Couples in unhappy marriages may be reluctant to try marriage counseling for a variety of reasons, such as lack of money. These ways to save your marriage without counseling will help.
“In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, the grounds for marriage.” ~ Robert Anderson.
Every married couple – even the happiest ones – can find reasons for divorce…but the key to a happy marriage is to find reasons to stay married. For help, click 7 Stages of Marriage: Laughter, Intimacy and Passion Today, Tomorrow, Forever – and it’s an excellent resource for new and old married couples. And, read on for ways to save your relationship without going to marriage counseling…
How to Save Your Marriage Without Going to Couples Counseling
1. Decide that you want to save your marriage. If you aren’t fully committed to the idea of saving your marriage, then you’ll spin your wheels as a couple! Before you can even hope to make your marriage happy, you need to consciously decide that you want to stay together. And, you need to accept that it takes time, energy, and effort to build and sustain a happy marriage.
2. Try online marriage counseling. I often include Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program in my marriage articles here on Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals. Recently, I was thrilled to hear one of my friends describe how great his program is for couples – and she didn’t even know that I have his Marriage Fitness info here on my blog! Fertel is a marriage coach who doesn’t do traditional couples counseling.
3. Read books about building a happy marriage together. In addition to 7 Stages of Marriage, I’m reading 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great by marriage therapist Dr. Terri Orbuch. She offers practical, easy to apply marriage tips that are incredibly effective! No matter what stage your marriage is at – even if you’re rebuilding trust after physical or emotional infidelity – you’ll find her tips helpful. But, the key is to read the book as a couple and talk about the marriage tips. To reconnect with your spouse, you both need to be committed to saving your marriage.
If your husband cheated on you, read How to Trust Your Husband After an Affair – From Mourning to Healing.
If you have any thoughts on saving your marriage without going to couples counseling, please comment below…