Do you want a better marriage, a happier wife, a more peaceful home? These tips on how to be a good husband are from relationship therapist Richard Webb.
The more loved and cherished your wife feels, the more love you’ll receive in return — and the happier your life will be.
“One of the things I love most about being The Relationship Specialist is that I get to empower marriages,” says Webb. “I particularly love to teach husbands how to be their best so that their wives totally adore them. Most husbands fall into the good or poor categories. They aren’t very happy with themselves and their wives don’t like them very much either. Great husbands are few and far between.”
One of the best books on marriage I’ve ever read is ScreamFree Marriage: Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer.
I wrote an article that shared the best tips from that book, called Is Your Marriage Good or Bad? 3 Myths About Being Married. Who knows – maybe your wife is happier than you think!
And, here are Webb’s tips on how to be a good husband….
4 Tips on How to be a Good Husband to Your Wife
Good husbands have happier marriages, and enjoy a richer, deeper, better life and relationships.
1. Listen to your wife’s feelings. You might not understand or agree with her, and that’s okay. Just listen. Most husbands argue or get frustrated when their wives share feelings, and this does not make marriages happy. A good husband conveys unconditional support to his wife and makes her feel safe to share all parts of herself. A wife who can freely express herself will feel special and loved — and you will make both your wife and your marriage happy.
2. Spend time with your wife. To be a good husband, ensure your actions clearly show that your wife is your greatest priority. She needs to know she is special. You can still enjoy your sports, television, hunting or fishing — but if your wife doesn’t know she comes first in your life, then she may resent your other pursuits. Another way to be a good husband is to learn the best ways to say “I love you.”
3. Be your wife’s champion. Your wife needs to feel your strength and security. “I’m here for you” is what you want her to know. To make your wife happy, don’t let her be in charge all of the time. And, don’t let your message of powerful, unconditional love be weakened based on her moods or behavior. Good husbands stand by their wives no matter what – but they also stand up for themselves.
4. Tell your wife that she’s beautiful. Good husbands let their wives know that they only have eyes for her. You dilute the strength of your marriage when you look at other women. How will your wife feel safe — and like she’s in a happy marriage — if she feels threatened? To be a good husband, devote yourself to her.
Knowing how to be a good husband takes effort, but the rewards are enormous! When you’re uncertain or frustrated in your marriage, ask, “What would a Good Husband do?” This question will help you keep your direction and commitment.
Mark Webb is a Licensed Marriage Therapist and author of How To Be A Great Partner.
If you struggle to express your love, you may find 80 Ways to Say I Love You helpful.
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