing moods and influencing behavior.

    One area of our research that I find particularly exciting is how aromas assist with female sexual health, and especially women suffering from low libido.

  15. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hi Ludwig,

    Thanks for your comment, and I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling with your libido. It sounds like you’re doing great for a man of almost 80 years old, though!

    I’m afraid I can’t offer any tips for improving male libido, but I do suggest talking to your doctor. Actually, I suggest talking to a specialist, such as a urologist, since he or she may have more specific knowledge on libido than a general practitioner.

    Best wishes,
    Laurie

  16. Ludwig Putz says:

    I am a 79 year old healthy male. Moderate drinker, i-2 glasses wine,
    I am about 10-15 lbs overweight (184)still enjoy making love with my 69 year old wife. However losing my erection about 5-8 min int love making. I can not reach aclimax, or hardly anymore.
    Til recently I was still able to reach a climax but it is rapidly waning. I take cholesterol medication, 20 mg crestor and a baby aspirin and also i Niacin pill a day Can I get my semen production back,is there any help for me?
    Any comment is much appreciated
    Sincerely, Ludwig Putz

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Top