Comments on: 10 Tips for Improving a Bad Relationship http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/ Got goals? Need a push in the right direction? You've come to the right place! Wed, 23 May 2012 15:32:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Terrance http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-43986 Terrance Sat, 19 May 2012 01:13:31 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-43986 Hello, I have been with my wife for 15 years, but only married 2 years now. We have 2 kids together, and the realtionship was great. I need help on what to do. Over the years I've changed alot aswell as she did, but I'm the only one (from her) that needs correction in my ways after we gotten married. We had a huge fight last night, and this has been on-going for about a year now about everything I do seems to be wrong to her. I've told her all I do is change for you, but the things you spoke about changing never happened. She told me it was over last night because of I told her I am tired of her commanding me to do things but she never owns up to hers. Things got really heated, shouting matches back and forth, she told me she never wants to talk to me again, and she wants a divorce. She also said I have too much anger towards her, aswell as she has towards me. She hasn't spoken to me all day, and ignores my calls and emails. Is there any fixing this after 15 years together??? Can someone just give up on a relationship that's been in it this long, so quickly???? PLEASE I NEED HELP! We both have said alot of hurtful things to each other, but I LOVE HER SO MUCH, and want my family to stay together. Hello,

I have been with my wife for 15 years, but only married 2 years now. We have 2 kids together, and the realtionship was great. I need help on what to do. Over the years I’ve changed alot aswell as she did, but I’m the only one (from her) that needs correction in my ways after we gotten married. We had a huge fight last night, and this has been on-going for about a year now about everything I do seems to be wrong to her. I’ve told her all I do is change for you, but the things you spoke about changing never happened. She told me it was over last night because of I told her I am tired of her commanding me to do things but she never owns up to hers. Things got really heated, shouting matches back and forth, she told me she never wants to talk to me again, and she wants a divorce. She also said I have too much anger towards her, aswell as she has towards me. She hasn’t spoken to me all day, and ignores my calls and emails. Is there any fixing this after 15 years together??? Can someone just give up on a relationship that’s been in it this long, so quickly???? PLEASE I NEED HELP! We both have said alot of hurtful things to each other, but I LOVE HER SO MUCH, and want my family to stay together.

]]> By: erica http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-43465 erica Wed, 09 May 2012 06:19:48 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-43465 Hi, When my bf and I started dating two years ago everything was great....he was a nice guy and we had evryhting in common there was nothing we couldn't talk about.he was honestly happy I chose to be with him. ...but that all quickly changed after I gave birth to our son and became a stay at home mom.....I suffered from really bad post partum depression and I gained a lot of weight......and now its like he dosent love me anymore he makes comments about my weight my hair and my whole over all look and when i get mad he says oh your so sensitive......i shouldnt be with someone who makes me feel bad but right now its hard to find work and i have no where to go.....what should i do? Hi,
When my bf and I started dating two years ago everything was great….he was a nice guy and we had evryhting in common there was nothing we couldn’t talk about.he was honestly happy I chose to be with him. …but that all quickly changed after I gave birth to our son and became a stay at home mom…..I suffered from really bad post partum depression and I gained a lot of weight……and now its like he dosent love me anymore he makes comments about my weight my hair and my whole over all look and when i get mad he says oh your so sensitive……i shouldnt be with someone who makes me feel bad but right now its hard to find work and i have no where to go…..what should i do?

]]> By: Leafpaw http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-43295 Leafpaw Sun, 06 May 2012 15:23:08 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-43295 I have a boyfriend and have been dating for about a week now, and he said that he doesn't care if we tell people about our realationship, so did I, but he acts like it's a HUGE secret!!! Can you help me a little bit??? I have a boyfriend and have been dating for about a week now, and he said that he doesn’t care if we tell people about our realationship, so did I, but he acts like it’s a HUGE secret!!! Can you help me a little bit???

]]> By: Devin http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-42732 Devin Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:32:53 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-42732 *Remember your romantic beginnings Yes. Some people thing it's cheesy to relive that first date or celebrate different types of anniversaries, but those kinds of events, however cheesy, can often go a long way towards providing more glue that holds your relationship together. *Remember your romantic beginnings

Yes. Some people thing it’s cheesy to relive that first date or celebrate different types of anniversaries, but those kinds of events, however cheesy, can often go a long way towards providing more glue that holds your relationship together.

]]> By: Jenn http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-42718 Jenn Thu, 26 Apr 2012 07:16:01 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-42718 Hello, I have been with my husband now a total of 14 years, married for 10 of those years. We have 4 children together 12, 11, 6, and 14 months. I stopped working last year when my employer went out of business which in a way kind of benefit me. My husband opened his own barber shop last year as well and things have been going great for his business. I guess my biggest problem is that he makes me feel like I don't exist. I am always busy with the kids and I know he is busy as well but I can't remember the last time he actually wanted to spend time with me or even the kids. When he comes home from work he does play with them but that is for only about an hour if that because he gets home late. On his day off Ill suggest that we should go to lunch or something while the kids are at school and its like he would rather go fishing or just stay home or visit his parents. He his planning on visiting his brother and sister next month by himself they live 8 hours away. When to me in reality I think he should spend some time with me and our kids. I don't know if its just me being selfish but I don't like the unwanted and feeling alone, ignored, and empty feeling. Ive tried talking to him and talking to him is like talking to a brick wall. Any advise would be much appreciated. Thanks! Hello,

I have been with my husband now a total of 14 years, married for 10 of those years. We have 4 children together 12, 11, 6, and 14 months. I stopped working last year when my employer went out of business which in a way kind of benefit me. My husband opened his own barber shop last year as well and things have been going great for his business. I guess my biggest problem is that he makes me feel like I don’t exist. I am always busy with the kids and I know he is busy as well but I can’t remember the last time he actually wanted to spend time with me or even the kids. When he comes home from work he does play with them but that is for only about an hour if that because he gets home late. On his day off Ill suggest that we should go to lunch or something while the kids are at school and its like he would rather go fishing or just stay home or visit his parents. He his planning on visiting his brother and sister next month by himself they live 8 hours away. When to me in reality I think he should spend some time with me and our kids. I don’t know if its just me being selfish but I don’t like the unwanted and feeling alone, ignored, and empty feeling. Ive tried talking to him and talking to him is like talking to a brick wall. Any advise would be much appreciated. Thanks!

]]> By: Liam http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-42715 Liam Thu, 26 Apr 2012 05:49:59 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-42715 I made a huge stupid mistake and I threw away my chances by lying to my girlfriend. I'd do anything to get her back. I'd do literally anything the part that makes it hard for me. Is that I only have four hours to fix all the stupid shit that I cause. I'm not sure whose been more hurt by what I did. Me or her. Honestly if I could take back what I did. I would. I mean to me it doesn't sound like she cares at all anymore. But she has offered to give me 4 hours she says if it goes well we can work it out but I honestly don't know what to do. I'm heart broken by it all I haven't eaten in days. I haven't slept in about a week I constantly feel sick. I can't get her off my mind. She is my world. I adore her. I shouldn't have done all the stuff I did. All I want is to prove to her how I'm a changed man and how I would do anything for her. But that's really hard to show. I'm a terrible person for what I did. I just want a way to make it up to her so even if she decides I'm not worth it at least I tried. I mean one day I want to marry this girl and grow old with her and be able to see her radiant smile every day honestly her smile melts my heart. She is my world. I know I'm young (20) and I know she is young (18) but she is my world and at this point in my life I've never loved anyone as much as I love her. Can you please help me all I want is to be better for her and be the man I should be and not the boy I was acting like. I made a huge stupid mistake and I threw away my chances by lying to my girlfriend. I’d do anything to get her back. I’d do literally anything the part that makes it hard for me. Is that I only have four hours to fix all the stupid shit that I cause. I’m not sure whose been more hurt by what I did. Me or her. Honestly if I could take back what I did. I would. I mean to me it doesn’t sound like she cares at all anymore. But she has offered to give me 4 hours she says if it goes well we can work it out but I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m heart broken by it all I haven’t eaten in days. I haven’t slept in about a week I constantly feel sick. I can’t get her off my mind. She is my world. I adore her. I shouldn’t have done all the stuff I did. All I want is to prove to her how I’m a changed man and how I would do anything for her. But that’s really hard to show. I’m a terrible person for what I did. I just want a way to make it up to her so even if she decides I’m not worth it at least I tried. I mean one day I want to marry this girl and grow old with her and be able to see her radiant smile every day honestly her smile melts my heart. She is my world. I know I’m young (20) and I know she is young (18) but she is my world and at this point in my life I’ve never loved anyone as much as I love her. Can you please help me all I want is to be better for her and be the man I should be and not the boy I was acting like.

]]> By: Patricia http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-42357 Patricia Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:50:32 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-42357 I do not understand my husband. He is so inconsiderate when it comes down to me. When we met, he wined and dined me, took me on trip, We went to the movies and the lot. Now that we are married, all he does is wacthsports twenty-four seven. He has children just as I do that were before we got togther. I love everybody, but he makes mesick with the actions that come with his family and children compared to how he is with my children and grand kids. He also has grand kids. He doesn not care about anyone but his daugjther and grandson along with his oldest siater. He discusses any and everything with them. When it comes to communication between us there is a problem. He hides everything from me. I usually fine out things from his sister. Whom I love dearly. He is very selfish, self-centered, rude and ignorant. I now see why his first two marriges did't workout. He should have never married anyone, because of his stubborn ways and attituide. He has a gift of gab, but is all fake and he fooled me tremendously. I have thought aboutmleaving him and ending this relationship so many times, but my sister-in-law says fight for my marriage, but I often think that it is not worth saving, especially since he doesn't seem to care one way or another if we stay togther or not. He acts like he's married to his daughter. He is much more loving and caring to her tham me. I wish she would stay home and away from my home. I do not understand my husband. He is so inconsiderate when it comes down to me. When we met, he wined and dined me, took me on trip, We went to the movies and the lot. Now that we are married, all he does is wacthsports twenty-four seven. He has children just as I do that were before we got togther. I love everybody, but he makes mesick with the actions that come with his family and children compared to how he is with my children and grand kids. He also has grand kids. He doesn not care about anyone but his daugjther and grandson along with his oldest siater. He discusses any and everything with them. When it comes to communication between us there is a problem. He hides everything from me. I usually fine out things from his sister. Whom I love dearly. He is very selfish, self-centered, rude and ignorant. I now see why his first two marriges did’t workout. He should have never married anyone, because of his stubborn ways and attituide. He has a gift of gab, but is all fake and he fooled me tremendously. I have thought aboutmleaving him and ending this relationship so many times, but my sister-in-law says fight for my marriage, but I often think that it is not worth saving, especially since he doesn’t seem to care one way or another if we stay togther or not. He acts like he’s married to his daughter. He is much more loving and caring to her tham me. I wish she would stay home and away from my home.

]]> By: Bethany http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-42254 Bethany Sun, 15 Apr 2012 05:14:35 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-42254 Me and my husband have been married for almost 3 years and we have a one year old son. We dated for about 9 mo. And got married before our late deployment. I came back halfway. Through and got out and had our son .well I went to stay with his family for the rest of the year because it was a hard pregnancy which we spoke about .and since then our relationship. Has been on a downward spiral since the baby and we argue about him the being lazyand unreasonable Now we talk (I) till Im blue he does not listen to me calls me crazy and names all the time. Shoots down everything I say and of late has started treating our son less then nice ignoring him and yelling all the time to, the point were he is scared of him. And his manners, hygiene. Are disgusting. Now. I want, need to know what to do should I even save my marriage. Also I am a stay at home mom but I get VA benefits every month and maybe he expects me to be the subservient. Wife that worships him. If so how do I assert myself to him in non aggressive. Manner Me and my husband have been married for almost 3 years and we have a one year old son. We dated for about 9 mo. And got married before our late deployment. I came back halfway. Through and got out and had our son .well I went to stay with his family for the rest of the year because it was a hard pregnancy which we spoke about .and since then our relationship. Has been on a downward spiral since the baby and we argue about him the being lazyand unreasonable Now we talk (I) till Im blue he does not listen to me calls me crazy and names all the time. Shoots down everything I say and of late has started treating our son less then nice ignoring him and yelling all the time to, the point were he is scared of him. And his manners, hygiene. Are disgusting. Now. I want, need to know what to do should I even save my marriage. Also I am a stay at home mom but I get VA benefits every month and maybe he expects me to be the subservient. Wife that worships him. If so how do I assert myself to him in non aggressive. Manner

]]> By: Jennifer http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-42142 Jennifer Thu, 12 Apr 2012 01:57:33 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-42142 This is to Nikki... Broke my heart reading your post... I think you have to first and foremost put the needs of your children first- I really don't like the fact that you used the word "neglect" when you were describing how your husband treats your oldest daughter- not to mention hes not buying any food to feed his family- to me these are huge signs that you need to make some kind of drastic move in relation to staying with your husband. Do you have the support of your outside family? Maybe they could let you stay with them for a while until you could get on your feet- or provide childcare so you could get a part time job even so you can start building a life for you and your children. I feel for you because I myself am pondering the end of my marriage (7 years and 2 daughters) and I know how scary the concept of being alone can be- but from what you have said about your husband it seems to me like your children deserve better- you deserve better- look for support and friends who are there for you- there are people in the world who love you and want to help you- Don't ever forget how special you are! This is to Nikki… Broke my heart reading your post… I think you have to first and foremost put the needs of your children first- I really don’t like the fact that you used the word “neglect” when you were describing how your husband treats your oldest daughter- not to mention hes not buying any food to feed his family- to me these are huge signs that you need to make some kind of drastic move in relation to staying with your husband. Do you have the support of your outside family? Maybe they could let you stay with them for a while until you could get on your feet- or provide childcare so you could get a part time job even so you can start building a life for you and your children.
I feel for you because I myself am pondering the end of my marriage (7 years and 2 daughters) and I know how scary the concept of being alone can be- but from what you have said about your husband it seems to me like your children deserve better- you deserve better- look for support and friends who are there for you- there are people in the world who love you and want to help you- Don’t ever forget how special you are!

]]> By: Laurie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/improve-a-bad-relationship-ways-to-fix-couples-problems/comment-page-4/#comment-42131 Laurie Wed, 11 Apr 2012 16:10:32 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=375#comment-42131 One sign of a bad relationship is lack of interest on your boyfriend's part! If he isn't contacting you, then maybe he's not all that into you. Here's an article for girlfriends whose boyfriends aren't interested in the relationship - I wrote it in response to Jasmine's comment and question. <a href="http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/boyfriend-lost-interest-doesnt-text-or-call/" rel="nofollow">Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Text or Call? How to Pique His Interest</a> I'm sorry I can't write articles for everyone...I sincerely wish I could respond to everyone who comments, but I have to get back to work! Blessings, Laurie One sign of a bad relationship is lack of interest on your boyfriend’s part! If he isn’t contacting you, then maybe he’s not all that into you.

Here’s an article for girlfriends whose boyfriends aren’t interested in the relationship – I wrote it in response to Jasmine’s comment and question.

Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Text or Call? How to Pique His Interest

I’m sorry I can’t write articles for everyone…I sincerely wish I could respond to everyone who comments, but I have to get back to work!

Blessings,
Laurie

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