Increasing your body confidence will make you happier and sexier! These ways to love your body the way it is are inspired by women are confident in their bodies, who have fully accepted their bodies, minds, and selves.
They have regrets and flaws – and they’re honest and vulnerable! Their authenticity makes them beautiful.
Before the tips, a quip:
“Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?” – Fanny Brice.
Being authentically you is the only way to create a fulfilling, happy life. If you’re struggling with self-esteem and self-acceptance, read This Is Who I Am: Our Beauty in All Shapes and Sizes by Roseanne Olson. It’s a book of pictures of real women, and it’ll help you get confident with your body the way it is right now.
And check out these tips for increasing your body confidence…
Body Confidence – 10 Ways to Love Your Body the Way It Is
Look at pictures of REAL women
Seeing the female bodies and body parts in This is Who I Am: Our Beauty in All Shapes and Sizes has definitely changed how I see my own body. Women have so many different shapes and sizes: tall, heavy, tattoo’d, thin, blonde, black, varicose vein’d, smooth, bumpy….but we don’t usually see each other’s bodies. We see the perfectly air-brushed impossible bodies in women’s magazines, but we don’t see REAL women. This is a major tip for increasing your body confidence: look at normal women and remember that we all have flaws.
Accept that you won’t love EVERY body part
You can accept yourself and be yourself, and still dislike certain parts of your body and personality. June says, “I don’t like my body at all but that doesn’t mean I don’t love myself.” And 45 year old Carrie Kay says, “I love my tattoos but I wish I didn’t have them.” Love yourself as a whole woman. Acknowledge and accept your self-perceived flaws. Find ways to increase your natural beauty without slathering on the makeup.
Realize there is no perfect body – only good health
“I stopped the bulimia when I realized that life is not all about trying to mold yourself into what society perceives you ‘should’ be,” says Gerrie, 29. “Striving for the perfect body is not worthy destroying your health.” Focus on being active, healthy, fit, and fulfilled. Your appearance is one part of who you are – and it’s not even the most important part! Learning how to be yourself, increasing your body confidence, and winning your struggles with self-esteem are far more important than having clear skin.
Shake negativity off
“I don’t let things bother me, and I don’t care what people think anymore,” says 40 year old June. “If I lose weight, it’s only for me and no one else. I just love being me.” Let go of what other people think! And, keep practicing different ways to increase your body confidence.
Realize that increasing body confidence is a lifetime challenge
“Every hour of the day I work to keep this new body in line,” says 48 year old Susan. “It frustrates me that this is a lifetime challenge.” To increase your body confidence, realize that it’s not about losing 60 pounds or getting that business degree and living happily ever after. Staying fit, healthy, and fulfilled is something you’ll have to work at daily.
See the value in your bodily scars
“My scar has helped me choose men who are kind and good,” says Sarah, 29 years old. Your self-perceived flaws can lead you to make good choices and smart decisions. If you let them, your scars can improve your life.
Appreciate different types of beauty in women’s bodies
“What I didn’t realize is that there isn’t one kind of beauty. There isn’t one person or group of people that possesses the monopoly on beauty,” says 33 year old Jennifer. “There isn’t one face, body, hair, eye or skin color that is the definition of beauty. Now I know there’s an infinite amount of beauty – it can be found in the way a person moves, a well-sculpted arm, a graceful neck, lustrous hair, compassionate eyes, hardworking hands, a soothing voice, an enthusiastic heart.”
See the funny bits of your body
“If the only women you see are in glossy retouched magazine ads or in the movies, it would behoove you to visit a locker room or spa as part of your routine,” says Anne, 50 years old. “There you’ll see that bodies are actually hilarious. Don’t take yours too seriously.” To increase your body confidence as a women, realize that beauty really does come in all shapes and size. Remember that you can look beautiful without makeup.
Set limits – learn physical and emotional discipline
“I don’t know what the secret is to accepting and enjoying one’s body, but I think it has to do with limits,” says 44 year old Rose. “Putting limits on food as well as on negative thoughts.” Learning to be yourself isn’t just about eating, thinking, and whatever you want. Improving your body confidence is about setting boundaries – and sticking to them.
Focus on your life!
“I’m too busy to dwell on problems,” says 95 year old Alice. Instead of focusing on what you WISH was true (weight, height, education, relationships) – focus on setting goals and pursuing your dreams. Get busy. Get a life. The more you focus on what you want to achieve, the less you’ll compare yourself to others – and the happier you’ll be.
For more natural beauty tips, read How to Feel Beautiful No Matter What You Look Like.
Books for Women Who Need Confidence
- Do You Have the Guts to Be Beautiful?
- This Is Who I Am: Our Beauty in All Shapes and Sizes
- Ambition Is Not a Dirty Word: A Woman’s Guide to Earning Her Worth and Achieving Her Dreams
If you have any questions or tips for increasing your body confidence, please share below…
I'm glad you're here! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; my husband Bruce and I live in Vancouver, BC with our critters. We can't have kids, and are learning to accept whatever life brings - both good and bad. I have an MSW (Master of Social Work) from UBC, and degrees in Education and Psychology. I hope you say hello below - I can't give relationship advice, but writing can bring you clarity and insight.