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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

I’m a blogger, full-time student, and adventurous writer who loves to get up at five in the morning (seriously – I’m a morning lark!). I live, romp with my dog, blog, and study in Vancouver, BC.

As a freelance writer, I’ve been published in a wide range of publications, including Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More.

But, my “Quips and Tips” blog occupy me full-time. I am the Bounce Back Babe because I’ve survived a schizophrenic mother, foster homes, neglect, poverty, abuse, a three year stint in Africa, and infertility — and yet I’m happy, well-adjusted (more or less), and very grateful to be here.

 

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About me, things you probably don’t know…

  • I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Language Arts and Journalism at Rosslyn Academy – an American school in Nairobi.
  • My degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta.
  • As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of publications, including Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More. I also wrote monthly articles for BC Women’s Hospital in Vancouver.
  • I earn a living from my “Quips and Tips” blogs and ebooks.
  • I’m a full-time grad student at the University of British Columbia (UBC), in Vancouver. I’m working towards my MSW (Master’s of Social Work).
  • My husband and I can’t have kids because of azoospermia, and chose not to get fertility treatments (other than IUI, which is a simple little procedure).

To learn more, read Why I’m The Bounce Back Babe.

My Quips and Tips Blogs

Quips and Tips for Life’s Ups and Downs covers everything from overcoming career obstacles to making more money. Articles range from toilet training your cat to the best investments for your money. This site helps readers achieve their personal, professional, and financial goals.

Quips and Tips for Successful Writers is all about writing, editing, getting published — and blogging! There, I combine quips from famous published writers with practical writing advice. I write about everything from how to grab your reader by the throat to reasons book manuscripts are rejected.

Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships – I answer readers’ questions about love and marriage — and all articles contain practical tips for couples. My most popular article on that site is about dealing with a toxic ex-wife.

Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility – because infertility is a drag, but it doesn’t have to make us bitter, angry, or depressed. My husband and I are riding the infertility roller coaster, but it hasn’t destroyed our dreams or crushed our spirits. On that site, I write articles about getting pregnant, dealing with childlessness, and even improving sperm count.

Quips and Tips From the Working World is where you’ll find job profiles and interviews with people at work, such as private investigators, casting directors, university professors, and B & B owners. Each profile includes the best and worst parts of the job, career tips, salary expectations, and education requirements.

Quips and Tips for Giving Gifts was created to help people buy the right gift for the right occasion.

My Quips and Tips eBooks

The “quips and tips” in my ebooks are not the same as the “quips and tips” on my blogs! All my ebooks include information and advice from a wide variety of sources.

My ebooks aren’t just my tips — they’re me tapping into the brains of smart, experienced, educated, helpful people, and sharing what I learned.

75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love - to help people let go of the past and move on with their lives. Letting go is one of the most painful things you’ll ever do…but there are ways to make it easier.

80 Ways to Say “I Love You” - to help people like me, who struggle to find the right holiday, anniversary, and birthday gifts for their partners! This ebook is about more than gifts, though — it’s about saying “I love you” and building a more meaningful relationship in small, incredibly important ways every day.

Letting Go of an Animal You Love - for people who are struggling to cope with pet loss. I interviewed veterinarians, grief experts, and pet owners who loved and lost their animals. This ebook contains 75 tips for healing after pet loss.

75 Ways to Make (More) Money Blogging - to help writers and bloggers make money doing what they love! If you spend time and energy on your blog, you deserve to earn a few bucks for your efforts. This ebook isn’t just about making money blogging, it’s about building a better blog.

73 Ways to Fire Up (or Just Fire!) the Muse - to help writers and bloggers overcome fear, self-doubt, criticism, and uncertainty. After all, who wants to read age 95 and wish they had written that bestselling novel? Who wants to die with unfulfilled dreams and desires? Not me.

To learn more about me (as if this weren’t enough!), visit The Adventurous Writer. And, feel free to ask me a question on any of my articles (but remember that I can’t offer personal advice, and I may not answer every question).

All good things,

Laurie

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  1. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Thanks for your comments – it’s great to hear from you!

    I’m sorry I can’t offer personal advice (especially to you, Vix – I hope you got my email encouraging you to get help in person).

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  2. bill says:

    i love you for your help . i wish to meet you just to give you a kiss on the cheek. you helped me deal my loss of my lil buddy. i know you dont reply to emails but as i look at your pic and see your smile i would love to have your friendship. keep doing what your good at. whenever i miss my lil buddy i look at your site and read the testimonials, ” leak” a bit, then feel better. i love you for that. can i give you a picture of my dog?
    billy

  3. Linda Liu says:

    You are great, Laurie!

  4. Vix says:

    Hi Laurie

    What a fantastic website and resource.

    I have Mental Health issues. Ive always had them since childhood. I was physically and emotionally abused by both my parents and left home at the age of 16. There is some low grade sexual abuse also from my father and uncles side, my dad used to give me ‘movie star kisses’ where he’d basically passionately kiss me at a young age. I reported this to my mother but it has never been acknowledged, my parents have been married 40 plus years and I don’t want to ruin their lives by confronting them about it anyway. I was horrifically bullied at school and was banned by other parents from associating with their children. I was taller than the other children and matured quicker so if I fought back I was always seen as the ‘bad one’ and punished. I’d like to add I come from a nice middle class home and had two professionally employed parents. My mother worked full time from a young age and my sister was given the task of looking after me at the age of 11 after school, I would have been about 8 at the time. I got fat, had no hobbies and no friends. By 18 I was working as an ‘escort’ taking 28 grams of speed a week and my family didn’t know where I was for 8 months.

    I’ve had several suicide attempts the first at 15 and have been in a private rehab / mental health hospital twice at ages 15 and more recently this year.

    I am currently drug and alcohol free apart from prescribed antidepressant medication Lexapro of which I take 20 mg’s daily.

    I have had stages of stability but have had many abusive relationships and bad experiences. I have gained qualifications and had quite well paying jobs, but this year after yet another abusive relationship I fell apart. I understand the cycle of violence and that DV isn’t always black and white. I was told to leave and choose my family or partner. I chose my family but unless I am who they ‘want me to be’ Im ousted, especially by my sister.
    My parents have always been there to ‘catch me’ when convenient, but I am basically blamed for everything and told I am a ‘problem’. My sister has her own issues and sides with my parents and I am accused of ‘controlling the family”, given I stay away from my family most of the time Im unsure how I do this.

    Because I have left DV relationship and am currently neither stable nor well enough to work, which is a big thing for me, as Ive worked 3 jobs before to enable myself to live. I had to return home to my parents to live with them or be homeless when I left previous relationship. I had a dog whom I love like my own child and limited options. I realise I am now 36 and a grown up, however living at home is like living in hell. I constantly blow up, and try an confront my family regarding the past, obviously this makes me very unpopular. I don’t know who I am angry at anymore.

    I feel betrayed by my parents for involving and pushing away my sister. Admittedly my sister has her own issues, but my family are also very materialistic, very judgmental people who are very hard regarding peoples humility.

    I recently moved out of my parents into a ‘emergency accommodation’, I also realise in DV situations I may have been far from perfect myself and I don’t walk around wearing a ‘victim badge’.

    Im 36 and I hope to go back and study next year and work in MH and with people affected by DV.

    I need your advise, my sister has rejected me and I dont understand why as I have not done anything to her directly or indirectly. Her inability to be objective hurts me like nothing else and quite frankly I think im better off coping with a few hard months and the heart ache we may never be friends again than being continually told what a shit person I am. They dont understand my PTSD, social anxiety and major depression yet I struggle to understand my family and their needs daily.

    I love my family but need to move on. What can I do?

    With much love and thanks

    VB (from over the sea Australia) xxxx

  5. Karen says:

    Hi Laurie

    I was looking for info about introverts and saw your site. I took the test and well I am an introvert. But I have another problem, social phobia some of the traits are similar to introvertism so now do I know if I have both problems? I recently got internet and started my own blog. And it has been a nice outlet for me. Hearing that you presonly are an introvert and have not let it affect you is an inspiration. One aways feels if you are the only one suffering this problem, until you find you are not alone.

    Karen

  6. Dear Shri,

    Thanks for sharing your story – I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I know how hard it is to give your dog away.

    I wrote this article, because we had to give our adopted dog away about a month after we adopted her:

    Should You Give Your Dog Away? 5 Things to Consider

    After we gave her away, I wanted her back so bad! I even went to the SPCA and asked to see her, but they said it’d be best if we just let go. They said we decided to give her away for the right reasons, and that we shouldn’t second guess ourselves now.

    The SPCA also told me to stop beating myself up. They said that we made the best decision at the time, and that we should move on.

    I can’t tell you if you should get Kromi back…but I do know that the first 3 weeks after giving our dog Jazz away were VERY difficult. I cried 2 or 3 times a day — I work from home, so felt her absence very painfully and closely. I wanted her back for at least a month after we gave her up, and I still wonder if we should’ve kept her. It’s been almost a year, and I’m still feeling guilty and second guessing my decision to give her away.

    Perhaps you’re going through the same thing I did: the guilt and heartache over missing your dog is causing you to second guess your decision. If so, then you need to mourn his absence – because it is a big loss even though he was too much for you – and let him go.

    I hope this helps…something tells me you gave Kromi up for the right reasons, and now you’re grieving the loss. That’s normal, but painful!

    Let me know how you’re doing.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  7. Hi Laurie says:

    hi,

    It was comforting to read some of the posts on your blog. I’m shri…., a month back we received a labrador puppy… Kromi, in our home. We had him for a month and due to several reasons, we had to give him away to a friend. But I miss him so much and am also torn with feelings of guilt as to whether we did the right thing by giving him away. We both work and have very active lives after work so we felt it unfair that Kromi would be by himself for long periods of time. we also thought that as a couple we woudl not be abel to cope with him but we surprisingly did very well with him and very easily too…I wonder if I should take him back… as he has only been goen for 4 days.

  8. tan Balili says:

    Hi Laurie,
    i wonder if we can collaborate in our new start up business where we will put up an online dating site with a SERIOUS INTENT OF MARRIAGE based on “scientific matching systems’ like eharmony. But our focus is really towards finding a mate to marry not just dating because we believe in the sanctity of marriage.
    So, i wonder if you can help us design a system of matching based on your experience as a psychology grad and expeience writer.
    thanks and hoping for your favorable response.
    Tan Balili

  9. Heiddi,

    Thank you so much for your kind words! I can’t tell you what a boost they gave me – I really appreciate it.

    Have you read the Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, and tried her Morning Pages? You write 3 pages first thing in the morning, every day. I’ve been doing it for about 6 weeks now, and feel more centered, balanced, happy, and confident. It’s amazing how writing the “dreck” (stream of consciousness, whatever comes into your head) can clear the decks for the good stuff. It’s like it fills your well so you have more to give. You can see clearly, and you’re more grounded.

    Since writing the MPs, I’ve developed an extreme sense of curiosity about life. I’m less anxious, fearful, insecure, and worried! I’ve replaced that with thoughts like “I wonder how this will turn out?” and “What will happen next?” and “I can’t wait to see how I deal with that!” It’s an effective way to deal with many of life’s challenges :-)

    I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, my friend.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  10. Heiddi says:

    Hi Laurie,

    I just stopped by reading through a few of your articles. I just wanted to share that I really love your work and want to be like you when I grow up in my writing. I’m struggling now with some personal challenges that are getting in the way of my confidence in everything that I’m doing; not only my writing. I wanted to tell you keep up the great work because you truly are helping and inspiring others. :)

    Heiddi

  11. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hello Arianna,

    Thanks for your kind comments, and your question!

    I wrote an article for you (there’s too much to say for this comments section)…

    Tips for Bloggers Who Want to Help and Inspire Readers

    I hope it helps, and welcome your thoughts here or there. If you prefer that I don’t name you or link to your blog in the article, please let me know! I’d be happy to snuff you out :-)

    All good things,
    Laurie

  12. Arianna says:

    Hi Laurie,

    I just saw your biography in the August issue of Alive magazine and decided to go check out your blog. I’m very impressed with your work.

    I thought I would ask for your advice as I just graduated with my Master’s Degree in Educational Psychology. I have recently created a blog to bring awareness about issues (mainly pertaining to self-esteem,bullying, and sport psychology). I would like to use it as a forum to educate and empower individuals to never give up.

    I was just wondering how you got started in this area. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks! Hope you have a great long weekend.

    Arianna

  13. Jeff Guenther says:

    Hi Laurie,

    Looks like you get this request a lot but I’d like to be a guest writer on your blog. I am a professional therapist in Portland and I have just started to write an advice and opinion column at http://www.shrinkythink.com

    I would be honored if I could write an article on psychology for you. Let me know what you think.

    Jeff Guenther, LPC

  14. Hi Tiersa and Alyssa,

    Yes, I’d be happy to have you guest post! Here are my guidelines:

    Guest Posting Guidelines and Benefits – Quips and Tips Blogs

    All good things,
    Laurie

  15. Tiersa Buckley says:

    Hi Laurie,

    I’m a writer for ChristianDating.org and would love to publish a guest post with attached bio link. My article is related to online dating. Please let me know where I can submit to if possible. Thank you.

  16. Alyssa says:

    Hello,

    My name is Alyssa Jacobs. I have been reading through your blog and finding it very interesting. I love to write, and i think I could make a great contribution to your page. If this is something that interests you, then shoot me a quick email when you get a chance.

    Kind regards,
    Alyssa

    AlyssaMJacobs@gmail.com

  17. Anne Davies says:

    Hello Laurie,
    I was wondering if you accepted guest articles on your site? I have an idea that I feel would be a great fit for you and your readers.

    Email me if interested, thanks!

    Kind Regards
    Anne

  18. Thanks for your interest in guest blogging for Quips and Tips! I’ve emailed you personally.

    Cheers,
    Laurie

  19. Kimberly says:

    Hi Laurie,

    I would like to get in touch with you about an idea I have for a guest post for the Finances section on your site. Could you send me an e-mail when you get a chance?

    Thanks so much!
    Kimberly

  20. David Spader says:

    Hi,

    My name is David Spader. I’m a freelance blogger who writes for SavingsAccount.org.

    Do you think you’d be interested in a guest article from me?

    I’m doing this to help get my name and my site known, so I’m happy to write about anything you’d like to suggest.

    Here’s some of my work:

    http://www.savingsaccount.org/frugal-saver/savings-accounts-aren%E2%80%99t-always-the-ideal-place-to-store-your-cash-assets/
    http://www.savingsaccount.org/frugal-saver/the-history-of-the-fdic/
    http://www.savingsaccount.org/frugal-saver/earn-100-with-new-checking-at-chase/

    Hope to hear from you soon.

    Best Regards,

    David Spader

  21. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hello Ryan,

    I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to get back to you — I’ve been on vacation, and am taking some time to catch up!

    Yes, you can use the article about breaking bad habits and creating new ones in a print format. Please don’t use it online, okay?

    All good things,
    Laurie

  22. Ryan says:

    Laurie,

    My wife a friend and I own a small yoga studio in San Diego, and are constantly talking with people about their health and lifestyle. I came across your article “10 tips for making new habits and breaking old habits” I was wondering if I could use this article, with the proper citation of course, in some of the material we give to students and clients who work with us personally to help improve their overall state of health and wellbeing.

    Thank you,

    Ryan Glidden CPT RYT HLC1
    MOSAIC
    San Diego, CA.

  23. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hi Amy,

    I’ve sent you an email.

    Thanks!
    Laurie

  24. Amy Lewis says:

    Hi,
    I am Amy Lewis and a financial writer. I have checked your blog theadventurouswriter.com and found some quite interesting articles on Finance with lots of information. I would be highly obliged if you allow me to do relevant informative guests post in your blog. I’ll very glad to be your guests writer and informative content for your blog.

  25. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hello Mathew,

    Thanks for your kind invitation! I’m afraid I don’t have time to write content for other sites, but I do accept guest authors. Let me know if you’d like to write a guest post for Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals.

    Laurie

  26. mathew green says:

    Hi Laurie

    My name is Mathew Green and I am a primary teacher based in Sydney Australia. I have been looking at your site for a while now and I wanted to congratulate you on some wonderful and inspiring content. Last year I started a financial literacy website called mycents (mycents.com.au), the site aims to help young people to made sound and educated financial decisions.

    I am not sure if you are looking for contributors for your website, or if you are interested in writing content for mycents.com.au, but if you are please let me know.

    It would be great to hear you thoughts.

    If you would like to view the facebook page please go to http://on.fb.me/ex6Bie of via twitter @mycents_today

    I hope to hear from you soon

    Mathew Green
    Mathew@mycents.com.aU

  27. Josh Johnson says:

    Hey Mrs Laurie could you help me out with your opinion, I would greatly appreciate it. Why do you think my dad checks the oil and water in my moms car for her once a month when she is the one that drives her car and pays for it? This is something I have always wondered but too embarassed to ask them myself.

  28. Doreen Wade says:

    You have two articles I would love to publish in my on line newsmagazine.

    Your Turkey Roasting Tips
    Your 5 Healthy Holiday Gifts

    Would you give me permission. I for November one for December

    Check out my website so you will know what I am about.

  29. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen says:

    Hi Sherry,

    Thanks for your request — I’m honored! I’ve emailed you directly.

    Tally ho,
    Laurie

  30. Sherry says:

    Hi Laurie,

    I’m an editor at Parents.com and I’m working on a piece on how to tell kids about breast cancer for Breast Cancer Month. I came across your piece on telling kids about cancer: http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/telling-kids-about-cancer-ways-make-it-easier-to-say-mom-has-cancer/.

    I would love to know if you would be intersted in allowing Parents.com to reprint the piece while also tweaking it for our site. I’m hoping for a quick turnaround on the piece, so if you would email me back by Monday. 10/11, I would appreciate it. We can discuss more details then.

    Thank you,
    Sherry

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