Comments on: 10 First Date Conversation Starters – What to Talk About on Date One http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/ Got goals? Need a push in the right direction? You've come to the right place! Wed, 23 May 2012 15:32:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Laurie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-2/#comment-42458 Laurie Fri, 20 Apr 2012 21:24:21 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-42458 Before you know what's "good" to talk about on a first date, maybe you need to try a few things first! Perhaps talking about the elephant in the corner doesn't work for everyone. It's amazing what starts conversations - if you think about how certain conversations get started, you'd be surprised. When I work hard to make conversation, I often fail. But when I'm genuinely curious about other people and ask about their lives, I can start good conversations. It does help to know a little about them, though, so you can ask about stuff they've already talked about. Before you know what’s “good” to talk about on a first date, maybe you need to try a few things first! Perhaps talking about the elephant in the corner doesn’t work for everyone. It’s amazing what starts conversations – if you think about how certain conversations get started, you’d be surprised.

When I work hard to make conversation, I often fail. But when I’m genuinely curious about other people and ask about their lives, I can start good conversations. It does help to know a little about them, though, so you can ask about stuff they’ve already talked about.

]]> By: shadow http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-2/#comment-42025 shadow Tue, 10 Apr 2012 05:10:40 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-42025 I completely disagree with 'talking about the elephant in the corner' technique. Whenever someone has done this to me, i take it too personal and think i'm the one making it awkward. And every time, just from that one little comment, I become uncomfortable and awkward for the rest of the night. It doesn't work and it's kinda rude. I completely disagree with ‘talking about the elephant in the corner’ technique. Whenever someone has done this to me, i take it too personal and think i’m the one making it awkward. And every time, just from that one little comment, I become uncomfortable and awkward for the rest of the night. It doesn’t work and it’s kinda rude.

]]> By: Laurie http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-2/#comment-41833 Laurie Sun, 08 Apr 2012 03:07:39 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-41833 Some silences or conversations gaps are perfectly fine - most people don't talk all the time! Well, maybe women friends do...and some male/female combinations. But my husband and I went out for sushi today, and our conversation was slow and quiet. We just didn't have much to say to each other, which sometimes happens. But, when you're getting to know each other, you definitely want to keep talking! One of my favorite ways to start conversations is to ask what people like best about their jobs, and what they like least. Again, making conversation on the first date boils down to being genuinely curious about your dating partner. Is he owning or renting? Where did he take his last vacation? What was the last concert or play he attended? Does he have pets? And don't just pepper your date with questions -- make sure you answer your own question, so there's some give and take happening! I hope this helps, and welcome your thoughts. Blessings, Laurie Some silences or conversations gaps are perfectly fine – most people don’t talk all the time! Well, maybe women friends do…and some male/female combinations. But my husband and I went out for sushi today, and our conversation was slow and quiet. We just didn’t have much to say to each other, which sometimes happens.

But, when you’re getting to know each other, you definitely want to keep talking! One of my favorite ways to start conversations is to ask what people like best about their jobs, and what they like least.

Again, making conversation on the first date boils down to being genuinely curious about your dating partner. Is he owning or renting? Where did he take his last vacation? What was the last concert or play he attended? Does he have pets?

And don’t just pepper your date with questions — make sure you answer your own question, so there’s some give and take happening!

I hope this helps, and welcome your thoughts.

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: Emma http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-40925 Emma Thu, 22 Mar 2012 14:49:24 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-40925 hi, so i met a guy and we really connect but when we sat together there were alot of silence moments what can i say or do to carry on an inteseting conversation ? thnx hi,
so i met a guy and we really connect but when we sat together there were alot of silence moments
what can i say or do to carry on an inteseting conversation ?

thnx

]]> By: Krish http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-40453 Krish Mon, 20 Feb 2012 10:46:51 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-40453 Hi Rachel, Go forward, without allowing your mind to feel shyness. Always feel that you are dominant over the guy with whom you are talking. Thanks Krishna. Hi Rachel,

Go forward, without allowing your mind to feel shyness. Always feel that you are dominant over the guy with whom you are talking.

Thanks
Krishna.

]]> By: rachel http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-39446 rachel Fri, 06 Jan 2012 02:37:05 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-39446 Hi, can anyone help? I'm 28 year old lady and all I want is to find a decent guy. I'm shy and quiet and although I've been on dates many times before, I just get so nervous beforehand. Usually dates go ok but find it hard to find things to talk about and follow up on conversations. I always worry so much about being quiet and not having nothing to say and start thinking this way so it becomes a vicious cycle. It would be so nice to meet a nice guy and keep him, and him not mind that I'm quite shy but I think this scares them off. Any great tips to give me? I'm also currently reading Paul McKenna's instant confidence book and hope this will help me in my life too. Thanks :) Hi, can anyone help? I’m 28 year old lady and all I want is to find a decent guy. I’m shy and quiet and although I’ve been on dates many times before, I just get so nervous beforehand. Usually dates go ok but find it hard to find things to talk about and follow up on conversations. I always worry so much about being quiet and not having nothing to say and start thinking this way so it becomes a vicious cycle. It would be so nice to meet a nice guy and keep him, and him not mind that I’m quite shy but I think this scares them off. Any great tips to give me? I’m also currently reading Paul McKenna’s instant confidence book and hope this will help me in my life too. Thanks :)

]]> By: Real Man Real Life Real Style http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-38012 Real Man Real Life Real Style Thu, 24 Nov 2011 14:41:00 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-38012 1) be confident 2) approach. 3) Speak. 4) Remain confident. 5) Enjoy 1) be confident 2) approach. 3) Speak. 4) Remain confident. 5) Enjoy

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-18386 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sat, 19 Mar 2011 03:17:06 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-18386 This article about making conversations on the first date is one of my most popular articles, yet nobody has a thing to say! If you have any questions or thoughts on making small talk on a first date, please share here...I'd be happy to help you out! This article about making conversations on the first date is one of my most popular articles, yet nobody has a thing to say!

If you have any questions or thoughts on making small talk on a first date, please share here…I’d be happy to help you out!

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-10026 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sat, 29 May 2010 12:48:15 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-10026 Thanks for your comment -- I'm glad you agree with my first tips, about talking about how difficult it can be to start a conversation on the first date! I like your additional tips....and wish I'd known them before I wrote the article :-) Good stuff. Thanks for your comment — I’m glad you agree with my first tips, about talking about how difficult it can be to start a conversation on the first date!

I like your additional tips….and wish I’d known them before I wrote the article :-) Good stuff.

]]> By: Conversation Arts http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-9994 Conversation Arts Tue, 25 May 2010 16:52:40 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-9994 I read the article and I agree with point number one a lot. Most of the time people ignore silence instead of confronting and using it as part of the conversation. Another one that I've heard from Gretchen Rubin from the Happiness Project once the conversation is dying is "Surely we can make better conversation than this?" And then smile, and usually that relaxes people down. As for you point number 4, something I personally use to dazzle people on a date is to not just compliment their accessory but to compliment something I value in their own personality. Such as the fact that they're playful, or that they are so friendly and open. This way it makes them feel good for who they are, not just what they wear or their appearances. I read the article and I agree with point number one a lot. Most of the time people ignore silence instead of confronting and using it as part of the conversation. Another one that I’ve heard from Gretchen Rubin from the Happiness Project once the conversation is dying is “Surely we can make better conversation than this?” And then smile, and usually that relaxes people down.

As for you point number 4, something I personally use to dazzle people on a date is to not just compliment their accessory but to compliment something I value in their own personality. Such as the fact that they’re playful, or that they are so friendly and open. This way it makes them feel good for who they are, not just what they wear or their appearances.

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