How to Break Up With Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
Learn how to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend in the least painful way possible. Ending a relationship isn’t easy, even if it’s unhealthy. These tips for breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend will help you say it’s over with less pain and awkwardness (but breaking up really is hard to do, no matter how many quips and tips you’re armed with!).
Before the tips, a quip:
“Giving up doesn’t always mean you’re weak; sometimes it means you’re strong enough to let go.” – Unknown
Breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend could be one of the healthiest things you ever do – and your newfound freedom may help you set and achieve new goals in your life! For more info on ending relationships, click on Dump ‘Em: How to Break Up with Anyone from Your Best Friend to Your Hairdresser
And, read on for tips on how to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend…
How to Break Up With Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend
If you’re not sure if you should break up with you boyfriend or girlfriend, read 7 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship.
1. Break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend in person. I know it’s “ugh”, but your boyfriend or girlfriend deserves a face-to-face good-bye, and maybe even a discussion regarding why your relationship is ending. Don’t use email or voicemail messages (or Twitter or Facebook, God forbid) when you’re breaking up, even if you’ve only been together a few weeks or months.
2. Choose the “least worst” time and place. Some of the worst times to end relationships: right after family funerals, on New Year’s Eve, at ballgames, and just before birthdays. When you’re figuring out how to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you’ll never find the best time and place – but you can choose the least worst ones. Choose a place that’s private, and allows the other person to react without embarrassment.
3. Practice what you’ll say during the breakup. Before you meet, rehearse the most important things you want to say when you break up - but don’t give a “canned” performance. Say something like, “I’m sorry to say this, but I just don’t see us going forward together. You deserve to be in a wonderful relationship, but I don’t think I’m the one.”
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The rest of this article has been moved to my new site, “Quips and Tips for Money and Love.”
8 Tips for Ending a Relationship
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If a past breakup was a mistake and you want to get back together with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, you might find The Magic of Making Up helpful.
And if you have any tips for how to break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend – or questions about ending a relationship, please share below…
Category: Breakup Survival Tips, Dating Tips, Love & Relationships
Hi Laurie, I really like your article a lot! I think your tips for breaking up with a girlfriend or boyfriend are really important. I wrote an article with five things that you should keep in mind while breaking up and also why breaking up can feel so hard to do. I think you’d like it! You can check it out at http://www.portlandtherapist.co/shrinkythink/archives/how-to-break-up-with-your-girlfriend-or-boyfriend
Feel free to leave a comment with my article if you like it. I look forward to reading more articles by you.
Sarah,
Here’s another article that may help you break up with your boyfriend:
How to Break Up With Someone You Don’t Love Anymore
oh dating i’ve been dating this guy for a few months he’s really sweet but its just not working out anymore somebody please tell me what to say to him
OMG!!! dis is wat he said to me
“I’m sorry to say this, but I just don’t see us going forward together. You deserve to be in a wonderful relationship, but I don’t think I’m the one.”
I know I may only be in grade 8 but trust me I have had many boyfriends. It is hard when i break up with them but it is bad when they have there arms around me and hug me and say it will be alright when it is that person I have just broken up with. I can’t stand it even if my besties help me through it I breakdown in tears knowing that we cant have each other and my friends know that we still have strongfeelings for each other!!!
Interesting — I’m surprised that there’s a website dedicated to breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend! Mind you, it seems like there are websites for EVERYTHING these days…
Well I found an interesting and pretty creative break up site. Its called BreakUpEasy.com. These guys (or gals) really put a lot of thought into this. Though you are delivering bad news, they actually do it in a professional way.
Check out BreakUpEasy.com if you’re thinking about breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend. If I was in a bad relationship now I would totally consider it!
Hi Davika,
I’m not sure you can break up with your boyfriend without him noticing…and I’m not sure I understand what you mean by that! I think that if you want to break up with him, you need to face up to it and be honest with him. And, the sooner you have “the talk”, the better…because anticipation is often worse than the event itself.
Read the full article on how to break up with your boyfriend, and rehearse what you’ll say and do in your head…and let me know how it goes!
Blessings,
Laurie
it is very hard for me to dump my boyfriend i am confused please help me do it without him to notice.