There is no best way to break free from the past that works for everyone – you need to try different things until you find what works for you.
And, you have to let Mother Nature do her job (let time heal!).
My most popular article is How to Let Go of Someone You Love - because moving on with your life is so difficult. Every day, that article gets hundreds of hits – and it barely skims the surface of letting go! I wanted to offer more (and better) information about saying goodbye and rebuilding life after loss, so I wrote 75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love.
In 75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love, I offer the best, most helpful tips and strategies for breaking from from the past from psychologists, life coaches, family therapists, and counselors. It’s about letting go of addictive relationships, affair breakups, estranged family members, and long-lost loves. This book is about healing, strength, and authenticity.
Break Free From the Past
Breaking free from the past isn’t something you do once – and poof! You’re free, healed, and happy! Rather, letting go is a journey peppered with steps forward and steps backward, good days and bad days, peaks and valleys.
How do I know? Because I’m an “old pro” at letting go. I grew up in foster homes, and was constantly saying hello and good-bye to new families, friends, schools, and cities. The downside of good foster homes is that it’s so hard to keep leaving and starting over. But I learned how to love, say good-bye, and open my heart to love again.
And I’ve loved and lost life partners – those heart-wrenching, gut-twisting breakups that slam you to the ground and rip you to pieces. Worse, though, was when my sister cut me out of her life. Five years ago, she told me she didn’t want to speak to me again and wouldn’t tell me why. That was the ultimate lesson in powerlessness and letting go.
If anyone knows how to break free from the past and move on with her life, it’s me!
All 15 chapters in this ebook about breaking free from the past start with a real person’s story of breaking up; some people have moved on while others are still trapped in the past. Maybe readers will recognize themselves in their stories. Even better, they’ll see how clinging instead of letting go steals their happiness, confidence, self-respect, and hopes for the future.
To learn more – and to see the Table of Contents – go to 75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love.
If you’re struggling to break from from a breakup, read Can’t Get Over the Break Up? How to Move Through the Pain.
And if you have any thoughts on breaking free from the past and moving on with your life, please share below…
I'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.