Comments on: Inner Critic Tips – 5 Ways to Stop Criticizing Yourself http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/ Got goals? Need a push in the right direction? You've come to the right place! Thu, 24 May 2012 06:38:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-13577 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sat, 27 Nov 2010 18:47:14 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-13577 Some people are just more prone to self-criticism than others. Some people flagellate themselves endlessly for mistakes (that's me!), while other people can let mistakes just roll off them. For some people, setting and achieving goals involves being less critical. Some people are just more prone to self-criticism than others. Some people flagellate themselves endlessly for mistakes (that’s me!), while other people can let mistakes just roll off them.

For some people, setting and achieving goals involves being less critical.

]]> By: lacta http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-13477 lacta Wed, 24 Nov 2010 16:56:16 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-13477 I don't quite understand at first why do we have to criticize ourselves in the first place. I mean, yes, we all do get upset sometimes when we fail in something or when some misfortune came to us. But let's face it, it is life. And in life all you have to do is set and try to achieve your goals. I don’t quite understand at first why do we have to criticize ourselves in the first place. I mean, yes, we all do get upset sometimes when we fail in something or when some misfortune came to us. But let’s face it, it is life.

And in life all you have to do is set and try to achieve your goals.

]]> By: Gini Grey http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-8238 Gini Grey Mon, 04 Jan 2010 22:40:39 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-8238 Hello Broken Hearted Girl, That is so great you've identified your super monster inner critic and I know it can feel scary at times - as though that part of you might take over. It took me a long time to dig deep down to my own self-hatred which many people have from being raised in dysfunctional families (which makes up about 95% of the population from what I've heard). If not dealt with these feelings and thoughts either go outward toward others or inward towards oneself. Laurie's suggestion of counseling would be great as a good counselor can help you to heal old wounds which trigger self criticism etc. There are also some good books out there - just go to a site like amazon and search for self-esteem type books. I've also written some articles on these topics at www.Suite101.com. Here's a link to my profile (http://www.suite101.com/profile.cfm/ginigrey) where you can click on "all Gini Grey's articles" to see the list and find the revelant ones. Most importantly though, feed yourself with more positive, loving thoughts than the negative ones you are hearing. There's a parable about a man having a wolf on each shoulder - one that is kind and loving, the other that is mean and hateful. When he was asked how he handled the hateful thoughts he said it depended on which wolf he fed. Be good to yourself, Gini Hello Broken Hearted Girl,

That is so great you’ve identified your super monster inner critic and I know it can feel scary at times – as though that part of you might take over. It took me a long time to dig deep down to my own self-hatred which many people have from being raised in dysfunctional families (which makes up about 95% of the population from what I’ve heard). If not dealt with these feelings and thoughts either go outward toward others or inward towards oneself.

Laurie’s suggestion of counseling would be great as a good counselor can help you to heal old wounds which trigger self criticism etc. There are also some good books out there – just go to a site like amazon and search for self-esteem type books. I’ve also written some articles on these topics at http://www.Suite101.com. Here’s a link to my profile (http://www.suite101.com/profile.cfm/ginigrey) where you can click on “all Gini Grey’s articles” to see the list and find the revelant ones.

Most importantly though, feed yourself with more positive, loving thoughts than the negative ones you are hearing. There’s a parable about a man having a wolf on each shoulder – one that is kind and loving, the other that is mean and hateful. When he was asked how he handled the hateful thoughts he said it depended on which wolf he fed.

Be good to yourself,

Gini

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-8225 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Mon, 04 Jan 2010 15:43:05 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-8225 Dear Broken Hearted Girl, Yes, someone can help you! It's great that you're reaching out, that you realize you need support. I'm sorry to hear that you're so angry and self-critical. That's a difficult place to be in life. We need to be kind and loving to ourselves, since the world and people in it can be tough on us! If we aren't kind and loving to ourselves, who will be? I don't know where your frustration and anger comes from, but I encourage you to talk to someone in person about it. You CAN find someone to help you love and forgive yourself...you just need to pick up the phone and reach out. Try calling a counselor or therapist. Or, call a local help line or distress line. You could even talk to your pastor or some sort of spiritual leader. You could also try something a little different -- Gini Grey, who wrote this article about your inner critic, is an energy healer. Here's a link to an article about energy healing: <a href="http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsspiritualseekers/what-is-energy-healing-balancing-your-body%e2%80%99s-energies-for-health/" rel="nofollow">What is Energy Healing?</a> I encourage you to talk to someone about the pain you feel, my friend. You don't have to live this way -- but you do need to find the strength and courage to reach out and get in-person help. I wish you all the best -- and thank you for your comment on my "Songs for a Broken Heart" article! I liked your suggestions :-) Blessings, Laurie Dear Broken Hearted Girl,

Yes, someone can help you! It’s great that you’re reaching out, that you realize you need support.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re so angry and self-critical. That’s a difficult place to be in life. We need to be kind and loving to ourselves, since the world and people in it can be tough on us! If we aren’t kind and loving to ourselves, who will be?

I don’t know where your frustration and anger comes from, but I encourage you to talk to someone in person about it. You CAN find someone to help you love and forgive yourself…you just need to pick up the phone and reach out.

Try calling a counselor or therapist. Or, call a local help line or distress line. You could even talk to your pastor or some sort of spiritual leader. You could also try something a little different — Gini Grey, who wrote this article about your inner critic, is an energy healer.

Here’s a link to an article about energy healing:

What is Energy Healing?

I encourage you to talk to someone about the pain you feel, my friend. You don’t have to live this way — but you do need to find the strength and courage to reach out and get in-person help.

I wish you all the best — and thank you for your comment on my “Songs for a Broken Heart” article! I liked your suggestions :-)

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: brokenheartedgirl10 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-8199 brokenheartedgirl10 Sun, 03 Jan 2010 00:39:13 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-8199 my inner critic looks and sounds like a super monster. i feel like there is a monster inside of me waiting to jump out. i scares me. i don't know why i am so mad and ready to beat myself up for everything i say and do. i dont understand where all this frustration and sadness comes from. can anyone help? my inner critic looks and sounds like a super monster. i feel like there is a monster inside of me waiting to jump out. i scares me. i don’t know why i am so mad and ready to beat myself up for everything i say and do. i dont understand where all this frustration and sadness comes from. can anyone help?

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-6926 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sun, 27 Sep 2009 17:44:41 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-6926 This is one of my favorite articles on Quips & Tips, because an out-of-control inner critic can really drag you down and hold you back from achieving your goals. This is one of my favorite articles on Quips & Tips, because an out-of-control inner critic can really drag you down and hold you back from achieving your goals.

]]> By: Kelli Garner http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-6901 Kelli Garner Fri, 25 Sep 2009 21:44:58 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-6901 Thats very good to know... thanks Thats very good to know… thanks

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-6856 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Wed, 23 Sep 2009 22:47:06 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-6856 I love that -- making your inner critic part of your team, instead of a critical nag! That's wonderful, Gini :-) I love that — making your inner critic part of your team, instead of a critical nag! That’s wonderful, Gini :-)

]]> By: Gini Grey http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-6854 Gini Grey Wed, 23 Sep 2009 21:35:19 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-6854 Yes, talking to the inner critic and asking why it is being hard on you can be helpful as it is often trying to help (even if it is overbearing and often stems from parental messages). If you can build a good relationship with the inner critic (which is a way of taming it)it can be a part of your team, instead of a critical nag. Yes, talking to the inner critic and asking why it is being hard on you can be helpful as it is often trying to help (even if it is overbearing and often stems from parental messages). If you can build a good relationship with the inner critic (which is a way of taming it)it can be a part of your team, instead of a critical nag.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/inner-critic-tips-ways-to-stop-criticizing-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-6846 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:33:26 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2376#comment-6846 To be honest, I don't talk to my inner critic. I ignore it and hope it goes away -- though I know that's not exactly "taming" it! I like the idea of talking to it, though...Gini suggested the same thing. She suggesting asking your inner critic what it wants. "Why are you so hard on me?" is a good question for your inner critic, I think. To be honest, I don’t talk to my inner critic. I ignore it and hope it goes away — though I know that’s not exactly “taming” it!

I like the idea of talking to it, though…Gini suggested the same thing. She suggesting asking your inner critic what it wants. “Why are you so hard on me?” is a good question for your inner critic, I think.

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