Quips & Tips for Life Goals
A teen wrote me, saying she hates how things are at home but she can’t change her family situation. These tips are for people who need help surviving things they have no control over. Here’s part of what she said: “Sometimes people like me, have to endure the pain and just go through life with [...]
On my article about depression when you can’t get pregnant, a reader asked how to connect with other women coping with infertility. I don’t have an infertility forum, and I didn’t want to start a thread about coping with infertility on my fertility Quips and Tips blog because it’s too pregnancy-related. Readers have complained that [...]
Your partner leaves, and you can’t stop yourself from calling him. Worse, you keep begging him to come back to you and start over…and you hate yourself for it. “I hate to plead but I have, says Girl25 on my article about moving on after your boyfriend leaves you. “I’ve asked for him to recall [...]
Can’t make up your mind? Here are five simple decision-making strategies to help you decide about anything life brings to you. Maybe you’re not sure if it’s time to say “I love you” – or how you should propose to your girlfriend. Or, maybe you’re confused or even paralyzed about buying a cell phone, car [...]
The first major disappointment I faced in life was not getting into graduate studies at Cornell, 20 years ago. My most recent disappointment is not getting a practicum placement now that I’m in grad school at UBC (I’m getting my Master’s of Social Work). That was two months ago. And I’ve had lots of — [...]
My friend just announced her pregnancy; I’m happy for her, but sad for us. Here’s how I deal with the sadness and frustration of not getting pregnant. We can’t have babies, and aren’t pursuing fertility treatments. I’m usually okay with my childless life – I’m the Bounce Back Babe, after all! But sometimes it hurts. I’ve [...]
Major life changes include break ups, death, natural disasters, and even the loss of a friend or colleague. These tips for adapting to change are general enough that they apply to most situations, and numerous enough for you to find one that works for you. I’m thinking about calling myself the Adept Adaptor because change [...]
Self-sabotage is when you put obstacles in front of yourself. Self-sabotaging behavior means you set yourself up to fail – sometimes without even knowing it. What makes things trickier is the fact that the signs of sabotage and self-defeat aren’t the same for everyone. The results of self-sabotaging behavior, however, are similar: depression, despair, defeat, and [...]
The first tip for learning how to declutter your home is to focus on why you want to be clutter free! Once you realize that clutter decreases energy, saps creativity, and creates chaos, then you’re more likely to declutter your home on an ongoing basis. These tips for decluttering your home are from Pat Heydlauff, an [...]
The best way to achieve your goals is to know the different types of goals you can set and work towards. It’s not enough to just “have goals.” Here, I describe the difference between self-improvement (mastery) goals versus performance goals. Luckily, it’s more interesting and easier than it sounds. This research describes different types of [...]
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