If your parents try to control you, you feel like you’re being swallowed by a shark!
Use these tips to take your life back from controlling parents, and stop being manipulated by even the most well-meaning mom and dad…
Here’s a surprising twist on living with controlling parents:
“Giving up hope is one of the healthiest, most life-affirming things you could do for yourself,” writes Dr Laura Schlessinger in Bad Childhood – Good Life: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood. “If, of course, you follow my two-step plan: accept, and don’t pout.”
At first, “giving up hope” sounds negative and depressing — but after you read my explanation below, you may feel differently. Read Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You to learn how to give up up in healthy, positive ways.
Here are my five tips for coping with controlling parents…
Controlling Parents – How Do You Cope?
Let go of your need to please your parents
We grow up seeking approval, affirmation, and even love from our parents. Part of why it’s so difficult to confront our parents is we don’t want to disappoint or anger them. Even as grown children, we want them to keep loving us – even when we feel like we hate them! A tip for coping with controlling parents – or any toxic person in your life – is to recognize your need to please them, and let go of it. Or, at least learn how to live with it.
Cut your financial ties to parents who want to control
On How to Cope With Difficult Parents, a reader asked for help with her father. He’s making her life miserable – not to mention the effect he has on her husband and child! She mentioned that her father helped her get a mortgage loan, and he holds that over them. So…instead of staying financially beholden, she might find ways to free herself and take her life back. This might involve getting a bank loan and paying her dad back – even if the money was originally a gift. It’s not a “gift” if it’s taking an emotional toll. Or, if everyone agrees that money isn’t owed (the mortgage help or special baby food was a gift, for instance), then she might get him to sign something that states she doesn’t owe him money and he has no right to lord it over her. This black-and-white evidence might help them take money out of the father-daughter relationship.
Learn to recognize emotional blackmail (one of the best ways to take your life back)
If you have controlling parents, you may recognize that they disguise their criticism, try to make you feel guilty for past behavior, or constantly make you feel bad about your life. They don’t seem to want to let you live your life! Before confronting difficult parents, it’s important to recognize and learn to deal with emotional blackmail. Read books like the ones I featured, take a weekend workshop in assertiveness training, or talk to a counselor. Keep reminding yourself that you’re a grown adult – you’re not a child anymore, and you don’t have to succumb to emotional manipulations! A big part of this is learning to say “no” without feeling guilty.
Separate emotion from an action plan
Emotion says, “But I don’t want to confront my parents or move to a different city – I’m scared/tired/frustrated/miserable!” An action plan says, “I want a better life, better relationships. I don’t deserve to be treated like this. To stop this from happening, I need to (insert action plan here).” To confront your controlling parents, you’ll probably have to do something you don’t want to do: quit a job you love, move to a different city, set and stick to your boundaries, talk to a family counselor, get emotionally stronger, and stand up to other family members. It’s not an easy way to take your life back, but it’s effective.
If you’ve thought of getting counseling to help you cope with parents who control you, read How Psychotherapy Can Change Your Life – Beyond Talk Therapy.
Stop wishing your parents less controlling, or different
“Giving up hope is one of the healthiest, most life-affirming things you could do for yourself,” writes Dr Laura Schlessinger in Bad Childhood – Good Life: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood. “If, of course, you…accept, and don’t pout.” Those controlling parents are yours, and if you’re still wishing they were different, you need to stop! You don’t need to give up hope for a better relationship with your parents – but you need to stop hoping they’ll change. They’ll continue to be overbearing and difficult to take….but luckily, you’re a grown adult and you are free to distance yourself emotionally, physically, socially, and financially. You can choose to live your own life!
Another book to help you cope with controlling parents is Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life.
If your controlling parents are older, read How to Help Elderly Parents Who Don’t Want to be Helped.
If you have any thoughts on coping with parents who try to control you, please comment below.
The only advice I can share to other adult children of overly controlling parents is,
Get out young!! I am 31 going on 32 and it took me a while to understand that no matter what I changed of myself, or how much I contributed monetarily and household projects or chores, I was still only afforded a minor child’s amount of freedom. Don’t fool yourself into thinking the more you help your parents, the more they will see you as an adult. It won’t happen. I’m still getting calls and emails from my controlling mother even though I haven’t lived with her in nearly 6 months. In the emails she demands things of me like answering questions. She belittles me, attacks my choices, all because she craves that control, and by removing myself from the control equation, I have created a once controlling mother who is now trying to hold onto any control she can get. She has other issues as well, but I find it exhilarating not to have to answer those emails or questions!! It’s like a gift of power to myself that I don’t have to give in to the 3rd degree and be grilled for hours on end until I was made to divulge, make something up, or take her position or opinion on a matter. In short, you can’t love so much, pay into, bribe, write letters, beg, or pray a parent to change their controlling habits. However, you can change you! Your peace of mind is worth so much more than the effort of years of trying. If you leave early enough you will also get a better sense of your own identity, not one parents have created for you. 31 years old and barely leaving home is a by product of my parents manipulation and the “They need my help” excuse I gave myself for not having the strength to just get out. To have control over one’s self is a feeling of doubt at first but is followed by confidence and relief. After you keep you alive for a while without help from your overbearing folks you won’t ever wanna get yourself under their thumbs again. So just get away, and start being independent as young as you can.
Well ever since I graduated from highschool just this summer my dad told me that quote “i’m so proud of you for doing so well in school,you can take the summer off” and I followed his advice and took the summer off and you know what it was relaxing but since its September now my father has started to tell me what i should be doing with my life and how to do it. I’m 19 now and I have been doing my very best to find a job, but most of the jobs do require a degree. I’ve had to start the apprenticeship and Trades workplace math 11 because I had to redo grad 10 math which required a provincial exam in my last year of high school. I started the math course a week ago and I had to work out a schedule of what I think when I’d finish the course and from September 14-May 15 it layed out 1 task a week with 3 hours a week to work on the tasks at hand and to where my teacher and I thought it was reasonable though when I showed schedule to my parents they said I should do more hours a day for the lessons like do 8 hours of Math a day. In those terms I don’t think I can do 8 hours a day of math that’s why I said 3 hours or more a week for me is reasonable. I don’t disagree with my parents but when they tell me quote “lets write a list of things you should do daily to fill the day when you do this 3 or more hours a day/week to even out the day? I say go ahead lets sit down and figure them out. My dad tells me I should tell him my plans and decisions for where i want to be in my life I say alright fine, but I don’t tell him because we sat down before and I told him the same story and tells me I shouldn’t start a cafe with my school because it ain’t happening and for that he doesn’t support me. He says I support you in everything you do and later doesn’t say it. That’s a contradicting statement. I’m barely out of high school and I don’t need my parents telling me what to or how to do it. I am so tired of pleasing my parents and what ever I do to please them doesn’t work.
Im 17 and my relationship with my mum was great at first now its on and off more ofs than on, its turned out that i hate being around her now. in order to distance myself i absorb myself into my computer and as a result of that she told me that i have no life to quote her she said “your geek, but not the clever one your the one with no life” and that hurt be soo much now i know what she really thinks of me. also she told me i have bad interactional and social skills and she says i dont socialise with people enough i try to socialise and i went to dinner with some people last night and she got furious with me because it got dark i mean i know im not supposed to stay out late but i couldnt help the fact that the service was slow and i got hell for it she cut me off on the phone infront of the new people i was with and they had to walk me home so that my mum wouldnt upset me too much . she keeps saying shes sstressed and i try to help as much as i can on top of all the studies im doing to please her, its come t the point now that my grades are more important to her than me and theres a ton of other stuff and not enough space to right it in all i know is that my mum is insensitive i cant talk to her about how much she upsets me last time i tried she said she thought i had a neurological problem and she was going to take me to a psychologist since then i hold everything in and i never speak to anyone i have 1 friend who i talk too, but hes been having a few troubles of his own lately so i try not to stress him with mine so i hold it all in now i just want out all i want is out ive chosen a Uni thats a good 1hr 30mins on a train away from home my only regret is that there isnt a Uni that i need to go to further away…. only option is America but i cant afford it.. im just so stressed i cant think straight im not able to shrug things off like i used too… its all just too much now…
I have been recently graduated from college for about a year, and I had to move back in with my parents, and I have regretted it every moment since then. My relationship with my mother has always been rocky, just because we are so much alike, but it’s taken a turn for the worse ever since I came back. Nothing has seemed to please her since I came home. She does not like my friends, she does not like my boyfriend, etc. She says she only wants the best for me, but her “best” and my “best” are totally different. We fight about absolutely everything, and it has gotten to the point of where I just don’t care of fixing my relationship with her. She constantly uses everything I tell her against me. She has cut me off from family members and cousins since I was little; and to make matters worse, I can’t talk to my father because he takes her side on everything. Nothing or no one is ever good enough. I haven’t been so tired of fighting in a long time..
I have a father that constantly and hurtfully does things but does it in a way where he supposedly has plausible deniability. I moved out with my husband at the age of 19, and have a child with a special condition with my husband. I met my husband when I was 17 and have been with only him until present day. It has been a constant argument between my father and I, although he doesn’t say the specific words, my husband will never be good enough even if we become millionaires and very socially ept. It is always about money with my father. My very first car I needed to sell because it kept breaking down all the time. So I sold it when I was almost 20. I bought a convertable and found out 2 weeks later I was pregnant. I kept that car because I did not have the credit to immediately go and get another vehicle. But about a year later I needed a bigger car. Dad had to be the cosigner on the vehicle. My family does not make much money but we do have the ability to pay for the car and insurance. But he refuses to let me pay for it. I have tried to pay the vehicle off several times in the past couple of years, and it always resorts to- it is my father’s job to pay for the vehicle. But then he complains and bitches about it. Then he constantly belittles my husband and I’s parenting skills. If we discipline our child, at all, in any form or fashion, before we can even finish getting our words out, he is already “saving” our child from us. WHEN WILL IT END? I think when my husband and I get financially sound, we will have to literally move, pay off the vehicle, and then pay him back for everything he has ever helped us with. Heck, I might even give him the vehicle since he’s the one that has paid for it anyway. Although he claims it was gifts each and every time he helped, he holds it over our heads like we are a life-sucking burden.
My father hates me. I am 34,married, and have 4 kids. I can tell him i am applying for a better paying job but have to relocate. I get youre not smart enough and u cant move that far away. I get phone calls everyday will u do this will u do that for me i cant even get a day off on my days off. If i have plans its put off cause my parents call wanting me to mow, take care of his dad for a bit,go to the store, help build, help the neighbor, the family. I dont even have time for my on family. I work 40hrs a week and then I have to help them. Im so tired of it. Whats sad is i have other siblings who are out of the house and they dont call them for help. I dont make a lot of money so im treated like trash compared to my siblings.
My mother is so controlling and I think she has always hated me. I started to have a problem with DHS, I pretty much got them out of my life right away but she got my workers number and started to call her, telling her all sorts of things that wasn’t nessarry or true she has always wanted to take my children away. now she has suseeded she has my 3 boys,my daughter she said she didn’t want cause she was a girl. I don’t understand why dhs listened to them. I even had my parient mentor tell me she was the only thing that was making me lose my kids. funny how it was all lies. and now she has destroyed 4of my childrens lifes and mine is destroyed my depression is really bad now and i don’t believe it will get any better. I wish i had enough money to fight and somehow prove it all
i have just turned 18 and im ready to make my own decisions. my mom has recently divorced my dad and everything is basically ” complicated.” My mom relies on me for everything. for example, i cook every meal of the day, take care of my ( fully grown 12 year old sarcastic) sister who can most definitely take care of herself, clean, etc. All my mom does is come home from work and sleep. Oh and spend time with her boyfriend. My mom made me stay in town another year because she thinks im not mature enough. i dont understand what makes her think that if i basically do everything around the house plus fulfill my own needs and school work. Every time i try to make her understand that i am now an adult she tells me that ” im immature, that while i like under her roof i will follow her rules, and that im not old enough to be all that.” im working on getting my own place and getting a job but other the that i still feel like a child under her shadow. i dont know what to do, or if its me anymore.
I have parents that never trust me. I’m 21 and I live with them. Everyday they bring home successful stories about other people my age. I graduated college and because of the economy I am doing a job tht has nothing to do with my degree. They blame me everyday. And I can’t go anywhere like meeting with friends, go to the beach.. Everything is at the same time dangerous and waste of time for them. They are never satisfied with anything that I do. Moving out is not an option cuz I got no money. I don’t know what to do!!!
My mother just demands more and more money off me. If the bills were going up, which they are not, I would accept the fact that they need more money. But as I have pointed out, the bills aren’t going up. I’m 20 years old, and I want control over my life.
If I didn’t get any money, I would be out on the street by now, I’m not even a daughter to my mother any more, even she has admitted I’m just a person who lives in their house. I’m treated like some finance girl, and I’m sick of it. She’s hit me in the past, she’s actually physically scarred me, I can’t get anything right, everything I do I get yelled at, I get no thanks when I try to help, when I try to do something, like wash the pots, she’ll tell me to leave them, and when I don’t do it, I get yelled at. I can’t freaking win.
My father has been overly critical of me my whole life even though he really hasn’t been in it much. He also likes to give “advice” which is basically telling me what I need to do. I have never followed any of his advice because he has the most miserable life and somehow I’ve managed to do just fine without it. I decided that not having a relationship with him would probably be better for me than having one. He is constantly talking about suicide and at this point I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t care if he finally did it and no longer put his baggage on my head. Perhaps that sounds cold but If I as his daughter am lower on the totem pole than his two dogs which are the greatest things that ever happened to him and the two sons he never had than so be it. I have a wonderful family that gives me more joy and blessing than he ever did.
My dad is a very spiteful revengful man . Him and my mom had a nasty divorce and custody battle . Well I just got back from a 2 week visit with my mom , who I haven’t seen in 8 years , and he is mad because I want a relationship with my mom . He has told lies about her and I to my brother and sisters . I have been crying because that’s my dad and he shouldn’t treat me like this . He treats his dogs better than he treats me . I just don’t know what to do anymore . It’s like if I have a relationship with my mom I can’t have one with him .
Well me n my mom have nevr gottn along. I ran away whn i was bout 2 turn 15! She always made me feel fat, whn she use 2 make dresses 4 my niece she would tell me she ddnt find a form 2 me. Now am 25 n she curses @ me 4 no reason. Idk wat 2 do.?
Very painful,i hv alwys known tht my mom wud snap at me wenevr she felt like,frm a vry young age of around 10,she wud call me names lyk ‘witch’,fool,hit me wth anythn she lays her hands on,bt ths ws alwys disguised by wen she is happy she wud a luvn,carin,supportive mom,bt it wont last fr long…im nw 29 bt nothing hs changed,she stil snaps at me fr no reason,at tyms calls me a fool,she doesnt respect me,want to mak decisions fr me en wants me to follow watevr she says,its so hurting cz am scared to let her knw hw i feel cz i dnt want her to think im bigheaded nw tht im an independent person,i do earn my own salary en dnt ask fr anythn frm anyone…ths is so stressing me,she wants to boss me around…
When you say because your not American and don’t have much freedom, well I’m American and my parents still control an manipulate me. I am adopted by this family and the minute that they stopped receiving money from me being adopted they wanted to kick me out of the house started ignoring me and everything else.
I’m 18 years ond and i hate how my parents control me, like what to dress, how to acts, and now they want to move and the worst part is they dragging me with the too. But I don’t want to leave my life my friends my memories by boyfriends that loves me deeply, I love him too can’t imagine my life without him. When they told me that they want to move I was like no I don’t want to but they said we didn’t ask he. I got so sad when they said that, I felt like they didn’t care about me but they do, they parants so which parant wouldn’t cake about their child? I wish I had my rights like american people do, do what ever when they 18+. But I’m not an American I’m ahiska Turkish.. And i cant make my own chooses now I have to get married then make my own chooses with my husband…. Hated it really much all because of being controlled by my parants. Can anybody help me.. I really don’t wanna run away from home… Plz help anybody
Here’s my question and situation. I know my parents are controlling me here it goes my boyfriend is 37 and I am 19 the controlling started off from the very beginning of the relationship on me having to tell them where I was going setting times for me and my bf really didn’t like that. It got so bad that it started to take a toll on our relationship and just kept getting worst. He did some really bad things so he’s not perfect but I learned to put those mistakes behind me and just move forward but with my parents they just kept keeping a grudge an hating him and the most recent situation is he got caught up in something with my brother that had to do with drugs ( that he never did get or do) and him and my brother got caught and my parents forbid me from even going out to date him which I think is extremely controlling when the decision who I date isn’t even there decision. So they threaten me and tell me if I want to date him then I have to get out of there house and I feel things are going so far south that when I do move out and marry my bf we are not going to even want them involved with our life because of all the drama they put us through. Any advice please give HELP!!!
I empathise with everyone here and I feel your pain. Many of the stories are mirror images of my own. At the age of 36, I am forced to deal with tirades from a mother who cannot understand that it is the natural course of life that when your offspring become adults they will go off and live their own lives and you will hear from them periodically.
If I allow this to continue, I will end up having a breakdown or doing something crazy and that is unacceptable because I have a right to live my life in happiness, free from emotional blackmail, emotional abuse and domineering. My attempts to reason with her, placate her or reign her in with boundaries and rational thought have failed. The only way I can escape this is to go abroad where they won’t be able to get at me. A drastic decision but nothing else has worked.
I am working with my Dad overseas, he asked me to give it a year – but now he does not want me to leave.. I know he is maybe scared or finding it hard to let me go but i came to work with him and learn, and then go back to my home country and go to university.
I had gotten in a relationship 5 months before i left and that has been another added element, in making my Dad not wanting me to go back i think, because i think he thinks i am giving up my opportunities here to go back just for him.. But that is not the case i always wanted to go back.
It is hard to see if staying here is the right decsion or going back is. I feel as though my Dad is looking out for me ( in which he is disapproving of my relationship), but for what he wants, i feel homesick and although i am doing a good job here and i am enjoying it , i feel as though i am sitting in a movie that i dont want to watch.
I feel torn, i have half my family here overseas, and i have another half back at my home country…. what can i do?? any advice??
Why do parents get offended when you want to leave as an adult?
My parents are exactly the same. They always lie and say no one leaves home at my age even though I’m 25! They always lie and guilt trip me like this. Why do parents always tell us to act our age, but if we want to leave home they get angry? Contrary to belief I’m not a child anymore.
Im 14 years old and i was planning on buying Oblivion for my computer with my birthday money i got from aunt and uncle they didn’t have it at the store so i was going to buy the downloadable version from gamestop’s website my dad said that i could do it the next day, when i asked the next day after cleaning my room he told me, no you should really save that money, i got really P.O.ed and now im sitting in my room not knowing what i should do
My whole life, i have grown up fearing my dad even when i know i havent done anything wrong his presence around me makes me feel tense to a point a contemplated commiting suicide,am now 24years and he talks to me like am a 12yr old…it has affected my education,social life,my self esteem.
I am 14 years old. and my parents have been controling my life for as long as i can remember. first is which class to take in high school and then is which friends to have. they already planned my future for me. i rather not list them or eles i might start crying again. they don’t like the way i dress because is too “boyish”. they never let me do the things i want to either. i am a good football player and a medal-winning swimmer, but they made me quit those things so i can focus on piano which i hate. they hate my friends because they are guys but they’re not so bad as they look. i am TIRED of having them controling over me. i am a rebel girl and i stand up to them without a fear in my mind but they fight back like threatening to sent me back to my home country. please help!!! i already did what i can and they’re not budging.
My parents are completely psychotic. After I completed college, they threw me out on the street, because I was leeching off them. Plus, I had to learn to “suffer” in order to improve my life. The last six years have been a rollercoaster of jumping from job to job and constant uncertainty. The whole time, my parents are sitting in the background beating me down whenever something bad happens and ignoring me the rest of the time. When something good happens, they suddenly change their tune and want me around. This hot and cold behavior has completely messed me up in the head and heart.
I realize now that I have spent my entire life trying to please and make them happy. I think that it is starting to sink in that it will never be good enough for them. Worse, I have always been on the edge of complete poverty, becuase my parents told me from graduation that I better learn to live in a cardboard box and eat grass before I come back to them for help. These things have scarred my psych and destroyed my faith in other people.
I was brought up to believe that my parents were going to love me no matter what. Well, that is what they told me anyways, but one more lie that they told just to get me to do whatever they wanted. I really hate them with an all consuming passion and have cut all ties with them. In fact, I spelled in a long letter what they had done to destroy our relationship and why I couldn’t be around them any longer for my emotional and physical health.
Still, they refuse to go away and claim to have no idea why I am so mad. I always ask people two important things about their parents: Will they help you out no matter the situation? Do they make you feel comfortable being yourself and making your own decisions? If both answers are no, then don’t waste your time with them. They will always be demanding that you conform to their desires and wishes. You will always be miserable.
Most important, always keep telling yourself this one important thing. You can break the cycle!!!! You don’t have to be like them and you can be a better person. Don’t be afraid to fall in love, raise a family, or do anything you want. Yeah, you are probably going to need a hell of a lot of therapy, maybe some medication, and some life skills training, but your destiny is not set. I see too many people out there closing themselves off to life’s beauty and opportunities, because they are too afraid they will hurt other people and behave just like their parents. Don’t fall into this trap!!!!
You will always be the child of your parents, but it is your decisions that determine your destiny. If you make the conscious choice not to follow their same destructive path, then you are doing a lot better job than most people. Hang in there, learn from every day, and never give up hope of having a truly happy life. Hell, everyone deserves!
No, You are in no way being irrational. I was in a similar situation and did what I thought my parents wanted me to do. Actually, it ended up really hurting me (quite badly) and then I thought, wow, they have to know now that they should let me make my own decisions and not get in the way. But, I don’t think they have even digested it, even tasted what I have been through. It feels like there is nothing that will help at this point to make them realize the effect they have on their adult kid’s life. So, all in all, you did a wonderful job and stood up for yourself. That is a great step, keep it up. I am focusing on that too, standing up for myself. Never think it is selfish, if you are doing what is right for you and what makes you happy, it is not selfish. All the best.
I completely understand and fully aware of controlling parents. I’m 23 and climbing a tunnel that has light at the end of it, my Mother will do everything in her power to remind me of my past and continually call me an adolescent miscreant. SO i finally found out that its my family that’s slowing me down. Yes I admit to all my problems and will face it , live with it and learn to cope and make things better. Yeah it’s going to be hard to make these changes. We can spend all the time in the world typing about our issues and things that make us upset, we all have something in common. We want change , we would like to be free , but we have to acknowledge our cons and embrace our pro’s and we do this just for us and no one else (even PARENTS) . Yeah it’s a scary thing to lose your parents, im not asking you to leave or ignore them however learn to not tell them everything that happens and keep your financial information to yourself, your parents don’t have to be the only people in the world you have to talk to. Utilize change and embrace your skills , amplify your life to the limit and discover new aspects about your life, LIVE damit! in the end we are all every man to himself you know, Live be free.
My parents are SO controlling. I am turning 20 years old this year, and they tell me what to do constantly. I try to assert myself. But all they make is threats of taking my cell phone away, computer, and basically making my life a living hell. I have a boyfriend who is amazing, and treats me like a princess. And of course my parents hate him, all because he is 4 years older than me. If anyone can give me some advice, I would greatly appreciate it!
I am a 39 year old woman with a mother who has never helped me financially but tells my family IM crazy and am a terrible mother. I suffer from depression due to the way I was raised and have been on medication my whole life for it. When it came to my children if I ever wanted to take away a cell phone for bad behavior or any game systems they had my mother would call me run me down and tell em I wasnt allowed to take it away. I got so fed up with her interference in my life and being told I wasnt wanted and would be nothing in life I tried to cut ties. She has terminal cancer now and I tried to put my differences aside and tried to help her but even now she calls me and yesterday she asked where I was and I said at home. She started screaming at me and told me to start treating her better and hung up the phone. Its to the point where I need to be far away from her but I dont want to leave my job and spouse to do that. she wont attend counselling to get our relationship better and doesnt want to try as IM too blame for the way it is. I know Ill never be anything to her as she treats my brothers like Kings and me like a lowly servant. How do I cut ties with a woman who has a year to live without regret? I dread the phone ringing and am scared to answer as all she does is run me down daily. She wont admit shes doing anything wrong, its my fault all the time. This is not normal behavior.
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so im 18 about to be 19, and i pay rent, and i buy my own food, and my parents say i still have to follow their rules. I do live in their house but how am i supposed to follow their rules? isn’t that the point of rent? they complain about the purchases i make such as a new laptop i bought for 400$, but i paid rent on time, EARLY EVEN!, and i can still afford to feed myself, yet they continue to bitch at my purchase and say that they feel used that im going to live there forever and i don’t have a game plan…. why do they care what i buy? i pay rent and buy my own food, it shouldn’t matter to them!, and they think i am addicted to World of Warcraft, so they say they are going to kick me out if i play it, or watch pornography. but they also said they are going to pay for the first months rent when i move out. which is fine, but they want me to be 19 to move out. and they compare me to them when they were 18 and 19, like i did this and we did that and blahblahblah… i mean i don’t care what they did, all i want to know is how do i get them to back off and let me do my own thing, i am really starting to resent them for the rules they are putting on me. and i am not addicted to world of warcraft. I work full time, and i still hang out with my friends and find time to work out. I have a very active social life, and even a gf! im busy all the time. So is it soo bad that i like to play video games like a normal teenager when i have nothing going on in the morning on my days off. I mean im busy mon-friday usually so i dont even play that much during the weekday, but how am i addicted to it, if i play it on my days off (sat-sunday). Please help!!! my parents are suffocating me. and telling me “why don’t you just tell us to kiss your ass im moving out??” i mean and after that they say “when you do move out we want you to be successful.” i mean i think they want me to move out soo badly they will do anything or say anything to get me out. I feel like love went out the door when i turned 18. i am starting to hate my home life. PLEASE HELP!
sincerely
Parker