Comments on: Articles About Introverts and Introverted Personality Traits http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/ Got goals? Need a push in the right direction? You've come to the right place! Wed, 23 May 2012 15:32:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-21910 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Tue, 14 Jun 2011 22:14:00 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-21910 Hello Textor, I think the first and most important thing is for you to accept yourself as an introvert! It's nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. The sooner you can accept yourself, the happier you'll be. Here's an article to get you started: <a href="http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/the-unhappy-introvert-when-introverted-personality-traits-cause-problems/" rel="nofollow">Unhappy Introverts – When Introversion Causes Life Problems</a> Please feel free to ask me specific questions on any of my articles about introverts, and I'll do my best to help. Blessings, Laurie Hello Textor,

I think the first and most important thing is for you to accept yourself as an introvert! It’s nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. The sooner you can accept yourself, the happier you’ll be.

Here’s an article to get you started:

Unhappy Introverts – When Introversion Causes Life Problems

Please feel free to ask me specific questions on any of my articles about introverts, and I’ll do my best to help.

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: textor http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-21715 textor Wed, 08 Jun 2011 23:03:29 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-21715 hello i'm 21,i'm introverted and i'm really finding some problems.indeed i wasn't introverted when i was child so i had many relationships and i knew many persons.i practised a sport intensively which took a lot of my free time but that allowed me to know many persons.once i stopped this activity i didn't find another passtime. i've tried many thing but they didn't attracted me (that was the total vacancy).at the same time i was an adolescent and at this age most of people(in my environment) want to live their life(drinking alcohol,going to parties,dating with girls...) which wasn't my cup of tea.in fact i'm muslim so i can't do all these things. meanwhile i was more and more lonely and even school relationships that i had weren't deep though they were good. now i'm totally introverted,i've lost the sense of human contact,i prefer stay alone at home in front of TV or PC. my biggest problem occured when i meet one of my view friends:i don't find a difficulty to disscuss with him but our disscussions are all about objectives topics and i try to hide my introverted personality in order to not shock him and to not make him avoid me and that embrasses me a lot. thanks and sorry if my english is not good. hello i’m 21,i’m introverted and i’m really finding some problems.indeed i wasn’t introverted when i was child so i had many relationships and i knew many persons.i practised a sport intensively which took a lot of my free time but that allowed me to know many persons.once i stopped this activity i didn’t find another passtime. i’ve tried many thing but they didn’t attracted me (that was the total vacancy).at the same time i was an adolescent and at this age most of people(in my environment) want to live their life(drinking alcohol,going to parties,dating with girls…) which wasn’t my cup of tea.in fact i’m muslim so i can’t do all these things.
meanwhile i was more and more lonely and even school relationships that i had weren’t deep though they were good.
now i’m totally introverted,i’ve lost the sense of human contact,i prefer stay alone at home in front of TV or PC.
my biggest problem occured when i meet one of my view friends:i don’t find a difficulty to disscuss with him but our disscussions are all about objectives topics and i try to hide my introverted personality in order to not shock him and to not make him avoid me and that embrasses me a lot.
thanks and sorry if my english is not good.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-20683 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Tue, 17 May 2011 18:47:54 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-20683 Hi Travis, Yes, you're normal! I think one of the biggest things introverts feel is that they're strange, weird, or abnormal. But feeling like a fish out of water is totally normal. If you'd like some tips, you might find this article helpful. I wrote it for guys just like you :-) <a href="http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/how-to-fit-in-with-your-girlfriends-friends-and-family/" rel="nofollow">How to Fit in With Your Girlfriend’s Friends and Family</a> All good things, Laurie Hi Travis,

Yes, you’re normal! I think one of the biggest things introverts feel is that they’re strange, weird, or abnormal. But feeling like a fish out of water is totally normal.

If you’d like some tips, you might find this article helpful. I wrote it for guys just like you :-)

How to Fit in With Your Girlfriend’s Friends and Family

All good things,
Laurie

]]> By: Travis http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-20627 Travis Mon, 16 May 2011 08:10:18 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-20627 Hello; I am an introvert as well, and my girlfriend is an extrovert, with quite a group of friends, and I kind of feel lost in a sea of friend she has. I am wondering if that is normal to feel that way. I am by no means questioning if she loves me, but I am questioning weather or not it's normal that I feel like I'm one fish out of a school of fish. Hello;

I am an introvert as well, and my girlfriend is an extrovert, with quite a group of friends, and I kind of feel lost in a sea of friend she has. I am wondering if that is normal to feel that way. I am by no means questioning if she loves me, but I am questioning weather or not it’s normal that I feel like I’m one fish out of a school of fish.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-18980 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Tue, 05 Apr 2011 21:46:09 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-18980 Hello Sarah, Thanks for your honesty -- it sounds like you have alot of self-insight! I don't think being distracted and letting your mind wander is a "flaw" or weakness of introverts. I think that's a human trait, something that we all deal with. We can train ourselves to focus on other people's words and conversations -- listening well (really HEARING) is part of being sociable, likeable, and a good friend to people we love! In other words, losing interest in conversations isn't part of being introverted...it's part of being human. But part of being a loving human being with strong relationships is training yourself to listen well. When you think you're getting too "nosy", you could warn people! For instance, say, "Forgive me if I'm being too nosy, but..." or "If this question is too personal, you don't have to answer..." Does this help? I hope so :-) Laurie Hello Sarah,

Thanks for your honesty — it sounds like you have alot of self-insight!

I don’t think being distracted and letting your mind wander is a “flaw” or weakness of introverts. I think that’s a human trait, something that we all deal with. We can train ourselves to focus on other people’s words and conversations — listening well (really HEARING) is part of being sociable, likeable, and a good friend to people we love!

In other words, losing interest in conversations isn’t part of being introverted…it’s part of being human. But part of being a loving human being with strong relationships is training yourself to listen well.

When you think you’re getting too “nosy”, you could warn people! For instance, say, “Forgive me if I’m being too nosy, but…” or “If this question is too personal, you don’t have to answer…”

Does this help? I hope so :-)

Laurie

]]> By: Sarah http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-18900 Sarah Sat, 02 Apr 2011 02:12:43 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-18900 I'm an introvert and a very detailed person. I often find it hard to communicate my thoughts as the other person might be offended by what I say. I don't mean to say things in a "rude way" and with all the good intentions I have by conveying my message it's often misinterpretation occurring. I tend to get confused then. My boyfriend and close friends sometimes say I think too much and I go too much into details - i'm not nosy, but for example it's when i ask an opinion about something I need to get very precised information to be able to be clear in my mind about what the person is saying. And my other "flaw" is that I tend to get distracted or lose interest in conversations. I don't know if it's a flaw or just a characteristic of Introverts? having the mind constantly wandering :-s I’m an introvert and a very detailed person. I often find it hard to communicate my thoughts as the other person might be offended by what I say. I don’t mean to say things in a “rude way” and with all the good intentions I have by conveying my message it’s often misinterpretation occurring. I tend to get confused then. My boyfriend and close friends sometimes say I think too much and I go too much into details – i’m not nosy, but for example it’s when i ask an opinion about something I need to get very precised information to be able to be clear in my mind about what the person is saying. And my other “flaw” is that I tend to get distracted or lose interest in conversations. I don’t know if it’s a flaw or just a characteristic of Introverts? having the mind constantly wandering :-s

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-10293 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sat, 19 Jun 2010 15:31:41 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-10293 Tonya, I'm sorry your boyfriend couldn't open up and get close to you. But, it's great that you had the courage and strength to ask if he could give you what you need! Many women just let their relationships limp along, ignoring their own needs and wishes. I hope you're doing well. Blessings, Laurie Tonya,

I’m sorry your boyfriend couldn’t open up and get close to you. But, it’s great that you had the courage and strength to ask if he could give you what you need! Many women just let their relationships limp along, ignoring their own needs and wishes.

I hope you’re doing well.

Blessings,
Laurie

]]> By: Tonya Harper http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-10189 Tonya Harper Wed, 16 Jun 2010 20:37:03 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-10189 Hi Laurie, my situation was a lot like Faye's. I recently ended my relationship with an introvert because he felt pressure and redflags, the more i tried to find a place in his life. Like Faye, my boyfriend just would not let me in. The quality of time was lacking in our relationship. He was there in body but emotionally and mentally he was somewhere else. Often tired and moody and things i offered to do to help ease the stress, he would never let me do. We discuss it and he'd say that it sounds like a good idea, but when it came to implementing the suggestion to make things better, he would back out and i'm left feeling fustrated and nothing resolved. There was no romance, he didnt like to hold hands or talk about his feelings or previous relationships. He made it very difficult to get to know him. After 5 months i felt we were no closer than when we first met, so i simply asked him if he couldnt give me the quality of time i need and deserve, just let me know! Took 4 days, but he came back and said, he could not give it to me. Hi Laurie, my situation was a lot like Faye’s. I recently ended my relationship with an introvert because he felt pressure and redflags, the more i tried to find a place in his life. Like Faye, my boyfriend just would not let me in. The quality of time was lacking in our relationship. He was there in body but emotionally and mentally he was somewhere else. Often tired and moody and things i offered to do to help ease the stress, he would never let me do. We discuss it and he’d say that it sounds like a good idea, but when it came to implementing the suggestion to make things better, he would back out and i’m left feeling fustrated and nothing resolved. There was no romance, he didnt like to hold hands or talk about his feelings or previous relationships. He made it very difficult to get to know him. After 5 months i felt we were no closer than when we first met, so i simply asked him if he couldnt give me the quality of time i need and deserve, just let me know! Took 4 days, but he came back and said, he could not give it to me.

]]> By: Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-9794 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Sun, 09 May 2010 20:49:55 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-9794 Hi Faye, Hey, neat to hear that you've been to Bowen! It is nice this time of year...very quiet compared to Vancouver. Interesting questions you've asked, about introverts. First, I think that being closed off and difficult to read isn't necessarily a sign of an introvert. Even an extrovert can be closed off and difficult to communicate with! Being difficult to connect with is a different issue than having introverted personality traits. You asked how you can show your boyfriend that you understand; I think the best way to show him is to tell him! Be honest with him -- tell him you'd like to strike a healthy balance between having space and time to recharge, and spending time together as a couple. Tell him how thoughtful and wise he appears to you! The more you talk about your relationship and introverted traits, the stronger your relationship will be. Also -- I encourage you to examine why you feel like you're infringing on your boyfriend's space. I once dated a guy and I felt exactly like that....it was not a good feeling, and definitely wasn't a good relationship. Not that I'm saying your relationship isn't good -- I'm just saying that if you feel like you're infringing, then it might be good to figure out the cause of it. Is it you being super-sensitive, or is he unable to let you in somehow? I don't know....but it may be worth thinking about... I hope this helps -- let me know how things go! I'm always here :-) All good things, Laurie .-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen´s last blog post ...Establish Good Financial Habits – 6 Ways to Make Money Saving Tips Stick =-. Hi Faye,

Hey, neat to hear that you’ve been to Bowen! It is nice this time of year…very quiet compared to Vancouver.

Interesting questions you’ve asked, about introverts. First, I think that being closed off and difficult to read isn’t necessarily a sign of an introvert. Even an extrovert can be closed off and difficult to communicate with! Being difficult to connect with is a different issue than having introverted personality traits.

You asked how you can show your boyfriend that you understand; I think the best way to show him is to tell him! Be honest with him — tell him you’d like to strike a healthy balance between having space and time to recharge, and spending time together as a couple.

Tell him how thoughtful and wise he appears to you! The more you talk about your relationship and introverted traits, the stronger your relationship will be.

Also — I encourage you to examine why you feel like you’re infringing on your boyfriend’s space. I once dated a guy and I felt exactly like that….it was not a good feeling, and definitely wasn’t a good relationship. Not that I’m saying your relationship isn’t good — I’m just saying that if you feel like you’re infringing, then it might be good to figure out the cause of it. Is it you being super-sensitive, or is he unable to let you in somehow? I don’t know….but it may be worth thinking about…

I hope this helps — let me know how things go! I’m always here :-)

All good things,
Laurie
.-= Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen´s last blog post …Establish Good Financial Habits – 6 Ways to Make Money Saving Tips Stick =-.

]]> By: Faye http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/articles-about-introverts-and-introverted-personality-traits/comment-page-1/#comment-9771 Faye Sat, 08 May 2010 18:12:51 +0000 http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/?p=394#comment-9771 Hello, I've been reading some of your articles about introvert/ extrovert relationships. I found most of them quite helpful. My boyfriend of almost a year is very introverted, I am normally introverted but I have found in our relationship that I have come out as the more extroverted person. To be honest, he still seems more comfortable in groups than I do. While reading your articles as well as others and comments about the articles, I found that most of the "introverts" that commented find extroverts too chatty, or rude. Do you think that that is the case? I often feel like I am infringing on my boyfriend's space no matter how much I try to respect it. He says that there are many traits I have that he envies. But I don't think he knows how thoughtful and wise he appears to me most of the time. How am I supposed to know if an introvert likes me if they're so closed off and won't make a move? How can I show that I understand and want to respect him even if he desires space and alonetime to recharge? Thank you for any help you can offer. Btw, Bowen Island must be getting really nice this time of the year. I went there a few summers ago :) Hello,

I’ve been reading some of your articles about introvert/ extrovert relationships. I found most of them quite helpful.

My boyfriend of almost a year is very introverted, I am normally introverted but I have found in our relationship that I have come out as the more extroverted person. To be honest, he still seems more comfortable in groups than I do.

While reading your articles as well as others and comments about the articles, I found that most of the “introverts” that commented find extroverts too chatty, or rude. Do you think that that is the case?

I often feel like I am infringing on my boyfriend’s space no
matter how much I try to respect it. He says that there are many traits I have that he envies. But I don’t think he knows how thoughtful and wise he appears to me most of the time.

How am I supposed to know if an introvert likes me if they’re so closed off and won’t make a
move? How can I show that I understand and want to respect him even if he desires space and alonetime to recharge?

Thank you for any help you can offer. Btw, Bowen Island must be
getting really nice this time of the year. I went there a few summers ago :)

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