Comments on: How to Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – 4 Action Steps to Achieving Goals http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-feel-the-fear-do-it-anyway-action-steps-to-achieving-goals/ Got goals? Need a push in the right direction? You've come to the right place! Thu, 24 May 2012 06:38:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-feel-the-fear-do-it-anyway-action-steps-to-achieving-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-9795 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sun, 09 May 2010 20:57:58 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=799#comment-9795 Dear Mahesh, I'm sorry to hear that you feel stuck, afraid, and unhappy. Sometimes, fear doesn't just stop us from achieving our goals...it can disrupt our emotional health. It sounds like you need more help than "how to feel the fear and do it anyway" -- you need to talk to someone about why you're so sad and afraid. I encourage you to talk to a counselor or trusted friend. Be honest and vulnerable, and reach out to someone in person for help. Sometimes an objective, rational outside perspective is the best way to overcome obstacles in life. I hope this helps, and wish you all the best. Laurie .-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen´s last blog post ...Establish Good Financial Habits – 6 Ways to Make Money Saving Tips Stick =-. Dear Mahesh,

I’m sorry to hear that you feel stuck, afraid, and unhappy. Sometimes, fear doesn’t just stop us from achieving our goals…it can disrupt our emotional health.

It sounds like you need more help than “how to feel the fear and do it anyway” — you need to talk to someone about why you’re so sad and afraid. I encourage you to talk to a counselor or trusted friend. Be honest and vulnerable, and reach out to someone in person for help. Sometimes an objective, rational outside perspective is the best way to overcome obstacles in life.

I hope this helps, and wish you all the best.

Laurie
.-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen´s last blog post …Establish Good Financial Habits – 6 Ways to Make Money Saving Tips Stick =-.

]]> By: mahesh http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-feel-the-fear-do-it-anyway-action-steps-to-achieving-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-9772 mahesh Sat, 08 May 2010 18:55:00 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=799#comment-9772 Iam Mahesh,working as a software engineer.Till the age of 8 i was a cool guy.But latter i started to realize what the world was.i couldn't judge myself of what iam,whats my aim.I could set any goals to myself as iam suffering with this so called FEAR.iam not able to face the world.I could see lots of injustice being done all over the place.I always fear of what people think of me.But I lose all my hopes.I become helpless.Please kindly help me what to do,as i stuck in this dungeon.I feel like i am been caught in some sought of drowsy place where iam been watched and being laughted. Iam Mahesh,working as a software engineer.Till the age of 8 i was a cool guy.But latter i started to realize what the world was.i couldn’t judge myself of what iam,whats my aim.I could set any goals to myself as iam suffering with this so called FEAR.iam not able to face the world.I could see lots of injustice being done all over the place.I always fear of what people think of me.But I lose all my hopes.I become helpless.Please kindly help me what to do,as i stuck in this dungeon.I feel like i am been caught in some sought of drowsy place where iam been watched and being laughted.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-feel-the-fear-do-it-anyway-action-steps-to-achieving-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-7443 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Mon, 02 Nov 2009 13:42:37 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=799#comment-7443 Dashini, I'm sorry for the situation you're in -- it sounds very difficult! I don't know anything about Singapore or Malaysia or studying there, so I have nothing to suggest. Actually, I do suggest that you talk to the people in your school further! Find out what the school fees are and if you can get a job to pay for them. And if you can't find the money for the school fees, perhaps going back to where you're from in Malaysia will be good for you! I don't know anything about your situation, but I do know that sometimes the "worst" thing happens to us, and it turns out to be not so bad after all. There might be some positive aspects to going back, especially as it seems you're not getting along too well with your auntie. I hope this helps a little, I wish you good luck. Laurie Dashini,

I’m sorry for the situation you’re in — it sounds very difficult! I don’t know anything about Singapore or Malaysia or studying there, so I have nothing to suggest.

Actually, I do suggest that you talk to the people in your school further! Find out what the school fees are and if you can get a job to pay for them.

And if you can’t find the money for the school fees, perhaps going back to where you’re from in Malaysia will be good for you! I don’t know anything about your situation, but I do know that sometimes the “worst” thing happens to us, and it turns out to be not so bad after all. There might be some positive aspects to going back, especially as it seems you’re not getting along too well with your auntie.

I hope this helps a little, I wish you good luck.

Laurie

]]> By: dashineni http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-feel-the-fear-do-it-anyway-action-steps-to-achieving-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-7408 dashineni Fri, 30 Oct 2009 06:09:58 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=799#comment-7408 hi i m dashini .... i m poor gal i born in Malaysia but come to Singapore to study .... how to study well ... i can but my auntie sometimes scold me in badwords... And whn I go somewhere n come late , my auntie say tht i my good for nothing ... i will tell them i will come late before going to a place... i m a good gal not like others , they will go to pub .. if i talk to her why she is doin like this , she don't reply n just murmur something n just back off... in my school they said tht they only help me for this year then next year i have to go back to Malaysia to study if i can't pay my fees.... wht can i do ...In Singapore they only help for Singaporeans not for foreigners ..... hi i m dashini …. i m poor gal i born in Malaysia but come to Singapore to study …. how to study well … i can but my auntie sometimes scold me in badwords… And whn I go somewhere n come late , my auntie say tht i my good for nothing … i will tell them i will come late before going to a place… i m a good gal not like others , they will go to pub .. if i talk to her why she is doin like this , she don’t reply n just murmur something n just back off… in my school they said tht they only help me for this year then next year i have to go back to Malaysia to study if i can’t pay my fees…. wht can i do …In Singapore they only help for Singaporeans not for foreigners …..

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-feel-the-fear-do-it-anyway-action-steps-to-achieving-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-7390 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Thu, 29 Oct 2009 03:04:23 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=799#comment-7390 Hi Dashineni, I don't know how old you are, but if you live with your grandmom, you must be a minor. And, unfortunately, this means you might not be able to do much about her rules. However, that said, I do suggest that you talk to your grandmom about why she doesn't want you talk to boys on the telephone. She might be afraid or anxious about something, and it might be good to find that out! If you know what she's worried about, then you can reassure her or help her cope with her fears. I also suggest compromising with her about stuff like the length of your phone calls, whether she's in the room, and even which boys you can talk to. If she knows you're only talking for 15 minutes with her right there, then she might be more likely to let you talk to boys. Try these tips out, and let me know how it goes! Laurie Hi Dashineni,

I don’t know how old you are, but if you live with your grandmom, you must be a minor. And, unfortunately, this means you might not be able to do much about her rules.

However, that said, I do suggest that you talk to your grandmom about why she doesn’t want you talk to boys on the telephone. She might be afraid or anxious about something, and it might be good to find that out! If you know what she’s worried about, then you can reassure her or help her cope with her fears.

I also suggest compromising with her about stuff like the length of your phone calls, whether she’s in the room, and even which boys you can talk to. If she knows you’re only talking for 15 minutes with her right there, then she might be more likely to let you talk to boys.

Try these tips out, and let me know how it goes!

Laurie

]]> By: dashineni http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-feel-the-fear-do-it-anyway-action-steps-to-achieving-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-7338 dashineni Tue, 27 Oct 2009 07:35:38 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=799#comment-7338 i m dashini here .... my grandmom don let me talk to a boy in telephone ... they think i will not be good if i talk to a guy..... One day , i was having a phone number n it was a boy's number.. My grandmom ask me who is it i say is my frend... then she ask wht frend i cant say tht is a boy.... so i lied its a gal.... then she ask me to bring the phone to her.... then he hanged the phone...after tht she was saying y i m makin frend with a boy...... i was so scared wht if she tell my aunt .... nobody in my family is patience.... Wht can i do ? i m dashini here …. my grandmom don let me talk to a boy in telephone … they think i will not be good if i talk to a guy…..
One day , i was having a phone number n it was a boy’s number..
My grandmom ask me who is it i say is my frend… then she ask wht frend i cant say tht is a boy…. so i lied its a gal…. then she ask me to bring the phone to her…. then he hanged the phone…after tht she was saying y i m makin frend with a boy…… i was so scared wht if she tell my aunt …. nobody in my family is patience….
Wht can i do ?

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