About Laurie

My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m a full-time writer and blogger. I created Blossom, which is a series of websites to help you listen to the still small voice, put down your burdens, and Blossom in your life.

Can you believe I’ve been earning a living as a full-time blogger since 2008? Amazing! Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t make it as a writer, artist, doctor, astronaut, preacher, or surfer. Listen to that still, small voice inside of you. Keep moving forward.

Random Stuff About Me

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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

  • I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Language Arts and Journalism at Rosslyn Academy – an American school in Nairobi.
  • My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton.
  • Until recently, I was a full-time grad student at the University of British Columbia (UBC), in Vancouver. I earned my MSW (Master of Social Work), and I now work on contract with Big Brothers and North Shore Crisis Services Society.
  • I was a volunteer Big Sister through the Big Sisters organization for three years. I was a Little Sister when I was 10 or 11, in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I’m still in touch with my Big Sister, who lives in Toronto, Ontario.
  • As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of publications, including Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More. I also wrote monthly articles for BC Women’s Hospital in Vancouver.
  • I earn a pretty good income from my Blossom blogs and ebooks.
  • My dad was born, raised, and currently lives in Jerusalem, Israel. He’s Jewish. I’m Christian. My mom lives in a group home on an acreage outside Prince Albert, Saskatchewan. She’s struggled with schizophrenia my whole life. I lived in foster homes as a child.
  • My husband and I can’t have kids because of azoospermia. We chose not to get in vitro fertilization or IVF, though we did try intrauterine insemination or IUI. We also chose not to adopt or foster kids. Instead, we’re focusing on the blessings and benefits of not having kids (and there are many many many).
  • I’ve written several ebooks. How to Let Go of Someone You Love: 3 Powerful Secrets (and 75 Tips!) for Healing Your Heart is my most popular.
  • Blossoming After a Breakup: 28 Days to Recover and Discover Your Sparkle is my favourite ebook, because it’s my latest one .

My purpose is to encourage people by sharing what I’ve experienced and how God has helped me through. I write to inspire people to listen to that still, small voice.

I’m particularly enchanted with the idea of encouraging women over 40 to flourish in a new season of life. After I turned 40, I got my Master of Social Work (MSW), taught myself to play the flute, and started painting with oils and acrylics (a dream come true for me). I also went on my first missions trip to Haiti.

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My Blossom Blogs

Blossom in Love started out as Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships. I “rebranded” and am now Blossom. My purpose is to encourage and empower women who are going through relationship breakups by helping them change what they tell themselves. Read Help Getting Over a Breakup – How to Change Your Story to learn how it works.

Blossom in Life was originally Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals. It covers everything from overcoming career obstacles to making more money. Articles range from toilet training your cat to the best investments for your money. That blog was supposed to help readers achieve their personal, professional, and financial goals…but my most popular article is 40th Birthday Gift Ideas for Her – Creative and Thoughtful.

Blossom in your Writing was first called Quips and Tips for Successful Writers. It’s the first blog I ever started, back in 2008. I love that blog, dude. It’s all about writing, editing, getting published — and blogging! There, I combine quips from famous published writers with practical writing advice. My most popular article is 11 Types of Articles to Write for Magazines, and I write about everything from “how to grab your reader by the throat” to “reasons book manuscripts are rejected.”

Blossom in Health – originally Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility – was the blog I started when we found out we can’t have kids. Infertility is a drag, but it doesn’t have to destroy our lives! My husband and I are riding the infertility roller coaster, but it hasn’t destroyed our dreams or crushed our spirits. Back in the day, I wrote articles about getting pregnant, dealing with childlessness, and even improving sperm count. Now, I write posts such as 9 Easy Ways to Make Your Menstrual Cycle Regular.

My eBooks

The “quips and tips” in my ebooks are not the same as the “quips and tips” on my blogs! All my ebooks include information and advice from a wide variety of sources. My ebooks aren’t just my tips — they’re me tapping into the brains of smart, experienced, educated, helpful people, and sharing what I learned.

75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Lovehow to let go of someone you love – to help people let go of the past and move on with their lives. Letting go is one of the most painful things you’ll ever do…but there are ways to make it easier.

How to Survive the Loss of Your Pet – for people who are struggling to cope with pet loss. I interviewed veterinarians, grief experts, and pet owners who loved and lost their animals. This ebook contains 75 tips for healing after pet loss.

75 Ways to Make (More) Money Blogging – to help writers and bloggers make money doing what they love! If you spend time and energy on your blog, you deserve to earn a few bucks for your efforts. This ebook isn’t just about making money blogging, it’s about building a better blog.

73 Ways to Fire Up (or Just Fire!) the Muse – to help writers and bloggers overcome fear, self-doubt, criticism, and uncertainty. After all, who wants to read age 95 and wish they had written that bestselling novel? Who wants to die with unfulfilled dreams and desires? Not me.

80 Ways to Say “I Love You” – was to help people like me, who struggle to find the right holiday, anniversary, and birthday gifts for their partners! This ebook is about more than gifts, though — it’s about saying “I love you” and building a more meaningful relationship in small, incredibly important ways every day.

That’s me, in a nutshell. What say you? Comments and questions welcome below. I can’t give advice, but I’m happy to listen to that still small voice inside you…



24 Responses

  1. Laurie says:

    Hello Desda,

    Thank you for your request! Yes, I’d be honoured if you published my Office Politics piece in your magazine.

    All good things,

  2. Desda Moss says:


    I am the managing editor of HR Magazine, published by the Society for Human Resource Management. We would like permission to publish one of your past blog posts as a sidebar to an article we are publishing in an upcoming issue:

    ◾Office Politics – 9 Secrets to Increasing Your Influence at Work

    Please let me know if we can obtain permission to publish this content.

    Desda Moss

    HR Magazine
    Alexandria, Va.

  3. Laurie says:

    Dear Haley,

    Thank you for being here – you sound like an awesome person! Very energetic and encouraging 🙂

    I’m honored that you’d consider working with me, but my focus is on writing. I don’t give advice — but I believe that having a mentor is incredibly important for anyone. It sounds like you just need a mentor or a Big Sister-type person in your life. I encourage you to keep your eyes open, and trust God to bring someone who can walk alongside you in that capacity. I’m not that person, but I know you will find the mentor you need if you keep looking and asking.

    Be well. You are stronger than you think, smarter than you know, and more beautiful than you give yourself credit for.


  4. Haley Creamer says:

    Hi Laurie,
    Your blog has made me feel better than any other blog I’ve ever read. You talk about a lot of things that I struggle with, and it makes me feel like there is hope in the future. I’m wondering, and this might be far-fetched, if you are able to do some sort of online counseling/advice giving? I’m a college student who has been struggling a lot over the past year, and it would be great to talk to someone who seems to have similar interests to me. Thank you so much! Love, Haley

  5. Terence says:

    Hi Laurie,

    I was search the web for stop stress eating ideas and saw your post on TheAdventurousWriter – http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/how-to-stop-stress-eating-late-at-night/

    Just wanted to give you a heads up that I created something that would be a great addition to an upcoming blog post on the topic (if you have any upcoming work on the subject). It’s a list of 51 stop emotional eating ideas with descriptions of each one.

    Let me know if this is something you’d be interested in and I can send it your way to check out.

    Either way, keep up the great work!

    – Terence

    P.S. Kudos on all your features on canadaartsconnect and besthealthus. I’m a regular reader of those blogs 🙂

  6. Laurie says:

    Hi Tanleh,

    Thank you for your message – I’m happy to hear from you! I’m glad you found my blog, and wish I could offer ideas and inspiration for you.

    I actually don’t know of any infertility support groups in Vancouver. I did start a group for women called WWAP (Women Who Aren’t Parents), but found it a little depressing. I didn’t know what to do with the group, and didn’t want to focus on being childless! So I let it go.

    Now I have a group called Blossom 🙂 We meet every 3 weeks and work on whatever art projects our hearts desire, from sewing to knitting to painting.

    I’ll forward you my latest Blossom newsletter to your email address, and you can sign up if you want. I’d love to keep in touch, even though I don’t have anything to offer in terms of support groups for couples coping with infertility!


  7. Tanleh says:

    Dear Laurie,
    Hello and Happy New Year to you…

    My heart is racing and I am feeling a little “out of sorts” as I write this message to you this morning. Finding your website, only 5minutes ago has left me feeling… well I’m not quite sure yet. Let me explain… My husband and I, met a tender age when life was throwing us all sorts of curve balls. We have known for 20 years, and we have been together for 10 of them.

    Five years ago we were told that we would not be able to have children. We were told it was male factor. We were devastated. We were hurt. We were wounded. We did not pursue any sort of ART, nor did we adopt. And now we are now realizing that the pain caused by this life experience continues and does not offer closure – as there are constant reminders and expectations from the family, friends, the media, the society, the world around us. We searched desperately for support groups specifically for couples who cannot have children and there are NONE in the lower mainland as far as we know.

    We are writing to you in search of any information you may have about support/networking groups for couples specifically like us – who did not make the choice not to have children, who did not pursue alternatives, but who are still in need of healing. What a serendipitous encounter for me this Sunday morning as I randomly decided to look up “infertility support in Vancouver” before my morning walk. I have researched this in over a year and had nothing more than an “inkling” this morning. I thank you so kindly.
    With heart.

  8. Fran says:

    Happy New Year, Laurie. Thanks for this blog. It’s really one of the best I’ve ever belonged to — one of the Top 5, no doubt! 🙂

    I’m 67 years old and struggling with retirement. Your article on acceptance is taking the anxiety out of my life, and the rest of your blog is helping me to build my life again.

    Thanks so much. And, yes, there are MANY benefits re not having children!

  9. Iz says:

    We had to put our dog down today….heartbreaking but your dog blog pulled me through my tears.
    Thank you for your wisdom, sharing and caring, qualities the world needs more of.
    Best to you and your family,
    Iz (www.rabbisson.com)

  10. Matt says:


    When I came across your article and blog, I couldn’t stop reading! Your story is very inspiring – keep up the great work 🙂

  11. Laurie says:

    Hi Carolyn,

    Thanks for this – how exciting! I appreciate it 🙂


  12. Carolyn M says:

    Hi! I didn’t have your email address to let you know you one a COUPON for $1.00 off the wine that I wrote about this morning on UBC blog entry for the day! So can you contact me with your address at carolyncavies@yahoo.com Thanks and congrats!

  13. Laurie says:


    Thank you so much for your comments! I really appreciate your words, and am very glad you’re here. I’m re-reading Corinthians so I can see what you’re talking about 🙂


  14. Tracy Goodson says:


    Thanks for your honesty! You may not be a traditional publishing success story, but I know that your honest writing has touched the lives of many. I see 2 Corinthians 1 lived out through your writing. What an inspiration you are!!

  15. Laurie says:

    Dear Laura,

    Thank for your interest in interviewing me for your Journalism assignment! However, I am going to Peru in a few hours, and don’t have time to answer your questions.

    I’m sorry I can’t be more helpful — if you can wait until I return on Feb 26, then I can answer your questions then!


  16. Laura Blanc de Silva says:

    Dear Laurie,
    I am taking a Journalism class in College. This week assigment is to write an article about Valentine’s Day and it should have 3 interviews. I started doing research online and I found your excellent blog with a lot of tips that can help me write my article. But in order to do that I have to ask you some questions. There is a lot of info about yourself online so it is hard not to be repetitive. Forgive me if the info I am asking, you have alredy posted. Here they are:

    List your favorites (book, movie or play, quote, poem, website, type of food or individual dish, music genre, song, band or individual musician, perfume, clothing style or designer, etc.)
    What are your greatest stresses and what causes you the most anxiety in your life?
    What is most rewarding about your job; what makes it all worthwhile?
    What are the most critical problems faced by people in your field in this city/state/country? How do you think these problems should be handled?
    What’s the hardest thing for you about being a blogger? How do you address that?
    Favorite weekend activity?
    What’s your favorite funny story about yourself?
    Name one thing about yourself that most people don’t know.
    What makes you laugh?
    Do you have any plans to spend a different Valentine’s day?

    Thanks so much in advance.

    Warm regards,


  17. Laurie says:

    Dear Pete,

    You made my day – thank you so much for your comments! Sometimes I wonder what difference I make, so it’s good to hear from my fellow writers 🙂


  18. pete says:

    Just wanted to let you know that I’ve been reading your blogs on writing for some time now, and I’ve learned so much from you! You were the inspiration that started my desire to self-publish some of my writing, and your advice has been indispensible. I really appreciate your experiences and your willingness to share your advice. Please keep it up, because I know there are a lot more “writers” like me who just need the extra push and advice that you provide to start their career.

  19. Laurie says:

    Hi Dale,

    Thanks for your comment! I think you’re doing such a great thing with your blog – I love the idea of building a community to help people who are bouncing back and healing from heart disease.

    I’ll go check your site out now.


  20. Dale says:


    I just celebrated my one year anniversary from an emergenccy open heart procedure. My blog HeartFeltNews.com is my way of trying to help others in what I refer to as Our Community – those who have experienced heart disease, want to avoid it, or care for someone is dealing with it.

    My brief story is one of ignoring clear and obvious signs that something was very wrong, and very luckily going to the doctor just before I would have had a fatal heart attack – at age 53. I continue my recovery every day and I’m learning every day more about who the members of Our Community are.

    Very few days go by that I don’t think about how lucky I am to have been given a “second chance.” It has bee a humbling experience.

  21. Laurie says:

    Dear Nicola,

    Thank you for being here! I really appreciate your kind words, and hope that you continue to find inspiration and encouragement on this site.

    Some days are certainly heavier and harder than others, aren’t they? I heard Jian Ghomeshi interview a professor yesterday; he said we shouldn’t expect to be happy all the time. Life can’t be all ups — there has to be downs — and we have to learn how to ride the downs.

    I hope you keep in touch during the ups and downs!


  22. Nicola says:

    Laurie, I happened on this site and I’m glad I did, I’m living in North Vancouver and was pleased to see you live nearby! You have amazed and re-inspired me and I want nothing more than to be inspired to become the positive, happy woman I was a few years ago after reading your story. I’ve had some setbacks in the last few years, including losing a lot of money to a dating scam and am suffering still as I struggle to make ends meet (my income is mostly low) after losing my “cushion” to the scam. I’m living alone which I don’t do well, my daughter moved back down the road to live with her dad (and older brother) as it truly is her “home” and I only wanted her to be happy so I let her go. It wasn’t a reflection of my mothering abilities at all. I spend as much time as possible with her and see her most days as she goes to the highschool just down the street from my home, but I miss having her living here. Anyway, I have been with my boyfriend nearly 3 years now and I just posted on the site about his “need to be alone” shutting me out when he’s suffering with anxiety hoping there will be some other women who have similar issues. My boyfriend love each other deeply and are very content and happy when we’re together but he shuts down sometimes. thank you Laurie for being such a great inspiration and role model for me.

  23. Laurie says:

    Thank you so much, Dava! I really appreciate your kind words 🙂

  24. Dava Stewart says:

    You aren’t ONLY the Bounce Back Babe, you are also a Energetic Inspiration. You are one busy lady. Thanks for sharing your trials and successes with us. (Also, the fact that you haven’t been published yet says more about the failure of the industry than your failure as a writer.)

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