Comments on: Marriage Conflict Resolution – 11 Tips for Fighting Fair

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 17:51:02 +0000

Hello Narinder,

Thanks for your thoughts on marriage! But I think that no matter how much you love each other, you have to compromise. There will be conflict in marriage even if you’re soul mates, have been married for 75 years, or know all the tips for fighting fair. Conflict is part of life, love, and relationships. And it’s not necessarily a bad thing.

By: Narinder

Narinder — Thu, 03 Feb 2011 07:06:24 +0000

How does one define a marriage of hearts? One way of saying would be, that both the partners are very emotionally attached to each other. They care for their partner. Their thoughts become one, their views become one and they live with each other in all the senses. There are no compromises.

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 21:38:45 +0000

I agree. There needs to be healthy disputes for growth in my mind.

Glad you enjoyed the article. I have stumbled upon their blog like I did yours and have really enjoyed their insights.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 17:23:16 +0000

Thanks for your comment, Mike.

It’s interesting that some couples believe that NOT fighting in marriage is a sign of a healthy relationship. But, that’s not true…a healthy marriage is one that involves “good” arguments.

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:58:41 +0000

Great post. I find the difficulties and choices made by couples in how they resolve disputes to be fascinating. Learning “how” to fight is an important skill for any couple. I’d love to read more on this topic.

Click my name to read a recent article I particularly enjoyed on couples’ fighting fair.

I’d love to see more like it. Thanks!

By: Laurie PK

Laurie PK — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 14:38:09 +0000

Here’s another reason we need to learn to fight fair in marriage: a good relationship or strong marriage can act as a buffer for those exposed to work-related stress.

“A good marriage reduces the negative effects of work stress on our health. But poor relationships will amplify the negative effects,” say Ann-Christine Andersson Arntén in a new doctoral dissertation from the University of Gothenburg, Sweden.

In her survey, people who felt they had a good relationship experienced better health than those who had a more problematic relationship. Women with a poorly-functioning or unhealthy relationship experienced more anxiety, mental stress and sleeping difficulties than women in good relationships or marriages.

Men who had a mediocre relationship had a higher incidence of depression, anxiety, psychological and somatic stress reactions than men with worse or better relationships.

One explanation can be that people living with a mediocre relationship take more responsibility to improve the relationship, while those with poor relationships just admit it, and don’t feel they can do anything about it.

Source: ScienceDaily, “Partner Relationship as a Buffer Against Stress.” (June 29, 2009)