Comments on: How to Be Happy After Splitting Up With Your Boyfriend http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/ Got goals? Need a push in the right direction? You've come to the right place! Thu, 24 May 2012 01:39:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: billie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2/#comment-43850 billie Wed, 16 May 2012 14:01:40 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-43850 my ex boy friend and i were together for a year and 8 months every thing was good between us and never had a problem except that i couldnt quite trust him i dont understand why i never did but something about him seemed different but anyways when we meet at this school and 9th grade but when the summer time he cheated on me and when he told me i was heart broken but i took him back even though things were never the same again he had gotten his ex gf number and he started getting bord with then when he went to a different school he started huging other girls getting their numbers and he startexd hanging with his friends more i felt so alone because he was changing more than ever he fonally told me he had lost feelings in me 2weeks after valetines day but i told him when hes ready to come back he can but i have a new boy friend now and he makes me happy but what if my ex comes back should i?HELP my ex boy friend and i were together for a year and 8 months every thing was good between us and never had a problem except that i couldnt quite trust him i dont understand why i never did but something about him seemed different but anyways when we meet at this school and 9th grade but when the summer time he cheated on me and when he told me i was heart broken but i took him back even though things were never the same again he had gotten his ex gf number and he started getting bord with then when he went to a different school he started huging other girls getting their numbers and he startexd hanging with his friends more i felt so alone because he was changing more than ever he fonally told me he had lost feelings in me 2weeks after valetines day but i told him when hes ready to come back he can but i have a new boy friend now and he makes me happy but what if my ex comes back should i?HELP

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2/#comment-43514 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Wed, 09 May 2012 23:30:11 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-43514 I don't know if anyone can be 100% happy after splitting up with a boyfriend or girlfriend! Even if the breakup was the right thing to do, there will always be feelings of pain, sadness, and heartbreak after a split. My husband still feels bad about his split with his ex-girlfriend. He loves me and we've been happily married for almost 7 years! But even so, he will always have regrets about the past. There is definitely no quick fix for happiness! I think we need to accept that you can be happy after splitting up, but we'll always be changed by the relationship - and the break up. I don’t know if anyone can be 100% happy after splitting up with a boyfriend or girlfriend! Even if the breakup was the right thing to do, there will always be feelings of pain, sadness, and heartbreak after a split.

My husband still feels bad about his split with his ex-girlfriend. He loves me and we’ve been happily married for almost 7 years! But even so, he will always have regrets about the past.

There is definitely no quick fix for happiness! I think we need to accept that you can be happy after splitting up, but we’ll always be changed by the relationship – and the break up.

]]> By: Kate http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2/#comment-42917 Kate Mon, 30 Apr 2012 13:29:01 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-42917 Me and this guy have been dating on and off again, for this past yr and it went a little to far alot of times....to be honest. but now hes with another girl and we barely tlk now but he told me he cared about me and everything not to long ago but now like we dont even talk it hurts me so much becuz i cnt even go see him :( I cry all the time ive tried moving on but every guy i get with it all gets messed up becuz of him hes all i ever think about anymore its got to the point where i wish & pray for him to come back i have dreams ab him all the time and just wake up and start crying! thats how bad it is now! i love him so much and just want him bck pls help me i feel ike i need him all the time now! :( Me and this guy have been dating on and off again, for this past yr and it went a little to far alot of times….to be honest. but now hes with another girl and we barely tlk now but he told me he cared about me and everything not to long ago but now like we dont even talk it hurts me so much becuz i cnt even go see him :( I cry all the time ive tried moving on but every guy i get with it all gets messed up becuz of him hes all i ever think about anymore its got to the point where i wish & pray for him to come back i have dreams ab him all the time and just wake up and start crying! thats how bad it is now! i love him so much and just want him bck pls help me i feel ike i need him all the time now! :(

]]> By: Motoko http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2/#comment-42857 Motoko Sun, 29 Apr 2012 08:40:42 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-42857 Hey... Me and my bf have been together for a year and i broke up with him because our attitudes didn't go well togather at all... ( i was dominant and he was rather shy and not very self confident...) i was quite abusive towards him and i decided to let him free and break up with him... At first it was fine, we still talked as friends and he didn't seem to be hurt. after a week or so he started to tell me he wanted me to forget him... me, who has spent so ling with him, has no possibility of forgetting him... today he sounded very decided and he really doesnt want to stay friends anymore... this really hurt me and i told him id do anything to stay friends... i know we arent supposed to be friends after a break up... but im so worried that he will do many bad things and that he will hurt himself... (because he isnt cautious enough) i really dont want to lose him as my friend... im crying so much... what do i do...? Hey… Me and my bf have been together for a year and i broke up with him because our attitudes didn’t go well togather at all… ( i was dominant and he was rather shy and not very self confident…) i was quite abusive towards him and i decided to let him free and break up with him… At first it was fine, we still talked as friends and he didn’t seem to be hurt. after a week or so he started to tell me he wanted me to forget him… me, who has spent so ling with him, has no possibility of forgetting him… today he sounded very decided and he really doesnt want to stay friends anymore… this really hurt me and i told him id do anything to stay friends… i know we arent supposed to be friends after a break up… but im so worried that he will do many bad things and that he will hurt himself… (because he isnt cautious enough) i really dont want to lose him as my friend… im crying so much… what do i do…?

]]> By: Whitney http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2/#comment-41991 Whitney Mon, 09 Apr 2012 21:38:45 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-41991 Hello, My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me two weeks ago. I am beyond devistated as I am 26 and we had been talking about getting married. We had a huge fight and he broke up with me. Now he sais that he loves me but doesnt think he is in love with me. He says that without me he feels free. However, he is an accountant and is EXTREMELY stressed. He does not handel stres well at all. I know that he doesnt really feel this way because he does this every tax season and then comes back. Same song and dance. my friends all say that we will get backtogether after tax season, but this is the longest he has broken up with me. We still talk and say I love you every day. I still support him emotionally during tax season. He is so hot an cold, some days he is very sweet and other days he is so mean and harsh. Those are the days he says things like he doesnt love me anymore. This is also confusing becase 2 weeks before we broke up he gave me a diamond necklace and told me that next would be a ring. I love him with all my heart and can not imagine my lif ewithout him. Do you think he will come back or do you think I should move on? I am in such a dark place. Hello,

My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me two weeks ago. I am beyond devistated as I am 26 and we had been talking about getting married. We had a huge fight and he broke up with me. Now he sais that he loves me but doesnt think he is in love with me. He says that without me he feels free.

However, he is an accountant and is EXTREMELY stressed. He does not handel stres well at all. I know that he doesnt really feel this way because he does this every tax season and then comes back. Same song and dance. my friends all say that we will get backtogether after tax season, but this is the longest he has broken up with me.

We still talk and say I love you every day. I still support him emotionally during tax season. He is so hot an cold, some days he is very sweet and other days he is so mean and harsh. Those are the days he says things like he doesnt love me anymore.

This is also confusing becase 2 weeks before we broke up he gave me a diamond necklace and told me that next would be a ring. I love him with all my heart and can not imagine my lif ewithout him. Do you think he will come back or do you think I should move on? I am in such a dark place.

]]> By: Temmy http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-2/#comment-41483 Temmy Mon, 02 Apr 2012 17:26:18 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-41483 Getting over someone u love is not an easy task. In my case, he wanted 2travel out d UK& I am in Nigeria he ask me 2 get pregnant 4him ( a week b4 his departure) I never slept wit him b4 . I was scared cos I dont av a job & I dont want 2depend on my folks or his.He told me I wld depend on him & his folks and there must b a strong bond between us bcos of d distance. Yet I said if he wants me 2get pregnant why dont u go ahead & marry me. We cld not agree so he decided we shd b friends. At 1st I said it's ok but I was so miserable 2d extent dat wen I see babies I cant seem 2stop d tears. 4 a while I stop contacting him but he didnt call me. One day I was down emotionally dat I sent him an email but guess wat he never replied. D pain I felt knew no boundary but I told myself I wont let this destroy my life! Although, I still love him so much but I realise nothing last 4rever. Even if I want 2b wit him, have is baby it is 2late cos I dont av d finance 2 travel 2 UK. I know s omeday it wont hurt so much & I pray someday I would look at this write up & say I am whole again I will smile. But b4 dat day I will take it one day @ a time till I am whole & happy again! Ladies, we can do it just try. If it is true love learn to live wit it some day it wont hurt so bad! Getting over someone u love is not an easy task. In my case, he wanted 2travel out d UK& I am in Nigeria he ask me 2 get pregnant 4him ( a week b4 his departure) I never slept wit him b4 . I was scared cos I dont av a job & I dont want 2depend on my folks or his.He told me I wld depend on him & his folks and there must b a strong bond between us bcos of d distance. Yet I said if he wants me 2get pregnant why dont u go ahead & marry me. We cld not agree so he decided we shd b friends. At 1st I said it’s ok but I was so miserable 2d extent dat wen I see babies I cant seem 2stop d tears. 4 a while I stop contacting him but he didnt call me. One day I was down emotionally dat I sent him an email but guess wat he never replied. D pain I felt knew no boundary but I told myself I wont let this destroy my life! Although, I still love him so much but I realise nothing last 4rever. Even if I want 2b wit him, have is baby it is 2late cos I dont av d finance 2 travel 2 UK. I know s omeday it wont hurt so much & I pray someday I would look at this write up & say I am whole again I will smile. But b4 dat day I will take it one day @ a time till I am whole & happy again! Ladies, we can do it just try. If it is true love learn to live wit it some day it wont hurt so bad!

]]> By: Danica http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-41296 Danica Fri, 30 Mar 2012 08:28:51 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-41296 My boyfriend broke up with me because he said he needs lots of time and space. He wanted to focus to his work, his son and make a better relationship to his ex wife. I just meet my boyfriend in online dating but he went to PH 3x and we had lots of memories and love.In 1year relationship, we are so happy coz were talking everyday, send sms and email. We traveled in different places and even his from USA and im from PH, the distance is really far,its not a hindrance for us. I didn't expect that he will broke up with me coz everything is really fine. He said also that he don't have plan for me and were just friends. Why is it he changed easily his feelings for me? Im too good to him. I love him so much! How can i start to forget him? coz it's so hard for me to focus on work and be happy again, really i am so depressed.I ask him a second chance but he said NO! wHAT do i need to do? hE'S very important to my life Thanks My boyfriend broke up with me because he said he needs lots of time and space. He wanted to focus to his work, his son and make a better relationship to his ex wife. I just meet my boyfriend in online dating but he went to PH 3x and we had lots of memories and love.In 1year relationship, we are so happy coz were talking everyday, send sms and email. We traveled in different places and even his from USA and im from PH, the distance is really far,its not a hindrance for us. I didn’t expect that he will broke up with me coz everything is really fine. He said also that he don’t have plan for me and were just friends. Why is it he changed easily his feelings for me? Im too good to him. I love him so much! How can i start to forget him? coz it’s so hard for me to focus on work and be happy again, really i am so depressed.I ask him a second chance but he said NO!
wHAT do i need to do? hE’S very important to my life
Thanks

]]> By: Mildred C http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-41281 Mildred C Fri, 30 Mar 2012 01:55:44 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-41281 well this is how I feel, I have been with this man who was once my soul mate and found out is that i'm falling out of love with D.A.T and the reason why is becasuse he is doing everything but the oposite of loving me... all we do is fight and show no compassion toward what ever I do, we don't conversate,we don't cuddles, we don't go anywere together and we don't talk as much but I want out I'm at the point that I hate him and don't want to be around him, but why won't he let me go? why won't he let me leave him he knows that i'm not happy I'm so tired of being his punching bag, and the last time he brought me flowers was years ago... I feel so down that at times I feel suicidal just to get away from him... I truly feel like the love is gone but how can I get away from this man that I once loved and nolonger want to be around? thank you all for reading my problem and hope to hear some mature comments take care and God Bless... well this is how I feel, I have been with this man who was once my soul mate and found out is that i’m falling out of love with D.A.T and the reason why is becasuse he is doing everything but the oposite of loving me… all we do is fight and show no compassion toward what ever I do, we don’t conversate,we don’t cuddles, we don’t go anywere together and we don’t talk as much but I want out I’m at the point that I hate him and don’t want to be around him, but why won’t he let me go? why won’t he let me leave him he knows that i’m not happy I’m so tired of being his punching bag, and the last time he brought me flowers was years ago… I feel so down that at times I feel suicidal just to get away from him… I truly feel like the love is gone but how can I get away from this man that I once loved and nolonger want to be around?

thank you all for reading my problem and hope to hear some mature comments take care and God Bless…

]]> By: Tommy http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-38960 Tommy Sun, 11 Dec 2011 22:09:55 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-38960 My girlfriend broke up with me. I'm having trouble letting go. How can I stop thinking about her? I still love her. My girlfriend broke up with me. I’m having trouble letting go. How can I stop thinking about her? I still love her.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-be-happy-after-splitting-up-with-your-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-23376 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sun, 07 Aug 2011 21:42:15 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2066#comment-23376 Dear Cheryl, Are you saying that your boyfriend is only with you because he doesn't want to break your heart? I wasn't quite sure what you were getting at, but since you found my article on staying happy after splitting up and you asked if you should break up with him, I think you're trying to decide if it's time to split. Here's an article that may help: <a href="http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/signs-its-time-to-take-a-break-from-your-relationship/" rel="nofollow">5 Signs It’s Time to Take a Break From Your Relationship</a> I also think you need to listen to your heart. It sounds like your gut is telling you that you should split up with your boyfriend...and if that's what your gut says, then maybe it's something you need to do. I hope the article helps, and I welcome your thoughts here or there. Blessings, Laurie Dear Cheryl,

Are you saying that your boyfriend is only with you because he doesn’t want to break your heart? I wasn’t quite sure what you were getting at, but since you found my article on staying happy after splitting up and you asked if you should break up with him, I think you’re trying to decide if it’s time to split.

Here’s an article that may help:

5 Signs It’s Time to Take a Break From Your Relationship

I also think you need to listen to your heart. It sounds like your gut is telling you that you should split up with your boyfriend…and if that’s what your gut says, then maybe it’s something you need to do.

I hope the article helps, and I welcome your thoughts here or there.

Blessings,
Laurie

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