Identity & Life Tips

How to Survive a Situation You Can’t Change

How to Survive a Situation You Can’t Change

A teen wrote me, saying she hates how things are at home but she can’t change her family situation. These tips are for people who need help surviving things they have no control over. Here’s part of what she said: “Sometimes people like me, have to endure the pain and just go through life with […]

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How Are You Coping With Infertility? Tips, Ideas, Stories

How Are You Coping With Infertility? Tips, Ideas, Stories

On my article about depression when you can’t get pregnant, a reader asked how to connect with other women coping with infertility. I don’t have an infertility forum, and I didn’t want to start a thread about coping with infertility on my fertility Quips and Tips blog because it’s too pregnancy-related. Readers have complained that […]

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How to Overcome Your Fear of What People Think

How to Overcome Your Fear of What People Think

Written by on November 28, 2012 in Emotional Health Tips, Identity & Life Tips, Resilience with 4 Comments

Do you sometimes feel paralyzed because of what people will think about your appearance, performance, opinions, and choices? These tips for overcoming fear of what people think are from life coach Arianna Merritt, M.Ed. “For years, I kept my mouth shut as I was too shy to speak up,” she says. “While I wasn’t afraid of […]

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How to Help Teenage Girls Who Are Being Abused at Home

How to Help Teenage Girls Who Are Being Abused at Home

Written by on November 20, 2012 in Identity & Life Tips, Psychology Tips with 0 Comments

It’s not easy to help girls and teenagers who are experiencing abuse or oppression at home, but it is possible if you recognize the power you have. You may have a lot less power than you’d like, but you may have more power than you know. Here’s an excerpt of an “anti-oppressive practice” paper I’m […]

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Help for Foster Kids – 6 Ways to Overcome Shame and Powerlessness

Help for Foster Kids – 6 Ways to Overcome Shame and Powerlessness

I was in 3 foster homes before I turned 12; my mom was single and schizophrenic. I didn’t realize how rare it is for foster kids to overcome shame, powerlessness, and poverty until I wrote a cultural self-identity paper for school (I’m getting my MSW at UBC). Growing up, I was neglected, on welfare, and […]

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Will I Regret Not Having Children?

Written by on October 2, 2012 in Emotional Health Tips, Identity & Life Tips with 0 Comments

Q: My husband and I married last year at the age of 42 – this is the first marriage for both of us. I can’t decide if I want to try to have a child….I always thought that having a child was ‘a given’ but now that I’m 43, I wonder and am concerned. Do […]

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My Boyfriend Isn’t Ambitious – Will He Drag Me Down?

Q: I am deeply in love and in a relationship with a man who is ten years older than me. Despite the age difference, we have a great time and lots of fun. My biggest problem with him is that I’m in my 20′s and life is just starting for me, but he has NO […]

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How Do I Convince My Mom That Living With My Boyfriend Is Okay?

Written by on September 17, 2012 in Family Tips, Identity & Life Tips with 0 Comments

Q: I was raised with Christian values, and pre-marital sex is not something my mom agrees with. She wants me to live a Christian lifestyle. I understand this, but I don’t see living with my boyfriend as that big of a deal. My boyfriend and I cherish each other, and sex is not something that […]

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Accepting a Childfree Life – How to be Happy When You Can’t Have Kids

Accepting a Childfree Life – How to be Happy When You Can’t Have Kids

Written by on July 27, 2012 in Happiness Tips, Identity & Life Tips, Psychology Tips with 12 Comments

If you haven’t chosen a childfree life, you need to know how to be happy without having children of your own. These tips on accepting life without kids are from me – a woman who has accepted infertility. Accepting a childfree life is easier said than done, right?  But listen… “The willingness to win OR […]

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How to Be You When Your Family Wants You to be Someone Else

How to Be You When Your Family Wants You to be Someone Else

Written by on August 26, 2011 in Family Tips, Happiness Tips, Identity & Life Tips, Resilience with 2 Comments

Your family wants you to be someone you’re not, and you’re tired of letting them run your life. Here’s how to be yourself when your family wants you to be someone else. These tips are inspired by a reader’s comment: “My family puts me down, and I have no voice at all,” says A. on […]

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