How to Be Happy After Splitting Up With Your Boyfriend
She Split Up With Her Boyfriend - and She Will Be Happy Again
If you think you’ll never be happy after splitting up with your boyfriend, you’re wrong. You WILL laugh again – but happiness asks you to do a few things first.
These tips for happiness after a breakup range from not taking revenge to empowering yourself by taking control of your life. Even if you only try one of these tips, you’ll feel better.
Before the tips, a quip:
“Relationships don’t last anymore,” said comedian Rita Rudner. “When I meet a guy, the first question I ask myself is, ‘Is this the man I want my children to spend their weekends with?’”
Here’s the first tip for happiness after splitting up: don’t start your next relationship with the end in sight! Learn from your past relationships, but don’t let them drag you down.
If you think you’ll never be happy again, read Letting Go of Someone You Love. I interviewed psychologists, life coaches, and counselors for their best tips on finding happiness after a split.
And, here are five ways to be happy after the breakup…
How to Be Happy After Splitting Up With Your Boyfriend
Make a clean break
After you’ve broken up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, don’t talk on the phone, meet for coffee, or text each other. Even if you’re thinking of getting back together, make sure you take at least three months off. This breakup advice is about finding your self-identity again – figuring out who you are apart from your relationship.
If you split with your girlfriend or boyfriend because of cheating, read How to Stop Loving a Man Who Lies, Cheats, and Steals.
Avoid the temptation to get revenge
Whether your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you, borrowed money and didn’t pay it back, or stole your dog – resist the temptation to get revenge. Getting him back only prolongs your connection, and you need to move on in order to stay happy! “The best revenge is living well,” said someone.
Accept that he or she wasn’t “the one.”
This breakup advice is so easy to give, and so difficult to accept! It’s hard to see that you split up for a reason, and it’s likely in your best interests to accept that the relationship is over and move on. Try listening to songs for broken hearts — they may help you heal.
Remember that everything happens for a reason
It’s inevitable: you have to learn to accept that you’ve lost someone or something you love without letting it cripple your emotions or make you bitter! In fact, letting go is something you’ll have to do more and more as you get older – and it only gets easier if you accept and even embrace it. To stay happy after splitting up, remember that everything in life is temporary.
Take control – you are powerful
This break up advice is effective for all painful things in life: you can’t change how you feel, but you can control what you focus on. Instead of focusing on your pain, grief, and loss – mourn it briefly, and then focus on other things. Do you want to stay happy after splitting up? Then think about the great things in your life, the people who love you, your hobbies, your pets, your job. If you don’t enough good things to focus on, consider a few life changes.
The Psychology of Breaking Up
For more tips, read Starting Over After Your Relationship Ends – 8 Tips for New Beginnings.
Do you think you’ll never be happy after splitting up with your boyfriend? Tell me your story.
Category: Breakup Survival Tips, Love & Relationships, Relationship Tips
my ex boy friend and i were together for a year and 8 months every thing was good between us and never had a problem except that i couldnt quite trust him i dont understand why i never did but something about him seemed different but anyways when we meet at this school and 9th grade but when the summer time he cheated on me and when he told me i was heart broken but i took him back even though things were never the same again he had gotten his ex gf number and he started getting bord with then when he went to a different school he started huging other girls getting their numbers and he startexd hanging with his friends more i felt so alone because he was changing more than ever he fonally told me he had lost feelings in me 2weeks after valetines day but i told him when hes ready to come back he can but i have a new boy friend now and he makes me happy but what if my ex comes back should i?HELP
I don’t know if anyone can be 100% happy after splitting up with a boyfriend or girlfriend! Even if the breakup was the right thing to do, there will always be feelings of pain, sadness, and heartbreak after a split.
My husband still feels bad about his split with his ex-girlfriend. He loves me and we’ve been happily married for almost 7 years! But even so, he will always have regrets about the past.
There is definitely no quick fix for happiness! I think we need to accept that you can be happy after splitting up, but we’ll always be changed by the relationship – and the break up.
Me and this guy have been dating on and off again, for this past yr and it went a little to far alot of times….to be honest. but now hes with another girl and we barely tlk now but he told me he cared about me and everything not to long ago but now like we dont even talk it hurts me so much becuz i cnt even go see him
I cry all the time ive tried moving on but every guy i get with it all gets messed up becuz of him hes all i ever think about anymore its got to the point where i wish & pray for him to come back i have dreams ab him all the time and just wake up and start crying! thats how bad it is now! i love him so much and just want him bck pls help me i feel ike i need him all the time now! 
Hey… Me and my bf have been together for a year and i broke up with him because our attitudes didn’t go well togather at all… ( i was dominant and he was rather shy and not very self confident…) i was quite abusive towards him and i decided to let him free and break up with him… At first it was fine, we still talked as friends and he didn’t seem to be hurt. after a week or so he started to tell me he wanted me to forget him… me, who has spent so ling with him, has no possibility of forgetting him… today he sounded very decided and he really doesnt want to stay friends anymore… this really hurt me and i told him id do anything to stay friends… i know we arent supposed to be friends after a break up… but im so worried that he will do many bad things and that he will hurt himself… (because he isnt cautious enough) i really dont want to lose him as my friend… im crying so much… what do i do…?
Hello,
My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me two weeks ago. I am beyond devistated as I am 26 and we had been talking about getting married. We had a huge fight and he broke up with me. Now he sais that he loves me but doesnt think he is in love with me. He says that without me he feels free.
However, he is an accountant and is EXTREMELY stressed. He does not handel stres well at all. I know that he doesnt really feel this way because he does this every tax season and then comes back. Same song and dance. my friends all say that we will get backtogether after tax season, but this is the longest he has broken up with me.
We still talk and say I love you every day. I still support him emotionally during tax season. He is so hot an cold, some days he is very sweet and other days he is so mean and harsh. Those are the days he says things like he doesnt love me anymore.
This is also confusing becase 2 weeks before we broke up he gave me a diamond necklace and told me that next would be a ring. I love him with all my heart and can not imagine my lif ewithout him. Do you think he will come back or do you think I should move on? I am in such a dark place.
Getting over someone u love is not an easy task. In my case, he wanted 2travel out d UK& I am in Nigeria he ask me 2 get pregnant 4him ( a week b4 his departure) I never slept wit him b4 . I was scared cos I dont av a job & I dont want 2depend on my folks or his.He told me I wld depend on him & his folks and there must b a strong bond between us bcos of d distance. Yet I said if he wants me 2get pregnant why dont u go ahead & marry me. We cld not agree so he decided we shd b friends. At 1st I said it’s ok but I was so miserable 2d extent dat wen I see babies I cant seem 2stop d tears. 4 a while I stop contacting him but he didnt call me. One day I was down emotionally dat I sent him an email but guess wat he never replied. D pain I felt knew no boundary but I told myself I wont let this destroy my life! Although, I still love him so much but I realise nothing last 4rever. Even if I want 2b wit him, have is baby it is 2late cos I dont av d finance 2 travel 2 UK. I know s omeday it wont hurt so much & I pray someday I would look at this write up & say I am whole again I will smile. But b4 dat day I will take it one day @ a time till I am whole & happy again! Ladies, we can do it just try. If it is true love learn to live wit it some day it wont hurt so bad!