Can a married couple’s financial struggles and money problems improve their marriage? “You better believe it!” says therapist Gilda Carle, Ph.D. Here are ten ways money problems can make your love life better (and bring things down)….
“When money is removed from the table, love becomes its own currency,” says Dr Carle, author of Don’t Bet on the Prince: How to Have the Man You Want by Betting on Yourself. “This is great news for relationships. Amid the doom and gloom, sizzling passion can build. And the “us against the economy” interaction creates an unflappable bond.”
For more tips about “us against the economy” read, The Back to Basics Book of Money!: A Couple’s Guide to Financial Peace. And, here are ten ways money problems can improve your marriage and love life…
How Money Problems Can Improve – Not Ruin – Your Marriage
1. Money problems force married couples to redefine romance. Money problems can lead you to interpret romance differently. Instead of expensive dating, choose significant conversation. Walk in the park and talk by the water because you like hearing what your partner has to say. Learn how to t0 talk about money without fighting.
2. Money problems can encourage married couples to spend more time together – and laugh more. Replace a fancy vacation with a “staycation” at home, watching funny movies and laughing. Laughter’s contagion reduces stress hormones and increases health – and can block the negative news. Laughter is relationship glue – especially for couples with money problems.
3. Money problems incite creativity. Invent entertaining activities that don’t require money, and you’ll improve your marriage! Playing board games, cooking together and comparing books are inexpensive ways to improve your love life without spending a lot of money. Become unguarded, vulnerable and approachable.
4. Money problems force you to deal with your finances. Once you start dealing with your money problems, you’ll improve your marriage because you have to start solving your problems together, as a couple. For help with money matters, read 8 Money Management Tips for Couples.
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What do you think of Dr Carle’s ways money problems can improve your marriage? Is the doctor out to lunch? :-) Your comments are welcome below…
I'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.