30 Famous Introverts – Actors, Actresses, Talk Show Hosts

This list of famous introverted movie stars and celebrities has a few names that will surprise you! Included is a test for introversion to help you figure out your own personality traits.

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Introvert Advantage

Here’s a quick way to tell if you’re an introvert or an extrovert: “If there is an emergency do you tend to stand still and feel somewhat shut down or in slow motion? If you have a standstill reaction to stress more often, then you are probably an introvert,” says psychotherapist and author Marti Olsen Laney, author of The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World. “In a crisis do you tend to move your body immediately and feel like taking action, maybe without pausing to think? Then you are probably an extrovert if you react with movement.”

Below is a list of famous introverts, plus information about introverted personality types and traits. Introverts, famous or not, do not have personality disorders. A reader recently asked me about introverted personality types and traits, and I was shocked at the misperceptions people have about introverts.

Common Questions About Introverted Personality Types and Traits

Is introversion a personality disorder? No! Introverts are normal. Extroverts are normal. Neither type of personality is a personality disorder. However, I did write an article called When Your Personality Causes Problems – Unhappy Introverts, because some personality types can veer off in unhealthy directions. Of course, this can happen to extroverts, too.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with introverted personality traits, though introverts are commonly seen as abnormal, nerds, loners, withdrawn, shy, and unfriendly. Introverts can also be seen as lacking social skills.

Introverts:

  • Enjoy time alone
  • Consider only deep relationships as friends
  • Feel drained after outside activities, even if they were fun
  • Are often good listeners
  • Appear calm and self-contained
  • Think then speak or act
julia roberts famous introvert

Julia Roberts is an introvert, who is also a famous actress. (image by jason-sh, via flickr)

People with introverted personalities have an inward focus and aren’t usually the “life of the party.” Introverts have a strong sense of self that can make them feel highly self-conscious around other people – making walking into a crowded room a little nerve-wracking. Introverts have a hard time being goofy in front of the camera and telling jokes to more than a couple of people at a time, but they can be extremely witty. They’re less “Larry, Curly, and Moe” and more Woody Allen – but that doesn’t mean introverts’ personality traits are neurotic!

Introverts process their emotions, thoughts, and observations internally. They can be social people, but reveal less about themselves than extroverts do. Introverts are more private, and less public. Introverts need time to think before responding to a situation, and develop their ideas by reflecting privately. Introverts’ personality traits can be passionate, and sometimes aggressive.

Many introverts prefer working at home – though there are some jobs for people who like working alone in my list of high paying jobs for college students.

Though different, introverts and extroverts can fall in love and have happy relationship. Read Extroverts and Introverts in Love if you’re an extrovert in love with an introvert, or vice versa!

Is it possible for an introvert to become an extrovert? I suppose introverts can force themselves to be more extroverted, but why? Not for career success, because introverted people can be just as successful professionally as extroverts – especially if they’re armed with Tips for Networking Successfully for Introverts. Introverts don’t need to become extroverts for relationship success, even if they’re with extroverts. There’s no reason for introverts to become extroverts – especially if they are able to work with their strengths.

What advantages does an introvert have? 

According to Laney, author of The Introvert Advantage, there are several advantages to being an introvert:

  • work well with others, especially in one-to-one relationships
  • maintain long-term friendships
  • flexible
  • independent
  • strong ability to concentrate
  • self-reflective
  • responsible
  • creative, out-of-the-box thinking
  • analytical skills that integrate complexity
  • studious and smart
Book about introverted personality traits

Quiet

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain is an excellent book that highlights the strengths of people with introverted personality traits.

I’m an introvert, and it’s normal to me. Introverts aren’t as common as extroverts (there are more extroverts in the world than introverts), but that doesn’t mean they’re abnormal or have a personality disorder.

Famous Introverted Actresses

  • Candice Bergen, actress, writer, photographer
  • Ingrid Bergman, actress
  • Ellen Burstyn, actress
  • Glenn Close, actress
  • Audrey Hepburn, actress
  • Helen Hunt, actress
  • Diane Keaton, actress
  • Grace Kelly, actress
  • Jessica Lange, actress
  • Laura Linney, actress
  • Gwyneth Paltrow, actress
  • Michelle Pfeiffer, actress
  • Julia Roberts, actress
  • Meg Ryan, actress
  • Meryl Streep, actress

Famous Introverts – Actors

  • Clint Eastwood, actor/director
  • Harrison Ford, actor
  • Tom Hanks, actor
  • Sir Alfred Hitchcock, film director
  • Jack Lemmon, late actor
  • Bill Macy, actor
  • Steve Martin, all around talented guy
  • Noah Wiley, actor

Other Famous Introverts

  • Johnny Carson, former Tonight Show host
  • Jane Clayson, host of CBS Morning Show
  • Matt Lauer, co-host on the Today Show
  • David Letterman, host of the David Letterman Show
  • Diane Sawyer, co-host of ABC’s Good Morning America
  • Barbara Walters, host of 20/20

If you’re wondering if you’re an introvert, take this Test for Introverted Personality Traits.

Source of the “famous introverts” information: The Introvert Advantage.

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55 Responses

  1. Laurie says:

    Thanks for your comments! I’m glad I’m an introvert, because it makes it easy for me to spend hours and hours happily blogging, without the need to be with people. I love being alone – I’m definitely more comfortable alone than with others.

  2. merman says:

    thanks for the post! Your article helps me so much, especially improving my inner strength. Now I feel nothing is better than being an introvert 😉

  3. Laurie says:

    Thanks, JBM! I guess the thing to remember is that everyone is different – so even a psychologist or author says “most” introverts have a particular trait, it doesn’t mean everyone has it!

    You caught a good example of something that is different for everyone, regardless of whether they’re an introvert or extrovert. My sister is an extrovert, and she freezes in a crisis situation. I’m an introvert, and I tend to think and move fairly quickly in crisis.

  4. JBM says:

    I think this article is helpful, but I take issue with the first quote: “If there is an emergency do you tend to stand still and feel somewhat shut down or in slow motion? If you have a standstill reaction to stress more often, then you are probably an introvert.”
    On that I disagree. I definitely am an introvert, and there are certainly different varieties. My MBTI score shows me as a INPT (borderline on the T-F dimension). But even though I am socially “shy” I am always the FIRST person in a group to respond in an emergency situation. While everyone else stands around freaked out, I don’t even think – just jump in. It happens so quickly everyone (usually me too) wonders what just happened, and I start telling other people what actions to take (i.e. call 911, stop the bleeding, etc. – or do it myself). Maybe it’s because I lived on a farm quite a while. Just my personal observation.

  5. Laurie says:

    Tesa,

    It is great to hear an introvert who is in love with an extrovert, and who says it is a great balance! I get a lot of comments from people who are in love with people of different personality traits, and it is not always easy.

    It sounds like you know and are comfortable with who you are – and who your boyfriend is – which is fantastic.

    Thanks for commenting,
    Laurie

  6. Tesa Tan says:

    I love this forum. I am 25 and didn’t realize I was an introvert until recently. I am a hostess and promotional model, but I knew I was different when I found myself making excuses to my friends about going out and partying. I would rather stay home, which is rare especially since i live in New York City. However, I like who I am! My boyfriend is very extroverted and we balance each other out. I also have a great sense of self-awareness, very driven and focused! Some of my greatest ideas come from being in solitude and reflection. Embrace it!!

  7. Guest says:

    Alexis Bledel is aldo an introvert.

  8. Laurie says:

    Thank you for your comments!

    Introverted personality traits aren’t the norm in our extroverted world, and it’s especially difficult to be introverted when you’re an entrepreneur. Famous people are entrepreneurs, especially when they’re first starting out. The whole self-promotion and marketing thing is really hard for all introverts, I think. Social media and online marketing tools make it easier, but it’s still a drain.

  9. Ann says:

    I am introverted and I just found out about it!
    I have amazing social skills but I prefer spending time by myself to reflect and grow. I think introversion makes it easier to know yourself. Its a beautiful journey of looking at the world from inside out. I think introverts should watch out for selfish traits because its also an essential part of human life to let yourself known and know other people as well. When I was younger I used to live in my own world. I would only open up to other people that I considered to be like myself and that would understand me.. I’m an artist and I love music so I would only talk to those type of people all the time about my thoughts but my family and friends from school had no idea about who I really was. This world is too big to let people walk on it alone. You need to give people real company by making yourself known. Of course just giving the right amount because if you cross the line you will feel uncomfortable and feel as if you’re disrespecting yourself. I think introverts thoughts have a lot of depth and sometimes we would feel as if we didn’t express the totality of our ideas even if people thought we were very clear and clever with what we said.
    I see it like this, if you’re an introvert and you learn to express yourself you have the world in your hands. You will share your uniqueness and you will find out about the powerful social skills you have because we do have them. We understand how we think so we understand how others think too. I’m still growing and understanding myself but I think we should always have in mind this two things: respect for ourselves and respect for others. I love my personality and I hope you do to! I’ve read some people think introversion is insecurity or shyness and not at all. I hope you understand you were created to look inside yourself. Real wisdom says if you learn to love yourself you will truly be able to love others. Real love. Not unreal draining love. Balanced and natural love.
    So we have an advantage because we first have our focus on ourselves.
    I think like this because I had to lose myself to understand what I have. I thought I needed to be an extrovert if I wanted to get anywhere and no. I’m grateful for being the way I am. I love spending time by myself reading, sleeping, listening to music and sometimes just thinking about anything..
    Next time you think you’re a weirdo for staying indoors at times or going for a walk alone remember you are unique and that you have this beautiful personality because you were built wisely.
    Much love to everyone.
    English is not my first language but hopefully I made my point.
    Much love to everyone.

  10. Maria says:

    I work as a teacher in an elementary school where extroversion among the staff is the rule, and kids are encouraged to do “group” projects as often as possible. I come home drained and feel little desire to socialize on week-ends. I’m happy the with the occasional night out with close friends. I’m currently reading Quiet by Susan Cain, a best-seller that celebrates introversion and introverts. This book is a must-read for the introverts who have spent a life being misunderstood, even by themselves. Introverts are the thinkers; they’re responsible, circumspect, reflective. Let’s appreciate the benefits of our nature and accept ourselves fully.

  11. Thomas says:

    I recently took a personally test for introversion and answered every question as a yes. So basically it revealed that I’m a total 100% introvert. After all these years feeling Luke I’m an outsider can now be explained in a rationale sense, as aside from my lover, I know no other introverted people. It’s sad in a way that society places so much emphasis on extroversion.

  12. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    I’m going back to school in the fall, after 6 years of working at home as a writer and blogger. I’m definitely an introvert (though not a famous one), and am a little worried at what it’ll be like to be in school and doing my practicum full-time.

    Maybe I need to research and write an article on how introverts stay sane when they’re in school and counseling people for a living…

  13. Andrew says:

    I sometimes like to refer to myself as an introverted-extrovert, or vice-versa..if you get my drift. Put me in the right mood, the right company..preferably no more than two others, add booze..And I can be quite lively, passionate, witty and all-round-company.Or at least I hope that’s the way I’m coming across. However I also have a natural tendency to withdraw from group social situations and hate to be forced into activities reflective of this..office Team-Building Days being at the top of this list. I also can’t stand group dynamics and the politics of the extroverts. I prefer to just get on with my job and don’t need to do all that collaborative girly office team-work crap(even while they’re stabbing each in the back to the be the next Queen Bee!)..But that’s just one example of it and not meant to sound like some sexist rant..I feel a disabling psycho/emotional kind of noise all around when I’m forced into these situations; it’s just not where I excel….I’m probably in a good job for it then because I spend a large part of my day in a nice darkly lit broadcasting booth talking into a stick.

  14. elle says:

    @Mike

    I think your life demonstrates precisely the fundamental nature of introversion. Many people as you know confuse it with shyness and social awkwardness and it’s not that at all. We recently did Myers-Briggs assessments at my job and many of us were surprised at those who tested introvert vs. extroverts. I was no surprise – the way I am matches the conventional ideas about what an introvert is. I am shy as well as introverted. But many of the guys in our IT department are extroverts and nearly half of my small department is introverted. They were a surprise, because they are not shy or soft spoken like me. On the outside they may resemble extroverts, but they prefer solitary pursuits as well like reading, web surfing, and don’t like being the center of attention. But we’re all different. Even shy me, loves to dance my butt off at parties. In fact, I enjoy parties that are centered around shared activities as opposed to small talk.

  15. Mike says:

    I have a lifetime of professional experience in emergency services. I’ve been a cop, firefighter, EMT, search and rescue diver, among others, I have also been in the military and then as a civilian, volunteered to go to Afghanistan to help train during this war, for 4 years. I could be described as an extrovert by some descriptions. I get off work and I absolutely prefer the singular pursuits. I love solo activities, prefer the company of my dog to friends, built a house that was in the country where my closest neighbor was a quarter mile away on a desolate road and 500 feet off the road behind the woods. People could drive right by my house and never know I was there and I loved it that way.

    How can I explain this; this extreme difference in profession vs recreation in my socialization skills?

    My response to this is that, “I am an introvert that plays an extrovert in TV.” No, I am not an actor at all. I am, however, a creative. Drawing and painting as a child and now a professional photographer, journalist and one preferring to remain on the sidelines of history, all the while absolutely ready to step up to the plate when an emergency occurs or to get right in the middle of the action, wherever it takes me.
    Just thought I’d give another perspective…

  16. Maddi says:

    This is so good. Thank you so much. I’m a total introvet and I find it really hard. It is really hard to go to school and watch everyone else socializing where as I would rather watch. I have been critized and misjudged because of it and I wish others would try and see how I see the world. I think it is important for introverts to not lose sight of who they are. I have tried to be more extroverted and I saw people like that but I was mad at myself for not being true to myself. I am unique. I am an introvert.

  17. I’m very introverted but I have a lot of friends who say that’s a crazy statement because I can be the life of the party, and I’m great at networking. I’m a dj and performer and I love attention, as long as it’s within my control. What they don’t get is that it drains me to no end to be social & to network, and after I perform I go a week before I talk to ANYONE. And when I’m not performing, I dress down and look mousy because I mostly prefer to be left alone when not on stage.

    I think introverts can come off as extroverted when it’s necessary, but they cannot actually force themselves to become a true extrovert. An extrovert can appear introverted on a bad day, so it goes both ways. I guess what I’m saying is we slide up and down the scale, there are many shades of grey on the scale between both poles.

  18. Kathleen says:

    Interesting article, I am an introvert, have two children that are introverts, have a father that was an introvert but belong to a very large family of extroverts. BTW, the kids Dad, an extrovert, I guess they got lucky. I have been very successful in life and business because I can sit back and watch and not jump at everything like an extrovert.I hire people that think before they answer and examine before they react. Being an introvert means being able to play the scenario through your head and making it work before presenting the idea. I usually work in an environment of extroverts but my new company is made of a management team of introverts that are strong, focus, and respective of those in the environment.

  19. Deepti says:

    Hi, its a very useful article. would like to put forth a theory though, i wonder how many would agree with it, do you think a person can start of as an extrovert at the younger stages of life and move onto introversion?
    What about people who show both the reactions to stress as mentioned in the 2nd paragraph of the article? My MBTI result shows that I am an introvert, but I have always had lots of friends, been the soul of a parties mostly, been very talkative and funny in a big group of people, have organized and been emcee to many events as well. now the paradox is that a lot of things mentioned in your post also hold true for me, like not having very close friends, and being introspective, not being able to show reactions to stress etc. Request you to please elaborate on the differences more for confused souls like me. thanks :)

  20. Ty says:

    Nice post. It’s all very accurate too. It took me awhile to figure out what I was. After taking quiz after quiz after quiz,and educating myself on introversion, I finally came to conclusion that I really am an introvert! It was very comforting to know. :)
    I used to be a lonely extrovert, but now I’m just a loner,and I’m finally starting to accept it and move on after….5 years of pure loneliness. Progress! <3

  21. Rais says:

    Here’s another famous introvert, and we all know her as the actress in “The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo”, Rooney Mara.

    http://www.dazeddigital.com/artsandculture/article/12300/1/rooney-mara-whos-that-girl?utm_source=Link&utm_medium=Link&utm_campaign=RSSFeed&utm_term=Rooney-Mara-Whos-That-Girl

    “Mara describes herself as a natural born loner, who loves nothing more than sitting alone in her bedroom and Googling stuff. “Yeah, I’m weird. But, like, everyone’s weird though, right? And yeah, a lot of things about my life are going to change, but I’m not at all worried… because I’m still going to be up alone in my room Googling stuff, whatever happens.””

    I can relate to her, that’s why I like her a lot. Only lately did I came to accept my introvert personality, something I got from my mom. People would try to encourage me to be “more friendly” and “go out more often” but I realized it’s not really my thing. Not that I’m shy, but not just my type of activity. Lately, I’ve learned to go out from time to time, but I still want some alone time.

  22. Anu says:

    It was a great article!. But I wish it could be published on a site for extroverts, so that they can understand us better and don’t treat us the way they do. They all think that they are the superior ones!!

  23. Edward Hancock II says:

    I’m a writer. Perhaps the most solitary occupation known to man. But when I have to do speaking engagements, book signings or whatever, it’s like death to me. I enjoy them. I actually get a charge out of them…. but, as this article says, when they’re over, I AM SPENT! I’d much prefer just sitting in my room typing away and let someone else do the book signings! LOL! But oh well.

  24. A.J. says:

    I’m an introverts from a family of introverts. I am often misunderstood as being anti-social or unfriendly. I enjoy human interaction, however; for me to speak with someone you must stimulate my mind. Introversion is so often misunderstood by extroverts and I have found that extroverts do not seek the knowledge to understand introverts. Which is a big loss for extroverts, because introverts loyal friends and dedicated in relationships.

  25. Schon Raymond says:

    Good to see other Introverts recently found out of my different ”thinking” not sure how creditable this fact is but supposedly only 25% of the population have this way of ”thinking”

  26. Tori says:

    Hey ima Introvert , and this is just an awesome article . Thanx Laurie :)

  27. Shyinnie says:

    I’ve got it twice as bad – I am a bashful as well as an introvert. Life can be hard. For many years I lacked any type of social skills. In high school walking past the loud, bright activity center imagining all eyes on me made me feel physically ill. I never spoke in class, unless I was forced to and I remember how hot my face felt and the butterflies swimming in my stomach.

    I always thought I was just shy. But as I became a little more skilled socially and more confident I noticed I still couldn’t stand crowds, super loud noise, and even after doing something fun with others I always hit a wall when I was bored and wanted to escape to chill out read, watch a movie or just be on the internet – reading, of course.

    My husband doesn’t understand how I can be on the net reading for hours on end. To him you’re not living unless you’re surrounded by people doing whatever they’re doing. Even if they’re just sitting at home like we are. Getting up from my comfortable home to go sit around someone else’s house makes no sense to me. I guess it does if you’re an extrovert and you crave group interaction of three or more people.

  28. Jose says:

    I’m being dealing with this personality situation myself since I was a teeneger. It’s very difficult when you don’t know what is going on until you heard other people with similar situations like yours. Makes me feel comfortable now to know more about it, and knows that I’m not alone in this world feeling like this. The introverts suffers a lot, people abuse ot them, take advantage, demands more of them, etc. Introverts are more smart, cautious, intelligent, preventive, etc., than extroverts in my opinion, extroverts are careless, hipocrits, demanding, offensive, talks on their backs about others, etc., not all extroverts but a huge mayority, I have seen that a lot, in workplaces, school, everywhere…I felt bad for a long while, but not anymore. I considered myself intelligent, caring, loving, cautious, a good thinker, with values,etc., and there’s nothing bad about being like this, even though that we all make mistakes and we are not perfect. I prefer, and thank God that created me introvert and no extrovert. Don’t like what extroverts do. I am pretty sure that the mayor problems of the world nowadays is caused by extroverts people while there’s introvert people trying to fix it. Excuse me if I made any mistakes in my writing, don’t know the language 100%…

  29. Dear Lucy,

    Thanks for your comment and question! I had so much to say, I couldn’t fit it all here :-)

    This article is for you:

    4 Tips for Couples With Wildly Different Personality Traits

    Sorry it took me so long to respond. I hope it helps, and welcome your thoughts here or there.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  30. Lucy says:

    I knew I was introverted – I scored 27 out of 29…I don’t think outside of the box…in fact I cannot even find the box. I am not creative that I know of. My parents never introduced us to the arts. We were always bookworms. How do I create calm in my marriage with my very extroverted husband. He thinks I am abnormal because I prefer to be alone, at home, or with family only, especially the grandkids.

  31. I’m glad this list of famous introverts helped you not feel like a loner…there are more of us than we think! :-)

  32. Nick says:

    This is indeed very very interesting! I must be an introvert, but seriously I never would have guessed Candice Bergen, Ingrid Bergman, Clint Eastwood (Clint Eastwood of all people?!) and of course Tom Hanks, and Johnny Carson.
    That’s amazing!
    The character traits of an introvert match me so well – it’s really quite interesting.
    I don’t feel like a loner anymore!
    So thanks hehe :)

  33. Thanks for your comments – I’m really behind in responding to you all on this article! I don’t know what happened here…this article on famous introverts has really slipped by me.

    If we can accept our introverted personality traits, we can have success beyond our wildest dreams!

    Here’s an article I just wrote today, answering a question asked by a fellow introvert:

    Best Jobs for People Who Like to Be Alone…Introverts!

    Happy “introverting” :-)
    Laurie

  34. Nuria says:

    Thanks Laurie for this article.
    It is refreshing to know that there are so many talented artists who are introverted! Definitely inspirational!
    Being an introvert is very difficult especially in this economy where who you know and your networks are crucial to making your dreams come true. Also people around you telling you that it is a phase and you will grow out of it. I am 25 years old and still introverted.
    But you pointed as an introvert I have discovered that I must take a deep look at what I am good at and passionate about and develop that passion to it’s fullest extent. Because as an introvert I must prove my tale t through my work because it is difficult for me to express myself vocally.

  35. Daniel says:

    I’ve just turned 20 and have never been able to get or hold down a job. I went for a call center job and the advise i was given by the recruitment agency was “be loud”. I didn’t know what she meant by that but when i got to the interview i was surrounded by about 20 (i know now extroverts) people barking about what they liked and where they went on holiday. I used to be an atheist till i realised there was such thing as hell. When i was in primary school the teachers asked my parents if i was okay because i never spoke. During secondary school i was okay and on the football team, slightly quiet and liked my own time, as i do now. I’m a true introvert and i love it, if i was some how transformed into an extrovert i would be depressed. Being loud mouthed, attention seeking, (quite often) thick and a constant fun time franky would be so demoralising, i couldn’t bare it. I’ve decided to go to college and study the things that interest and stimulate me, and i cant wait, just please don’t ask me about the weather.

  36. mike88 says:

    “Is introversion a personality disorder?”
    Well, according to the International Classification of Diseases (ICD) 9:
    Code 301.* = Personality Disorders
    Code 301.2 = Schizoid Personality Disorder
    Code 301.21 = Introverted Personality
    http://www.icd9data.com/2011/Volume1/290-319/300-316/301/301.21.htm
    So it WAS a personality disorder according to the World Health Organization!

  37. Mary says:

    Saying that there is something wrong with introverts is like saying that there is something wrong with gay or lesbians…. I have never felt bad about being an introvert. I love who I am and I don’t let anyone make me feel otherwise.

    Cheers!

  38. Martin says:

    Jose (241110) said it all:”thank you,thank you,thank you . . “,.eh,after all the the things people made me believe about myself,I DO have a right to exist.Gee whiz,imagine that!!(See,I have become extraverted over the years)
    But you know what: Our children need to be protected at school in this respect.Who is doing anything about that?

  39. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hello M,

    Thanks for your comments – I’m glad you found this article helpful! That’s great.

  40. M says:

    Wow! Thank you so much for this article. I’ve always knew there was something different about me. It’s weird though because I was one of the popular kids at school. (I don’t mean to sound like a show off but..) I was an honor student, student council president, varsity player(but not a star), dance troupe member, school journal art editor during highschool, and let’s say I’m not bad looking as well. I was well-known at school but I actually have very few friends. I get invited to the coolest parties but I seldom show up. I was quiet and people always label me as the shy-type. But when it comes to my extra curricular activities(speeches, dance number, ball game), I perform and I perform well. But when it comes to small talks, or being at a party or just approaching someone, I really struggle. I like being alone.

    I’m 25 now, and I can’t believe It took me that long to realize it. I guess it’s because of the notion that “there might be something wrong with me”. Interesting read. Again, thank you.

    I’m 25 now.

  41. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hello Grace,

    Thanks for sharing about your introverted personality traits. I think the older we get, the easier we accept ourselves as introverts. It just takes time…and surrounding ourselves with people who are introverts as well :-)

    Thanks for your tips for extroverts!

    Laurie

  42. Grace says:

    When I was younger, I was so quiet in school that there were kids who would ask me if I knew how to talk. Of course I did– just because I didn’t talk incessantly, people thought I was a freak. I’m 23 now, and still trying to accept myself as an introvert. I have always, always, and still do, feel as if I am different from other people. It’s probably one of the big constants in my life. I have a hard time making friends, and making small talk with people. I would rather sit and have an interesting conversation than engage in the mediocrity of “small talk”. Sometimes when I talk to people, in trying to make small talk, I will usually fumble over words or draw a blank. It’s just not something I’m good at (unless I have a drink or 3) and it makes me self conscious. And extroverts would do well to remember– if you’re in a situation where there is a very quiet person, don’t ask them why they are so quiet..I LIKE to be engaged in conversations, and don’t need it pointed out that I’m quiet!

  43. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Ryan,

    Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences! You sound like a very healthy introvert, and I enjoyed reading your comments :-)

    Laurie

  44. Ryan says:

    This information has helped me out tremendously. I always felt like the odd one out, even like I was lost. I absolutely love spending ‘me’ time. Researching things at home on the internet that I’m fascinated with, etc. Nature is also a love of mine and it should be for everyone else as well.

    I’ve recently dabbled in simple meditation, and it truly changed my life for the better, and continues to do so. I’ve found that my out take on life was simple and revolved only around physical and mental aspects. While physical and mental aspects change throughout your entire life, there is one thing that always stays the same. I believe that is your spirit, the real you. I’m not talking about an ego, as I believe that is a mental aspect.

    I spent so much time looking into myself and trying to decifer who I was and why I didn’t fit in with certain social groups that it drove me crazy. The number one thing that led me to have peace with myself, was dropping my ego. Not caring AT ALL about what others think of who I am, what I do, or what I look like. The next thing was for me personally to stop judging others in any negative ways, or thinking negative about anything in general.

    Love who you are, Love mother earth, love father sky, and love and embrace our creator, while thinking positive about everything, and I assure you your life will be greater than you ever expected.

    Much love

  45. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Yay! I love to hear from introverts who finally realize there is nothing wrong with their personality traits. Being an introvert can feel awkward, especially if your parents or family members didn’t realize you were an introvert, didn’t explain that it’s just a different set of personality traits.

    I hope more and more introverts learn to accept themselves for who they are…

  46. Jose says:

    Thank you thank you thank you just knowing that I am not crazy means a lot I have never known any introverts so just finding this is a blessing because I always felt different and was much discriminated for this by my family and by basically every extrovert I know who thought that being an introvert was an illness. I am finally proud of who I am because I realize there is nothing wrong with me and I can’t wait to make the most of myself to prove all the people in my life that THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME. Understanding brings so much peace of mind I am almost ashamed of myself for living in ignorance for such a long time. Advice to introverts don’t cling too much to people around you who care for you because you have been alienated for being an introvert it will push them away and will make them think you are obsessed.

  47. sunny suman says:

    Great read! thanks Laurie…
    I am more of an introvert personality type and want longer hours of life alone. That’s when I reflect and gain energy for rest of the day. Though, I also like to be in groups every now and then. And yes, I love parties!!!!:D
    I love my profession of a content writer. I’ve also worked as a network marketeer though.

  48. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hi Stella,

    I’m glad you’re here! And, you’re more normal than you think: about 95% of introverts and extroverts have a mixture of introverted and extroverted personality traits. Almost every single one of us — whether we’re introveted or extroverted — have a balance of both types of personalities.

    Some introverts are more extroverted than others, and some extroverts are more introverted than others. So, your tendency to feel extroverted now and then is totally normal. I don’t think it has anything to do with your profession per se…it’s just part of being human.

    That said, it may be that periods of solitude (if you experience those as a writer) bring out your extroverted personality traits. For instance, I’m an introverted writer who works at home full-time…and if I go for days without seeing anyone but my husband, I tend to display more extroverted personality traits. In other words, I want to PARTY with lots of people!! Even the most introverted of introverts needs human companionship once in awhile :-)

    I hope this helps answer your question, and I wish you all the best.

    Laurie

  49. Stella Benson says:

    Thank you Laurie, I’m very grateful to find this webpage! I understand myself a bit better now. Being an introvert can feel very alienating, especially when so many people don’t recognise this. I wonder if there’s such a thing as an introverts support group(I’m joking of course but it’s not such a bad idea).
    However there is something else I’d like to understand, even though I seem to fit the descriptions of an intravert, I also now and then have a great urge to be an extravert, some situations seem to inspire this in me. It it could be with people I know or don’t know.
    I’m an artist by profession. I’d be interested to have your interpretation or feedback on this please?

  50. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    That’s fascinating, thanks Susan!

    But I’m not surprised that introverts are better than picking activities for extroverts. Introverts seem, as a whole, generally speaking, more thoughtful and insightful than extroverts. I may take heat from people with extroverted personality traits for that, but I believe introverts tend to think more. Thus, they may have a better handle on people and activities and all that.

  51. Susan Z. Swan says:

    Interesting read. It is amazing how much “they are normal” can still end up sounding like there is something wrong with introverts though. :-) About a decade ago I was teaching an intensive summer course preparing Teaching Assistants to teach their first course that fall. One of the activities was designed to have the students do some perspective taking, so the extroverts were asked to create a class that would work well for introverts and vice versa. As it turned out, the introverts did a great job of creating learning activities that the extroverts loved. When the extroverts presented what they came up with for the introverts, to a person, the introverts were horrified. Turned out the extroverts chose what they thought would be “good for” the introverts–i.e. totally extroverted activities–rather than activities that accepted introverted preferences as normal. What a great lesson it was for us all!

  52. Gini Grey says:

    I find the whole introvert/extrovert topic interesting as I have shifted from one to the other over the years. In my childhood, teens and 20’s I was mostly an extrovert – quick to think, respond, enjoyed social outings (even though I was shy in groups where I didn’t know anyone, but very outgoing if I did know people)and was on the go endlessly.

    In my 30’s I burned out from all my over activity and was recommneded by an Ayervedic Dr. to slow down, meditate, relax in the evenings etc. I moved to a small, peaceful Island, and also started delving deeper into spirituality and began meditating regularly. Since then I have become more sensitive to the energy around me, and need much more alone time. I enjoy social gatherings every so often, but not for long periods of time. I crave silence and nature. So am I an introvert now?

    I’d be curious to hear from other readers if they found a change as they grew older or began meditating etc. I think for me as I have found a richness within – in inner silence and spirituality – I don’t need external activity so much and it can be draining at times to exert myself too much socially.

    Thanks for the interesting article, Laurie.

  53. Patty says:

    This was a very interesting read, Laurie. I’m definitely an introvert. Although I’ve never thought of this as abnormal, it does make parties and other social engagements uncomfortable. Since I’ve been a work-from-home freelance copywriter, I would say that I’ve become a bit reclusive. (Not sure if that’s a good or bad thing.) I truly prefer the quiet creativity of my own mind and intimate one-on-one social interaction to the over-stimulation I feel at larger events. Thanks for sharing your insight!

  54. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hi Ivy,

    Good point — I’ve had so many introverts comment on my articles and say they always felt weird, odd, and even abnormal. Yes, people with introverted personality traits can be looked upon as strange, even by members of their own family. I think that’s partly because introverts are less common in North America than extroverts.

    I hadn’t thought about being an introvert in a different country…interesting perspective! Japan definitely has different values and cultural norms than North America.

    Maybe we can’t accept that people are individuals because we’re uncomfortable with people who are different. We feel better when people are like us, when they have similar values, goals, personalities, and lifestyles. People who are different threaten our comfort zones, I think.

    An extrovert may not find the cure for cancer, but an introvert may not be able to raise the financial support or network with the right people to get the resources to continue looking for that cure! We need each other to reach our goals. In an ideal world, we’d all work together and use our strengths to make everyone’s life better. How’s that for fantasty? :-)

    Laurie

  55. Ivy says:

    I think it’s important to mention that different societies favor either introverts or extraverts. I am introverted and would probably be well thought of in Japan, where modesty, good manners and a quiet manner are held in high esteem. Aggressive, always-on-the-go personalities are favored in the US, and to a lesser degree, in Canada. In the latter countries, people who tend to be introverted are looked upon as strange or worse, mentally ill! Let’s remember that a cure for cancer will not be found by a social butterfly. Instead, a quiet, introverted researcher who is able to spend long amounts of time alone observing, pondering, etc. is the one who will find the cure. Why can’t we accept that people are individuals and each person has something of value to contribute to the world?

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