Comments on: How to Let Go of Someone You Love http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past Thu, 16 May 2013 15:02:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Sad http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-82447 Sad Mon, 13 May 2013 03:17:44 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-82447 I found out 2 yrs ago my husband of 20 yrs had been having a 3yr long affair with a co-worker. I say it was 3 yes because that’s as far back as I could prove it. It is certainly possible it was longer. I am devedtated! I never dreamed he would do something like that once…but to carry on for YEARS just is I fathomable. Now 2 yrs almost to the day (5/9/11) and it still seems unreal. I had so much faith and trust in him and to know he lied straight to my face on numerous occasions!! Ugh!! My reason for commenting is to ask.. What are the chances it’s just over like that?? He swears he has not spoken to her since but I don’t believe him. Things like that are not just over with that easy. They had to have spoken if for no other reason than to say goodbye but my husband says no way. But my gut tells me he’s lying!! What are the chances a long term relationship is over with no closure?? Really??

]]> By: Laurie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-81223 Laurie Sun, 05 May 2013 20:58:38 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-81223 Dear Hurting,

I am sorry that you’re hurting. The pain of losing someone you love seems like it’ll kill you — I thought I’d die when I lost two of the most important people in my life! But I didn’t die. I slept alot, cried alot, and grieved alot.

And then I moved on. You asked me what I think you should do, and I think you should accept that your husband wants out of your marriage. I think you should focus on grieving and healing.

What do you think?

]]> By: Hurting http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-80693 Hurting Wed, 01 May 2013 18:22:32 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-80693 I’ve been married for almost 2 years and my husband told me he wanted out of the marriage. He says he doesn’t love me any more and hates is life with me. Our relationship as been rocky from the start. He comes with a lot of baggage: Baby mama drama, felonies is his background and mommas boy. We have been to counseling and things were getting better, he was counsel to cut ties with his mom because of how it affected our relationship. So he did, however it came the time he needed a ride from his mother and ever since they started communicating a lot more, we started falling apart again. He moved out about 3 weeks ago now. Can would text me for sexual favors, however I never accepted. I finally got a text from him stating not to contact him anymore and that the next time I heard anything from him was for the divorce he also stated he was going to find someone and move on. He stated I should do the same. I’m so hurt cause of all I did for this man from; Finding stable employment, get him out of jail, I never cheated, I helped him become a much better person inside and out. I just feel used, how can it be so easy for him get up leave? To tell me he will find someone soon? To tell me he hates is life with me? We’ve never even had a honeymoon because he can’t leave the county, I was a prisoner in my own home, all his restrictions I followed them as well. How can someone do this? I’m devasted!! what should I do?

]]> By: Laurie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-79872 Laurie Fri, 26 Apr 2013 02:16:25 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-79872 Thank you, Jazz! I’m just starting my Quips and Tips/Bounce Back Babe newsletter. That’ll be the start of my online group, I think.

I appreciate your feedback, and hope we stay connected :-)

]]> By: Jazz http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-79719 Jazz Wed, 24 Apr 2013 14:23:54 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-79719 Laurie,

Your words are full of hope and caring. Have you ever thought about forming an online group?

]]> By: Laurie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-79708 Laurie Wed, 24 Apr 2013 14:08:38 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-79708 I recently updated my ebook about Letting Go of Someone You Love, because of my experience as a support group facilitator.

If you can find people who know how you feel, you may find it easier to move on and love again. There really is a lot to be said for being with people who have “been there, done that.”

]]> By: Moonshine http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-79488 Moonshine Sun, 21 Apr 2013 23:06:53 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-79488 Dear TN,
I understand what you’re going through. I really do. Some person has also put me through hell. But time will heal our wounds. I’m sure… just give it time, although now it may seem impossible. But I can guarantee you, you can move on. YES you can!

]]> By: TN http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-79323 TN Fri, 19 Apr 2013 05:05:10 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-79323 I don’t even know how or where to start. All those years waiting and letting go of the one person I loved so dearly, I finally able to put him down, and accepting a new person in my life.
Yet, he is just a liar. I feel so hurt. I feel hurt in a way that I’ve never experienced before. My feeling for him is so strong that I just want to blind my eyes, close my ears to accept the lies. Knowing every time he isn’t with me, he’s probably with someone else. And I just want to refuse to know. My pride and my ego are not letting me accept that I’m just like the rest, that I am not any different than all the girls he has been with.
I have to let go. I know. I have to get rid of what had happened between us and accept this one isn’t for me. But it’s so difficult. I don’t know how I am going to deal with this feeling. The feeling of betrayed and being cheated on. I’m so hurt. So disappointed. I feel so lonely. I held back my tears because it’s not worth it. I have to be strong and act like it’s ok. But when I get back home. In my room. On my bed. I just want to break down to pieces.
I’m so broken. But I can’t even stay true. I’m hurt. I just want to cry. I just want to forget. I just want to feel better. I don’t want to be here. I don’t….

]]> By: Laurie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-79191 Laurie Wed, 17 Apr 2013 23:03:36 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-79191 Dear newlywed,

What a way to start a marriage! Your new husband has been abusing you, and instead of being in the honeymoon phase, you’re doing everything you can to survive.

I think you need more than “just” learning how to let go of this man you love. You need to learn how to survive an abusive relationship.

Here’s an article that may help you:

http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-do-you-leave-an-abusive-relationship-starting-point/

Can you do one of the tips in that article? Let me know if there is something in there that may help you.

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: Jean http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-someone-you-love-letting-go-of-the-past/comment-page-31/#comment-78108 Jean Fri, 05 Apr 2013 17:30:45 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=379#comment-78108 How do you accept your age as it really is, and not want to go back and redo your life? I feel like I have just woken up again after raising children for many years. What do you think about big age differences in relationships?

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