Comments for Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog Got goals? Need a shove in the right direction? You'll find the quips and tips you need here. Wed, 22 Feb 2012 07:56:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on How Do You Help a Grieving Friend? 5 Ideas and Tips by dasyia http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-help-grieving-friend-ways-support-sad-friends/comment-page-1/#comment-40473 dasyia Wed, 22 Feb 2012 07:56:57 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=524#comment-40473 Hi, just would like some advise, me and my boyfriend had just started dating recently, I hadnt date in about 3 yrs just due to busy schedule my kids, ministry and my work also due being in a bad relationship before, I had a daughter that was gna turn 3 June 6,2006 she passed in Aprils 16, 2006 after she died it got real hard I lost myself my beliefs and went into depression her father wasnt really there for a year n half before she passed, will me being under depression I had all gaurds down and came back in, I got pregnant at a year later again, he hadnt change his ways, so It was very hard for me to open up to any man as far as a relationship wise. Just this past year after being single for 3 yrs n 8months I finally was giving.this one guy a chance I seen.alot of good in him and gave him a chance, we stayed as friends for 2 months before, well right when we started dating, his mom got real sick were he literlly had to move in with her and would get off work and straight there to take care of her, he and his family thought she was dealing with depression, he had to literlly take care of as baby! Well lil did anyone know she had cancer, they had rushher to er, and found out lungs were full.of water and cancer had spread, she stayd In hospital for a week in a half they did kimo and ddnt take it well and passed. I tried being there for him during this time, but I had started relocateing I own a daycare and so move moving and ppw plus my 2 kids but I did my best out of my schedule to there for him, I took half a week off, to be with him, well his ex had started sending me msgs trying to make me and him fight, she later said it was all made up, but it was too late cuz we had broken up, I understand how painful it is too grieve and everybody griefs different, I also feel bad cause I let that get in middle of us. Please help me Idk how to approach him, his ex is evil as we can.see and he has also have had problems with his brothers after their moms death due to money, its all sad and me and him wereso good friends, Im afraid he feels btrayed by everyone. Please help me. Thanks Hi, just would like some advise, me and my boyfriend had just started dating recently, I hadnt date in about 3 yrs just due to busy schedule my kids, ministry and my work also due being in a bad relationship before, I had a daughter that was gna turn 3 June 6,2006 she passed in Aprils 16, 2006 after she died it got real hard I lost myself my beliefs and went into depression her father wasnt really there for a year n half before she passed, will me being under depression I had all gaurds down and came back in, I got pregnant at a year later again, he hadnt change his ways, so It was very hard for me to open up to any man as far as a relationship wise.
Just this past year after being single for 3 yrs n 8months I finally was giving.this one guy a chance I seen.alot of good in him and gave him a chance, we stayed as friends for 2 months before, well right when we started dating, his mom got real sick were he literlly had to move in with her and would get off work and straight there to take care of her, he and his family thought she was dealing with depression, he had to literlly take care of as baby! Well lil did anyone know she had cancer, they had rushher to er, and found out lungs were full.of water and cancer had spread, she stayd In hospital for a week in a half they did kimo and ddnt take it well and passed. I tried being there for him during this time, but I had started relocateing I own a daycare and so move moving and ppw plus my 2 kids but I did my best out of my schedule to there for him, I took half a week off, to be with him, well his ex had started sending me msgs trying to make me and him fight, she later said it was all made up, but it was too late cuz we had broken up, I understand how painful it is too grieve and everybody griefs different, I also feel bad cause I let that get in middle of us. Please help me Idk how to approach him, his ex is evil as we can.see and he has also have had problems with his brothers after their moms death due to money, its all sad and me and him wereso good friends, Im afraid he feels btrayed by everyone. Please help me.
Thanks

]]> Comment on How to Get Over a Break Up When You Don’t Have Relationship Closure by moiriellee http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-get-over-a-break-up-when-you-have-no-relationship-closure/comment-page-1/#comment-40470 moiriellee Wed, 22 Feb 2012 02:39:31 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-40470 Read about you never really get over a break up as a bit of your heart breaks off well in that case does that mean there isn't any heart left if it all got knocked off? Wonder if that was my trouble in taking so long to heal and too long to love again that when I did it was too late and he had moved on and given up. Only to start all over again with the whole sad sorry process. Read about you never really get over a break up as a bit of your heart breaks off well in that case does that mean there isn’t any heart left if it all got knocked off?

Wonder if that was my trouble in taking so long to heal and too long to love again that when I did it was too late and he had moved on and given up.

Only to start all over again with the whole sad sorry process.

]]> Comment on How to Get Over a Break Up When You Don’t Have Relationship Closure by orianna http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-get-over-a-break-up-when-you-have-no-relationship-closure/comment-page-1/#comment-40468 orianna Wed, 22 Feb 2012 02:30:17 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-40468 Breaking up - someone said takes l month for every year. So if it is now 82 days since nc divide that by 7 = nearly three months next week that is three quarters of the way over. And that will nearly be a year in two months since I got dumped but there was contact and that put it all back again. Still think of it now but nc is better. I don't want to know what he is doing. Avoid him like plague. But hard when go somewhere you went tog. which can't avoid as went everywhere. Can't move. Breaking up – someone said takes l month for every year. So if it is now 82 days since nc divide that by 7 = nearly three months next week that is three quarters of the way over. And that will nearly be a year in two months since I got dumped but there was contact and that put it all back again. Still think of it now but nc is better. I don’t want to know what he is doing. Avoid him like plague. But hard when go somewhere you went tog. which can’t avoid as went everywhere. Can’t move.

]]> Comment on Why Men Cheat on Women – Insights From a Marriage Counselor by Maazia http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/learning-why-men-cheat-from-marriage-counselor-gary-neuman/comment-page-2/#comment-40465 Maazia Tue, 21 Feb 2012 08:32:16 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=421#comment-40465 Dear Alisha. i would like to advice you on this. i had somewhat similar situation as yours. i am in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. we love each other like anything. before our relationship he was sort of a guy who loved donig sex adventures. yes he used to call this as "ADVENTURE" so he did slept with few girls before we met. kept himself engaged with them for few months and use to have sex but that all he said was nothing but kind of thrill for him and he was never emotionally or mentally attached to anyone. then he met me and fell in love with me. his love started for me even though i did not get physical with him and yet our R/S begun to flourish. after some time we also got physical and it was out of pure love that we share that made us share our bodies too.i mean not the lust thing as for that he had other sources available. but in the begining years his ADVENTURE instinct was still alive and he slept with few random girls but good thing was he admitted that to me himself. he apologised and also asked me not to leave him as he cant survive without me and asked me to help him out to end this sex for just fun thing. Well as i love him and trust him and trust his love for me i didnt leave him because i understand here that some men do have this tendency to have sex with other women just for the heck of it or because of the strong sex instinct in them but that doesnt say that they love those women or are emotionally attached to them. well i worked it out with him and with my extra attention and love i finally made him to let go of other women. also i never kept on repeating or make him feel bad about what he did because he was sorry and wanted to improve. If someone is really sorry then he shouldnt be blame for it again and again. good thing that he realized that his adventure hurts me and i dont want this kind of thing in our r/s, and for him nothing is more important than my happiness. its been 3 years and he hasn't gone to any other women for sex and i truly believe that he would not in the future as well. i read that your man also has apologized to you and asking you not to leave him and that he loves you then i think oyu should give him a chance. give him that feeling that you trust him with what he is saying and that now it is up to him to not let your trust go down. also help him out with this thing. it is human to do mistakes but as a partner you should forgive his mistake if he is promising to improve. Good Luck. Dear Alisha.

i would like to advice you on this. i had somewhat similar situation as yours. i am in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. we love each other like anything. before our relationship he was sort of a guy who loved donig sex adventures. yes he used to call this as “ADVENTURE” so he did slept with few girls before we met. kept himself engaged with them for few months and use to have sex but that all he said was nothing but kind of thrill for him and he was never emotionally or mentally attached to anyone. then he met me and fell in love with me. his love started for me even though i did not get physical with him and yet our R/S begun to flourish. after some time we also got physical and it was out of pure love that we share that made us share our bodies too.i mean not the lust thing as for that he had other sources available.
but in the begining years his ADVENTURE instinct was still alive and he slept with few random girls but good thing was he admitted that to me himself. he apologised and also asked me not to leave him as he cant survive without me and asked me to help him out to end this sex for just fun thing. Well as i love him and trust him and trust his love for me i didnt leave him because i understand here that some men do have this tendency to have sex with other women just for the heck of it or because of the strong sex instinct in them but that doesnt say that they love those women or are emotionally attached to them.
well i worked it out with him and with my extra attention and love i finally made him to let go of other women.
also i never kept on repeating or make him feel bad about what he did because he was sorry and wanted to improve. If someone is really sorry then he shouldnt be blame for it again and again. good thing that he realized that his adventure hurts me and i dont want this kind of thing in our r/s, and for him nothing is more important than my happiness.
its been 3 years and he hasn’t gone to any other women for sex and i truly believe that he would not in the future as well.
i read that your man also has apologized to you and asking you not to leave him and that he loves you then i think oyu should give him a chance. give him that feeling that you trust him with what he is saying and that now it is up to him to not let your trust go down. also help him out with this thing. it is human to do mistakes but as a partner you should forgive his mistake if he is promising to improve. Good Luck.

]]> Comment on When Your Dog Dies – Tips From Pet Owners Who Understand by Sean Tighe http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/when-your-dog-dies-tips-for-healing-from-pet-owners/comment-page-6/#comment-40464 Sean Tighe Tue, 21 Feb 2012 03:21:24 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=484#comment-40464 Today I had to put my 8 year old Shih Tzu to sleep. He was always at home waiting for me to step through that door and was the best listener. He helped me get through many hard times in my life and he always loved his food and walks. However, when I was on vacation my mom called me and said that she rushed Paddy to the emergency pet hospital because he could not move anything but his eyes. The next day i got news that he had to be put down. The hardest part was that I was not able to say goodbye to him and that he died without me there. Also Shih Tzu dogs are expected to live upwards of 18 years so this was very unexpected and sudden. The comforting part is that he is now in peace and probably looking over me but i just want him to know how loved he is and how much he mattered to me. I want the best for him and since he could not eat or drink this was the best for him. Rest in peace Paddy you will be missed. <3 Today I had to put my 8 year old Shih Tzu to sleep. He was always at home waiting for me to step through that door and was the best listener. He helped me get through many hard times in my life and he always loved his food and walks. However, when I was on vacation my mom called me and said that she rushed Paddy to the emergency pet hospital because he could not move anything but his eyes. The next day i got news that he had to be put down. The hardest part was that I was not able to say goodbye to him and that he died without me there. Also Shih Tzu dogs are expected to live upwards of 18 years so this was very unexpected and sudden. The comforting part is that he is now in peace and probably looking over me but i just want him to know how loved he is and how much he mattered to me. I want the best for him and since he could not eat or drink this was the best for him. Rest in peace Paddy you will be missed. <3

]]> Comment on How to Cope With a Mother-in-Law Who Doesn’t Like You by Amy http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/mother-in-law-problems-how-to-cope-with-toxic-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-40463 Amy Tue, 21 Feb 2012 01:41:37 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=2990#comment-40463 Hi, I have dated my boyfriend for eight years now, and I am at a lost to what I can do. My boyfriend is rather controlling, and makes demands to my everyday life. I am very close to walking out of the relationship. I graduated a year ago, and I am doing my master's right now. Here is the problem, every since high school I've worked. Since graduating from college to now (ten months), I had a temporary job and now I am not working. My boyfriend and his parents are demanding that I move into their home to get a job in the area. I can't live with his parents because they are controlling, to the point I am told when I have to shower, which is ridiculous because I am twenty four years old. I can't live with someone telling me that I am not allowed to visit my family either. I don't know how to politely tell them to "eff off." What would be the best course of action? Hi, I have dated my boyfriend for eight years now, and I am at a lost to what I can do. My boyfriend is rather controlling, and makes demands to my everyday life. I am very close to walking out of the relationship. I graduated a year ago, and I am doing my master’s right now. Here is the problem, every since high school I’ve worked. Since graduating from college to now (ten months), I had a temporary job and now I am not working. My boyfriend and his parents are demanding that I move into their home to get a job in the area. I can’t live with his parents because they are controlling, to the point I am told when I have to shower, which is ridiculous because I am twenty four years old. I can’t live with someone telling me that I am not allowed to visit my family either. I don’t know how to politely tell them to “eff off.” What would be the best course of action?

]]> Comment on Coping With Controlling Parents? 5 Ways to Take Your Life Back by Juan http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/coping-with-controlling-parents-ways-to-take-your-life-back/comment-page-2/#comment-40462 Juan Mon, 20 Feb 2012 21:17:50 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=4887#comment-40462 Cameron, I understand where you are. I left home at 17 and a half. Never looked back, ended up with a wonderful relationship with my parents. They have passed on, but I was able to finally get respect from my mother. I spent time in the service, went back to school and ended up a school counselor. No matter what job that I had, my mother thought that I should get a better one. She finally liked the teaching position and the fact that I ended up a counselor and then a principal. But the one thing that I have learned in life is that you gotta be happy on the inside. Where you are at won't make you happy. I live in western Kansas and am as happy as a lark being here. Alabama didn't make you happy, your situation and a job that you liked made you happy. A sign at a friend of mine's home explains it best for me. It had a picture of a pretty flower in a flower pot with the following caption: "Bloom where you are planted"! Cameron,
I understand where you are. I left home at 17 and a half. Never looked back, ended up with a wonderful relationship with my parents. They have passed on, but I was able to finally get respect from my mother. I spent time in the service, went back to school and ended up a school counselor. No matter what job that I had, my mother thought that I should get a better one. She finally liked the teaching position and the fact that I ended up a counselor and then a principal.

But the one thing that I have learned in life is that you gotta be happy on the inside. Where you are at won’t make you happy. I live in western Kansas and am as happy as a lark being here. Alabama didn’t make you happy, your situation and a job that you liked made you happy. A sign at a friend of mine’s home explains it best for me. It had a picture of a pretty flower in a flower pot with the following caption: “Bloom where you are planted”!

]]> Comment on What is Self-Sabotage? How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself by Greg Weber http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/what-is-self-sabotage-how-to-stop-sabotaging-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-40461 Greg Weber Mon, 20 Feb 2012 20:07:38 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=8185#comment-40461 I also read the post by Eddie Selby. I agree that DBT is a great way to start seeing the ways we defeat ourselves. I did an intensive 6 month course in DBT several years ago and learned some important skills for overcoming my own self-sabotaging behaviors. I also read the post by Eddie Selby. I agree that DBT is a great way to start seeing the ways we defeat ourselves. I did an intensive 6 month course in DBT several years ago and learned some important skills for overcoming my own self-sabotaging behaviors.

]]> Comment on How to Cope With Difficult Parents – For Adult Children by SLS http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-cope-with-difficult-parents-for-adult-children/comment-page-4/#comment-40459 SLS Mon, 20 Feb 2012 17:34:45 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=229#comment-40459 Your article was helpful and made me realize I am not the only person living with parents that are just not there for me. I grew up with a narcasisstic mother who only thinks of herself. She is cruel and if you do not agree with her or make her center of attention you will pay the price. My father has just given up and makes me angry for never sticking up for me. I am successful today as an adult and happily married. My husband and I are expecting our first baby together. My mother always creates drama during happy times! At five months of pregnancy my mother picked a ridiculous fight and refuses to speak to me and my family (she is threatened by my happiness). It has been so hard on me and my husband. I feel so happy in my personal life with my husband and baby on the way but feel as if my mother should want to be there for me and to meet her new grandchild. I go back and forth to end the stand off she has created but have dealt with this crazy behavior of hers for over 38 years now! Christmas, my Birthday, and two hospital stays have passed and I have still not heard from her. Part of me wants my mom to apologize and be there for me and the other part wants to never look back at the horrible treatment I have experienced from her all of my life. Life is hard living without loving parents makes it even harder. I will never act like this towards my children and believe this has made me the empathetic loving person I am today! Your article was helpful and made me realize I am not the only person living with parents that are just not there for me.
I grew up with a narcasisstic mother who only thinks of herself. She is cruel and if you do not agree with her or make her center of attention you will pay the price. My father has just given up and makes me angry for never sticking up for me. I am successful today as an adult and happily married. My husband and I are expecting our first baby together. My mother always creates drama during happy times! At five months of pregnancy my mother picked a ridiculous fight and refuses to speak to me and my family (she is threatened by my happiness). It has been so hard on me and my husband. I feel so happy in my personal life with my husband and baby on the way but feel as if my mother should want to be there for me and to meet her new grandchild. I go back and forth to end the stand off she has created but have dealt with this crazy behavior of hers for over 38 years now! Christmas, my Birthday, and two hospital stays have passed and I have still not heard from her. Part of me wants my mom to apologize and be there for me and the other part wants to never look back at the horrible treatment I have experienced from her all of my life. Life is hard living without loving parents makes it even harder. I will never act like this towards my children and believe this has made me the empathetic loving person I am today!

]]> Comment on 10 First Date Conversation Starters – Small Talk Made Easy! by Krish http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/first-date-conversation-starters-how-to-make-small-talk/comment-page-1/#comment-40453 Krish Mon, 20 Feb 2012 10:46:51 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=244#comment-40453 Hi Rachel, Go forward, without allowing your mind to feel shyness. Always feel that you are dominant over the guy with whom you are talking. Thanks Krishna. Hi Rachel,

Go forward, without allowing your mind to feel shyness. Always feel that you are dominant over the guy with whom you are talking.

Thanks
Krishna.

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