These ways to cope with your husband’s angry ex-wife can improve your marriage — and improve your relationship with your partner’s ex-spouse!
On my article about making your second marriage successful, a new wife described her husband’s angry first wife and asked for help. Here are my tips for dealing with bitter, angry ex-wives…
Before the tips, a quip:
“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb,” says relationship expert and author Barbara De Angelis. “It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.”
And, part of loving your spouse is learning to cope with his first wife! Read Ex-Wives and Ex-Lives: Survival Guide for the Next Wife for help with a second marriage (reading books about remarriage is a great way to improve your love life!), and read on for six tips on coping with your husband’s toxic ex-wife…
6 Tips for Coping With Angry Ex-Wives – How to Make Your Remarriage Successful
1. Invite his ex-wife for coffee. One of the best ways to build a strong, successful remarriage is to get your husband’s ex-wife on your side. Call her up, tell her you want the best for her kids, and ask if she can make time to meet you for an hour or so. Tell her you love her kids and want to learn more about them. Compliment her on how she’s raising them – she must have done something right along the years!
2. Read about dealing with difficult people. The more you learn about coping with angry, unreasonable people – and setting your boundaries – the better off you’ll be. Do whatever it takes to make your remarriage successful: attend workshops, read books with your husband, go to family counseling. Learn how to dial down your own angry, frustrated responses and how to get the most out of your new marriage.
3. Leave your step children out of it. No matter how angry his ex-wife is, or how frustrated or hurt you are, don’t involve your husband’s kids in the problems. The kids are (probably) innocent bystanders – and you’d be better off focusing on connecting with your step children instead of involving them in adult marriage and remarriage problems.
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I'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.