I need these tips for overcoming despair, defeat, and discouragement more than anyone! Here’s how to find the light at the end of the tunnel, inspired by my frustration and helplessness as a blogger who used to make lots of money from her sites, but now makes little bits of money…
But first, a quip:
“Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.” ~ Tori Amos.
Where do you dig when you need hope, healing, and courage? Where do you turn? I love reading books like Unstoppable: 45 Powerful Stories of Perseverance and Triumph from People Just Like You by Cynthia Kersey.
And, here are my…
Tips for Finding the Light at the End of the Tunnel
I’m discouraged, defeated, and full of despair because of my Quips and Tips blogs. Only a few months ago, I was earning more than $4,000 per month…and now I feel like I”ll be lucky if I earn $4,000 this quarter! Maybe it’s not quite that bad…but it’s close.
I started my Quips and Tips about three years ago, and have enjoyed an upward trend in page views and income every single day. But since February, I’ve been riding a downward spiral that doesn’t seem like it’ll ever end.
So, to inject myself with strength and hope, I asked my Twitter friends what they do when they feel discouraged. Here’s what they said, plus my own tips for finding the light at the end of the tunnel (which better not be an oncoming train!!).
Take a step back. Look at the Big Picture
“[When I feel discouraged], it usually means I need to slap on some progesterone cream,” says freelance writer Susan Wilkinson. “Or cry. Or pray. Or be alone for a while to process my thoughts.”
Well, I’ve cried twice so far about my downward spiral – once in a blind, angry rage when I found out about a scraper site’s dastardly deeds (which I describe below), and once in grief because my business doesn’t seem like it’ll ever recover.
It helps to cry, I guess.
What else helps is to look at the big picture. If you think you need tips finding the light at the end of the tunnel, you may really need to look at the forest instead of the trees.
For me, the big picture is that I love blogging, I love working from home, and I love how my Quips and Tips sites have impacted people’s lives. And, on a business level, I know that constant upward growth is impossible to sustain. All businesses struggle through periods of stagnation or downward trends…it’s just the nature of business. Plus, this blow could make me a better blogger, writer, and businesswoman in the long run.
If only it didn’t hurt so damn much.
Find ways to be proactive
To overcome despair, we need to take action. One of the reasons my Quips and Tips sites has been losing traffic is because a “scraper site” has been stealing every one of my articles from my RSS feed, and publishing them on his website. No credit to me as author, no link to my site at all. When I search for my articles, sometimes I get his website instead of mine…even though my site is the original source, and all the content is original.
This person has been stealing my content since the beginning of February…and I just realized it last week. Dirty rotten #$%%^&&!!!!!
So…back to taking action and finding the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel…I filed a DCMA on Google, and am waiting for their response. Basically, I asked Google to remove their urls (my articles!) from Google search results. That’s my way of being proactive and protecting my business…and hopefully reviving it.
Another tip is to make sure you’re not sabotaging your personal or professional goals. To learn more, read What is Self-Sabotage?
Find the silver lining – a way to get closer to the light
Think back to the other times of your life when you felt discouraged, depressed, and despairing…what was the upside? For instance, my literary agent couldn’t sell my book to any of the publishers he pitched (though he only pitched the big names)…and so I started my Quips and Tips blogs.
Good often comes out of bad. And, it helps me to remember that it’s the times of crisis, hopelessness, and pain that are the most valuable. That’s when we learn, grow, and hone our talents, wisdom, and strength.
If only it didn’t hurt so damn much.
Quick Tips for Overcoming Despair From My Twitter Friends
When they can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, they…
- “Pick myself up and read something really motivating, set a new goal and charge ahead,” says Prerna of TheMomWrites.
- “Huggles! I count all my good qualities & blessings, and list all the things I appreciate.” ~ Heiddi Zalamar, of the Freshman Writer.
- “Enjoy mountains of chocolate.” ~ Beverly Hill, of Northwest Florida Outdoor Adventure
What about you – how do you find the light at the end of your tunnel? Comments welcome below…
If you’re struggling with loss, read Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken.
I'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.