Apr 062013
 
How to Survive a Situation You Can’t Change

A teen wrote me, saying she hates how things are at home but she can’t change her family situation. These tips are for people who need help surviving things they have no control over. Here’s part of what she said: “Sometimes people like me, have to endure the pain and just go through life with

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Mar 242013
 
How Are You Coping With Infertility? Tips, Ideas, Stories

On my article about depression when you can’t get pregnant, a reader asked how to connect with other women coping with infertility. I don’t have an infertility forum, and I didn’t want to start a thread about coping with infertility on my fertility Quips and Tips blog because it’s too pregnancy-related. Readers have complained that

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Mar 172013
 
3 Reasons to Stop Begging Him to Come Back

Your partner leaves, and you can’t stop yourself from calling him. Worse, you keep begging him to come back to you and start over…and you hate yourself for it. “I hate to plead but I have, says Girl25 on my article about moving on after your boyfriend leaves you. “I’ve asked for him to recall

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Jan 082013
 
How to Make a Good Decision About Anything

Can’t make up your mind? Here are five simple decision-making strategies to help you decide about anything life brings to you. Maybe you’re not sure if it’s time to say “I love you” – or how you should propose to your girlfriend. Or, maybe you’re confused or even paralyzed about buying a cell phone, car

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Nov 232012
 
4 Ways to Recover From Disappointment

The first major disappointment I faced in life was not getting into graduate studies at Cornell, 20 years ago. My most recent disappointment is not getting a practicum placement now that I’m in grad school at UBC (I’m getting my Master’s of Social Work). That was two months ago. And I’ve had lots of —

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Nov 212012
 
When Your Friends Are Pregnant and You Can’t Conceive

My friend just announced her pregnancy; I’m happy for her, but sad for us. Here’s how I deal with the sadness and frustration of not getting pregnant. We can’t have babies, and aren’t pursuing fertility treatments. I’m usually okay with my childless life – I’m the Bounce Back Babe, after all! But sometimes it hurts. I’ve

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Nov 142012
 
5 Tips for Adapting to a Major Life Change

Major life changes include break ups, death, natural disasters, and even the loss of a friend or colleague. These tips for adapting to change are general enough that they apply to most situations, and numerous enough for you to find one that works for you. I’m thinking about calling myself the Adept Adaptor because change

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May 202011
 
Self-Sabotaging Behavior - How to Get Out of Your Own Way

Self-sabotage is when you put obstacles in front of yourself. Self-sabotaging behavior means you set yourself up to fail – sometimes without even knowing it. What makes things trickier is the fact that the signs of sabotage and self-defeat aren’t the same for everyone. The results of self-sabotaging behavior, however, are similar: depression, despair, defeat, and

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Nov 222010
 
Different Types of Goals - Self-Improvement Vs. Performance Goals

The best way to achieve your goals is to know the different types of goals you can set and work towards. It’s not enough to just “have goals.” Here, I describe the difference between self-improvement (mastery) goals versus performance goals. Luckily, it’s more interesting and easier than it sounds. This research describes different types of

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