Comments on: How Do You Get Divorced? 4 Different Types of Divorce

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Sun, 20 Mar 2011 13:27:38 +0000

Thanks Sydney – I really appreciate your advice to Karen!

Karen – I want to add a “congratulations!” and applaud you for your courage to move out. It must be difficult to leave, after all those years. Leaving even the worst marriage in the world can be hard.

I find it hard to believe that you’d forfeit all your rights to an equitable divorce simply by moving out….but I find lots of things hard to believe! Call your local divorce resources — many cities have free legal advice for people.

I hope this helps, and that you come back and let us know how things go.

Blessings,
Laurie

By: Sydney

Sydney — Sat, 19 Mar 2011 23:35:59 +0000

@Karen, I think depends on the laws in your state and the circumstances under which you left may also have an impact (e.g. your husband’s abuse). In the state where I live, you have to live under separate roofs for 12 months to get what’s called a “no-fault divorce” (uncontested), so moving out not only didn’t hurt, but it was what I needed to do. Again, that may differ from one state to another.

I did a quick search and found the Modern Women’s Divorce Guide (http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/states/) which has a state-by-state list of resources that you might find helpful.

Hoping that things will work out for you.

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 18 Mar 2011 00:14:22 +0000

Hello,
I have been married for 35 years to a verbally abusive, self centered, deceiving and miserly man. We went through 2 years of marriage counseling–some things improved–but not enough for me to live with him.
I couldn’t stand living in my home anymore (children are grown) and told him I’d move out–did this July 2010.
He said he felt humiliated by my moving out. We have property assets and and my husbands business.

Did I forfeit my rights to anything by moving out of my residence? I eventually want a divorce, but right now would settle for monetary support. Am I entitled to that?

Thank you,
Karen

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 11:42:35 +0000

Divorce mediation is the best way to get things resolved.

By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 00:15:57 +0000

Jonathan,

Thanks for your comment — I’m glad this article provides a good summary of the different types of divorce! And, I agree — I hope more divorcing couples end their marriages with the more peaceful and less expensive collaborative divorce and divorce mediation.

By: Jonathan Kales

Jonathan Kales — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 17:20:13 +0000

In my Northern Virginia family law practice, about 25% of my work is collaborative divorce and divorce mediation. I think these are far better way for folks to divorce, and I look forward to the day when I am able to do far less divorce litigation.

Your article is quite helpful in giving folks a good nutshell on the options they have. Thanks.

By: Lilly

Lilly — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 16:32:29 +0000

I want to say – thank you for this!